My ex had her baby last night...

[Jilly]

Originally Posted by luv

Quite true, and the same goes for women letting men walk all over them. Never good. Neither person should have "control" of the relationship. As I've learned, each needs to be their own person. Don't look for someone who completes you. Instead, look for someone who compliments you.

The really hard part of that statement though, Luv....is some people have no idea who they are to begin with, so how would you know what compliments you? That's the thing....QUIT LOOKING at everyone else and start looking at YOU... (that wasn't directed at you, Luv, you was just the only pronoun that seemed logical to use)

[luv]

Originally Posted by Jilly

The really hard part of that statement though, Luv....is some people have no idea who they are to begin with, so how would you know what compliments you? That's the thing....QUIT LOOKING at everyone else and start looking at YOU... (that wasn't directed at you, Luv, you was just the only pronoun that seemed logical to use)

Exactly. If you don't know who you are, you have no right sharing yourself with someone else. If you don't know who you are, then you can't expect them to figure it out for you.

Originally Posted by luv

Exactly. If you don't know who you are, you have no right sharing yourself with someone else. If you don't know who you are, then you can't expect them to figure it out for you.

Well, that's not exactly true. My wife figured out exactly who I am and she won't let me forget. I didn't even know I liked laundry until she pointed it out to me.

[Pants]

People actually actually know who or what they are? I thought that was a life long quest... hmm.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by Metrolike

People actually actually know who or what they are? I thought that was a life long quest... hmm.

Yeah, it's the kind of crap some women believe, and it's a key reason they can't drive a car or a relationship.

[Pants]

Originally Posted by Brock

Yeah, it's the kind of crap some women believe, and it's a key reason they can't drive a car or a relationship.

Holy shit.

[Jilly]

Originally Posted by Metrolike

People actually actually know who or what they are? I thought that was a life long quest... hmm.

I know exactly who I am....I improve every day or find new flaws, but I know the essence of who I am what can change, what won't change, what I don't want to change...my worldview, etc. It's not made up. I really believe that's the only thing that makes relationships work is loving each other in spite of all those things that make up who we are, bad and good.