Chiefs OT-Broken Heart?! - Page 15

jaa1025 · 06:48 PM

EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy!

Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues.

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How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away??

I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow.

Summery of the happenings.

Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy.

About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead.

So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week.

Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left.

Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back.

Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch.

After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out.

Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life.

FAX · 05-27-2008, 10:03 AM

FAX

KCrockaholic · 05-27-2008, 02:49 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

Wow...i'm such an idiot. I'm over it now.

She just called me. And said, "Are you trying to piss me off?"...(Wrote her a letter on nice letter head explaining my feelings in a manly way).

Balls in hand, I demanded her to explain herself.

She basically told me that she lied to me the whole time and she didn't mean "I love you" and all that BS and used me just to have sex.

She told me that my friends warned me not to get involved and I did. My one friend that knows her did advise me to "hit it and quit it" because she was messed up in the head and didn't know what she wanted.

Should have listened to him.

Now, I don't believe what she told me there because I know she had feelings...i'm not naive. But now I question everything else she told me and I think she IS messed up in the head. I wish her on no one. Regardless...I'm done with her. She can kick rocks.

wow man, what a hooker! thats pretty messed up, but hey, move on forget about her, atleast you got a few bangs in, just think of her as practice now..keep practicing until you find the right girl who wont shit on your feelings.

vailpass · 05-27-2008, 02:56 PM

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Originally Posted by jaa1025

No...Met her in February...started dating/sleeping together very quickly...we hung out pretty much every day...when we didn't, she would call/text me.

The first month alone she texted me over 1000 times...kind of clingy, but I surprisingly enjoyed talking with her that much.

You've only known this chick for 3 months and she has you crying on an internet board?
Stiffen up man.
Maybe Demonpenz can write you a broken-heart bridge song.
Good luck dude, believe me when I tell you it will be just fine and sooner than you think.

RustShack · 05-27-2008, 03:36 PM

Just show up at her apartment right now and straight up tell her you want to **** her.

B_Ambuehl · 05-27-2008, 04:25 PM

She sounds almost borderline. Her problem is she doesn't feel like she deserves anyone. So you love her and give her attention, she doesn't feel she deserves it so off she goes...but as soon as you distance yourself from her she'll be coming back wondering where your attention went.

Brock · 05-27-2008, 04:26 PM

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Originally Posted by B_Ambuehl

She sounds almost borderline. Her problem is she doesn't feel like she deserves anyone. So you love her and give her attention, she doesn't feel she deserves it so off she goes...but as soon as you distance yourself from her she'll be coming back wondering where your attention went.

Thank you, Dr. Phil.

KCUnited · 05-27-2008, 04:43 PM

Dude, never write the letter.

**Skip Towne** · 05-27-2008, 04:47 PM

What's wrong with her that makes all these other guys treat her shitty?

kstater · 05-27-2008, 05:05 PM

Shyguyums?

**DaneMcCloud** · 05-27-2008, 05:34 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Skip Towne

What's wrong with her that makes all these other guys treat her shitty?

Daddy issues.

Rule #1 of dating: If a young girl doesn't have a good relationship with her father, she'll never be able to have a good relationship with you.

Mr. Plow · 05-27-2008, 06:01 PM

Has "find a good picnic table" been mentioned yet?

Mr. Plow · 05-27-2008, 06:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Amnorix

It's always a good time to pull this one out. Here's a "let's get back together" letter you can use as a model.

"Dear Susan:

I know the counsellor said we shouldn't contact each other during our
"cooling off" period, but I couldn't wait anymore. The day you left, I
swore I'd never talk to you again. But that was just the wounded little
boy in me talking. Still, I never wanted to be the first one to make
contact.

In my fantasies, it was always you who would come crawling back to me. I
guess my pride needed that. But now I see that my pride's cost me a lot
of things. I'm tired of pretending I don't miss you. I don't care about
looking bad anymore. I don't care who makes the first move as long as
one of us does. Maybe it's time we let our hearts speak as loudly as our
hurt. And this is what my heart says...

"There's no one like you, Susan." I look for you in the eyes and breasts
of every woman I see, but they're not you. They're not even close. Two
weeks ago, I met this girl at Ithaca Bar and brought her home with me. I
don't say this to hurt you, but just to illustrate the depth of my
desperation. She was young, maybe 19, with one of those perfect bodies
that only youth and maybe a childhood spent ice skating can give you. I
mean, just a perfect body. Jugs you wouldn't believe and an ass like a
tortoise shell. Every man's dream, right? But as I sat on the couch
being blown by this stunner, I thought, look at the stuff we've made
important in our lives. It's all so superficial. What does a perfect
body mean?

Does it make her better in bed? Well, in this case, yes. But you see
what I'm getting at. Does it make her a better person? Does she have a
better heart than my moderately attractive Susan? I doubt it. And I'd
never really thought of that before. I Don't know, maybe I'm just
growing up a little.

Later, after I'd tossed her about a half a pint of throat yogurt, I
found myself thinking, "why do I feel so drained and empty?" It wasn't
just her flawless technique or her slutty, shameless hunger, but
something else. Some ****ling feeling of loss. Why did it feel so
incomplete? And then it hit me.

It didn't feel the same because you weren't there, Susan, to watch. Do
you know what I mean? Nothing feels the same without you. Jesus, Susan,
I'm just going crazy without you. And everything I do just reminds me of
you.

