Other women.

[rageeumr]

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

[Micjones]

Originally Posted by rageeumr

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.

[Skyy God]

Originally Posted by Micjones

I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.

Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.

[Amnorix]

Originally Posted by Pittsie

Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.

Agreed. She doesn't seem to understand men.

Marriages will be healthier and happier if you understand what the other sex is about, how they operate, and what is realistic/unrealistic to expect.

[Micjones]

Originally Posted by Pittsie

Your wife has warped, unrealistic expectations. Good luck with that.

We're not married...yet.

[Dave Lane]

Originally Posted by Micjones

I concur. This is what I tried to explain, but the idea that the desire is ever even there sent her over the edge.

Dump her. Way too insecure.

[trndobrd]

Originally Posted by rageeumr

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

This.

I would add that at a certain point, you find that smoking hot 24 year old aerobics instructor types are just not that into you any more.

Originally Posted by rageeumr

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

/thread

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by Phobia

/thread

partially disagree.. if someone is staying faithful just for the kids and the stuff, that compromise will eventually find its way to the surface.

I will always put my wife first, kids second...and they know it.

Originally Posted by stevieray

partially disagree.. if someone is staying faithful just for the kids and the stuff, that compromise will eventually find its way to the surface.

I will always put my wife first, kids second...and they know it.

I think you skipped something in his post. That's the way he wrote it - in that order.

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by Phobia

I think you skipped something in his post. That's the way he wrote it - in that order.

intentionally..that first part makes the other parts a non-issue.

hence 'partially disagree'

[patteeu]

Originally Posted by rageeumr

The primal, instinctive urge never goes away. It might even get worse. But, in my case at least, it's repressed by my love for my wife, the desire to give the kids a stable family and the hesitance to lose half (or more) of my shit.

I agree with this.

[blaise]

It never goes away. Lot's of attractive women out there. You might not want to hang out with them for 7 hours on a Saturday, or have them be a mother to your children, but they sure do look good.

[stevieray]

for me, those receptors turned off a long time ago.

then again, my wife is hot and I'm in love with her, so it's never been a problem.


....i think it boils down to getting what you need, and taking your commitment seriously..current culture pimps a throwaway society, including relationships.

[Micjones]

Originally Posted by stevieray

for me, those receptors turned off a long time ago.

then again, my wife is hot and I'm in love with her, so it's never been a problem.


....i think it boils down to getting what you need, and taking your commitment seriously..current culture pimps a throwaway society, including relationships.

I tend to agree. I think anyone who enters into a monogamous relationship is responsible for denying those proclivities for the sake of that commitment. I just don't think a man is a scumbag for having very natural human urges here and there that extend past his partner. It's whether or not he acts on those urges that matters.