Life parenting question - Page 2

KCKID58 · 07-06-2010, 01:20 PM

you catch your 17 year old smoking pot in your driveway, do you call the police and scare the crap out of him. or what would you do?

**Old Dog** · 07-06-2010, 01:39 PM

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and then do the opposite

SDChiefs · 07-06-2010, 01:41 PM

Id tell him to puff, puff, pass.

ForeverChiefs58 · 07-06-2010, 01:43 PM

don't call cops, esp if you support him and would have to pay to bail him out, cost of lawyer etc. have serious talk with just you two, maybe do a weekend getaway just you two where you would have the time to explain your feelings in detail to them. JMO

**Iowanian** · 07-06-2010, 01:45 PM

Use 3 fingers of a 5 finger death punch.

**The Franchise** · 07-06-2010, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

bust balls for not having the decency to smoke it somewhere else.

This.

If you really have no problem with him smoking it......then tell him that he needs to be smarter and smoke it somewhere where he can't get easily busted.

If you have a problem with him smoking it.....then tell him that.

Frazod · 07-06-2010, 01:49 PM

Wow. That's just brazen. I hope he was already stoned before doing something that stupid. Had I done that, my dad would probably still be in jail for his response.

I'd say it's up to you to come down on him like the Anvil of ****ing Death, and it should be his friends place to say "Don't smoke pot where your dad can see you, dumbass!"

Jilly · 07-06-2010, 01:51 PM

I would think that if it's an issue that's affecting his daily life - poor grades, disrespect, holding a job.... then more needs to happen than just a "talk". Don't know if I would call the police though.

But if it's a one, two time deal....just have a talk with him about why and how often.

Mr. Plow · 07-06-2010, 01:52 PM

My first question to you would be what is your opinion on your 17 year old son smoking weed.....then I'd go from there.

sedated · 07-06-2010, 01:52 PM

only call the cops if you have bail money and are a complete asshole. Cops don't play along with parenting "scare" tactics, they will take his ass to jail and not think twice about it.

Tylerthigpen!1! · 07-06-2010, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by ForeverChiefs58

don't call cops, esp if you support him and would have to pay to bail him out, cost of lawyer etc. have serious talk with just you two, maybe do a weekend getaway just you two where you would have the time to explain your feelings in detail to them. JMO

This.
Granted I'm a 19 year old boy so take it for what it's worth.

tooge · 07-06-2010, 02:25 PM

I'd have the long talk about why he never approached me to tell me that he was curious about it so we could talk about it. It's all about communication IMO. I'd rather my kid come and tell me that they would like to know about the stuff, then I can at least get my crack at educating him before his peers do. Since that didn't happen, I'd have the talk now and probably go easy if he is a good kid in general. If not, I'd bust his ass and take away whatever he values the most for a while.

Just Passin' By · 07-06-2010, 02:28 PM

Ass-kicking

MOhillbilly · 07-06-2010, 02:37 PM

i busted my 13 year old daughter smokin a few weeks back. Brought the hammer down hard and heavy for two weeks. On top of this i told her she was grounded for 30 weeks and we were gonna send her to a christian school.
she will be ungrounded from making big rocks into little rocks in acouple week or so.

tooge · 07-06-2010, 02:40 PM

I love it man, you got the chain gang penalty there. I'm gonna have to consider that one in a couple of years

Hydrae · 07-06-2010, 02:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Tylerthigpen!1!

This.
Granted I'm a 19 year old boy so take it for what it's worth.

Wow, I didn't think any 19 year old would consider themselves a boy still. Keep that attitude, it will help a lot in the next few years.

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ForeverChiefs58 MVP Join Date: Mar 2009 Casino cash: $845326	don't call cops, esp if you support him and would have to pay to bail him out, cost of lawyer etc. have serious talk with just you two, maybe do a weekend getaway just you two where you would have the time to explain your feelings in detail to them. JMO
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07-06-2010, 01:49 PM	#21
Frazod Did you hear what I said? Join Date: Aug 2000 Casino cash: $-566615	Wow. That's just brazen. I hope he was already stoned before doing something that stupid. Had I done that, my dad would probably still be in jail for his response. I'd say it's up to you to come down on him like the Anvil of ****ing Death, and it should be his friends place to say "Don't smoke pot where your dad can see you, dumbass!"
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07-06-2010, 01:51 PM	#22
Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $9984925	I would think that if it's an issue that's affecting his daily life - poor grades, disrespect, holding a job.... then more needs to happen than just a "talk". Don't know if I would call the police though. But if it's a one, two time deal....just have a talk with him about why and how often. __________________ "In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight." — Ram Dass
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07-06-2010, 02:25 PM	#26
tooge MVP Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Liberty, MO Casino cash: $794112	I'd have the long talk about why he never approached me to tell me that he was curious about it so we could talk about it. It's all about communication IMO. I'd rather my kid come and tell me that they would like to know about the stuff, then I can at least get my crack at educating him before his peers do. Since that didn't happen, I'd have the talk now and probably go easy if he is a good kid in general. If not, I'd bust his ass and take away whatever he values the most for a while.
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07-06-2010, 02:37 PM	#28
MOhillbilly Mama Tried Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Missouri Casino cash: $9949903	i busted my 13 year old daughter smokin a few weeks back. Brought the hammer down hard and heavy for two weeks. On top of this i told her she was grounded for 30 weeks and we were gonna send her to a christian school. she will be ungrounded from making big rocks into little rocks in acouple week or so. __________________ True Son of Liberty
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07-06-2010, 02:40 PM	#29
tooge MVP Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Liberty, MO Casino cash: $794112	I love it man, you got the chain gang penalty there. I'm gonna have to consider that one in a couple of years
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