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12-24-2012, 01:04 PM | #271 |
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I guess I just don't see how someone putting a front on to be polite to your family even though they aren't thrilled with being there is an issue.
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12-24-2012, 01:05 PM | #272 | |
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After all that is said, he needs to understand why it was he felt it necessary to sneak a peak at her texts. Did he have a legit reason to wonder about what she was saying, or is he taking out his bad past relationships on her? By all means, offer up some "good" advice. I'm sure Jim Jones would appreciate all input right now. |
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12-24-2012, 01:05 PM | #274 |
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I'd confront her, but after the holidays.
No reason to ruin xmas. If she gets pissed because you 'invaded her privacy', then you should break it off. |
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12-24-2012, 01:07 PM | #275 |
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Don't need to know the people.....human nature is inherently the same. All it takes it one incident, one argument and the sister takes sides, spills the beans. If you don't think that would happen then you are sadly mistaken.
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12-24-2012, 01:09 PM | #276 |
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Because it is duplicity......she can be honest with him and polite with the parents. That solves the trust issue and also could resolve any concerns about whether she is the right person to marry.
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12-24-2012, 01:11 PM | #277 | |
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If she doesn't like his family, and he can't reconcile that, they're going to have a continuous stream of disagreements that stem from it. Like someone else mentioned, it's one thing for her to "gut it up" for Christmas. What happens when Grandma wants to keep the kids? Again, if the way she feels about his family is agreeable to him, even partially, then they don't really have a problem. They compromise and move on. But if that we're the case, we wouldn't be here. She would have told HIM instead of her sister and her feelings wouldn't have come as a total shock. |
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12-24-2012, 01:13 PM | #278 |
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what if your fiance starts snooping through your computer and finds this thread through the browsing history?
would she be okay with this thread? lol same concept really |
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12-24-2012, 01:18 PM | #279 | |
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The OP admits to being "paranoid from past relationships" and "never seeing this side of her." So he's really had no reason to snoop through her text messages and the only reason he did was because of someone he used to date that has no connection to this new girl what so ever. Ya'll want to turn this into an issue on the girl because she doesn't like his mothers cooking but is still going to play nice and have Christmas with them, yet we wouldn't even know she didn't like his mothers cooking unless dipshit didn't snoop through her phone. And there seems to be a popular belief that if he didn't snoop through her phone and find out these "horrible" truths that when they eventually came out it's going to be a trailer park brawl. |
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12-24-2012, 01:19 PM | #280 |
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If I gave any advice, would anyone heed it?
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I can assure you I could tell my sister something, or my wife could tell her sisters something, and it would be in complete confidence. Because they are polite people, not bickering children.
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Trust is a big issue here I don't disagree. But so is lying and acting like it's ok just because he shouldn't have caught her because he was snooping. She is damaging the relationship on a level just as serious. I'll ask the same question that has been asked before....if she is lying to him about how she feels about his family, what else could she be lying to him about. |
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