Do you remember Carol, that single mom we met in Upper Side last year?
Well, she dropped by last week with a pan of lasagna. She said she
figured I wasn't eating right without a woman around. I didn't know what
she meant till later, but that's not the real story. Anyway, we had a
few glasses of wine and the next thing you know we're banging away in
our old bedroom. And this tart's a total monster in the sack. She's
giving me everything, you know like a real woman does when she's not
hung up about her weight or her career and whether the kids can hear us.
And all of a sudden she spots that tilting mirror on your grandmother's
old vanity. So she puts it on the floor and we straddle it, right, so we
can watch ourselves. And it's totally hot, but it makes me sad too.
'Cause I can't help thinking, "Why didn't Susan ever put the mirror on
the floor? We've had this old vanity for what, 14 years, and we never
used it as a sex aid."

Saturday, your sister drops by with my copy of the restraining order. I
mean, Vicky's just a kid and all, but she's got a pretty good head on
her shoulders and she's been a real friend to me during this painful time.

She's given me lots of good counsel about you and about women in
general. She’s pulling for us to get back together, Susan, She really
is. So we're drinking in a hot bath and talking about happier times.
Here's this teenage girl with the same DNA as you and all I can do is
think of how much she looked like you when you were 18. And that just
about makes me cry. And then it turns out Vicky's really into the whole
anal thing and that gets me to thinking about how many times I pressured
you about trying it and how that probably fuelled some of the bitterness
between us.

But do you see how even then, when I'm thrusting inside your baby
sister's cinnamon ring, all I can do is think of you? It's true, Susan.
In your heart you know it. Don't you think we could start over? Just
wipe out all the grievances and start fresh? I think we can.

If you feel the same please, please, please let me know, otherwise, can
you let me know where the remote control is?

John"

Mr. Plow · 05-27-2008, 06:08 PM

Also, has anyone gotten this girls phone # yet?

blueballs · 05-27-2008, 06:21 PM

everyone knows this girl
there is atleast one in every high school

jaa1025 · 05-30-2008, 11:14 PM

So...bringing back this topic. I went to her house to kind of mend things with us. Even if we don't get back together, I have a hard time just being a douche bag to her and don't like leaving like that. We sat there and talked about things for about 3 hours. She said she needed some time to cool off and she would call me.

She gave me a hug and she almost wouldn't let go...I kissed her forehead and left. On a side note...when I sat down to talk...I moved closer. Her boxer, that LOVED me before...growled at me and wouldn't stop staring at me. That was REALLY weird.

05-26-2008, 05:17 PM
jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	OT-Broken Heart?! EDIT: Holy Shit I was a pussy! Anyways, this bitch texted me 4 years later last night. "oops, that was to the wrong JXXXXX...anyways how are you". She's married now for 5 months but wants to get together to hook up. Says that the sex was great and missed it. Apparently she's a swinger and her husband is cool with it. Part of me wants to do it because the sex was great but I have moral issues. ************************************************************************************************** ******************************* How the F* do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. How the F*** do you fix this stupid thing? Hope for lightning to strike you or a tornado to take you away?? I figured becoming a man slut and sleeping with every random girl that I could would help, but I'd probably end up regretting that somehow. Summery of the happenings. Jane Doe and I dated for a little over 3 months. She's beautiful, sweet and we both really liked (loved) each other. She has one hang up though....she's confused about what she wants. She "wants a relationship, but isn't ready...and won't be for a long time". She "love's" me, but that didn't change her wanting to date other people. She was in a long relationship, year and a half and was engaged that ended in January. She was afraid I would be the rebound guy. About 2 months into it...she told me that she loved me. Now, she was drinking, but alcohol doesn't change feelings in my opinion...it might make you say things that you normally won't when you are sober. Things were going VERY well until then. Once that was said, it freaked her out. She kept maintaining though that she didn't want a relationship throughout this. She hadn't dated anyone else since the first few weeks of us dating, but again down hill...she went out on a few dates. Specifically, it later came out that she had started hanging out with her next door neighbor and kissed him. In fact, her roommate had been out of town the last week we were dating and she had asked me to stay with her because she doesn't like to be alone...I worked...she slept on the neighbors "couch" instead. So...I wanted to talk to her about the direction we were headed. She started pulling away, I started to give her space. I wasn't there when she called me and didn't text her back right away...this happened for a week. She stopped calling me baby and a lot of little 'pet names' that she had been calling me. Sex, which used to happen at least once a day...didn't happen the last week. Tuesday, the 20th, I went over to her house to talk. I told her that I didn't like the direction that we were going. She told me that I had started acting weird. I explained that I noticed that she had started to pull away as I was giving her space and I didn't like that. I asked her if she had been dating anyone else and she said no...not really. I asked her about her neighbor, she said no, but they had been hanging out and they had kissed. I told her that I wanted more and I knew she couldn't do it and I told her that I couldn't do this anymore....and left. Unfortunately...as some here have pointed out...I left my balls there. I cried for the first time in a very long time...every time a song came on that we listened together to...tv shows that we seen...everything reminded me of her. I left a freaking softball game because of how bad I played because I was being a pillowbiter. So, I called/texted/emailed her trying to work things out...I regretted that decision ever since I left. She got upset and was a bitch on the phone. I was an ass to her back. Last Sunday, I went to her house to get my stuff. We talked for a few minutes and I thought things would be alright. We planned on going out for dinner later in the week. So, thinking things were better and since I didn't get a chance to talk to her about things, I emailed her. I knew she was busy with her mom later that day, which is why I chose that route. She never responded. I texted her the next morning when I got off work like I normally did wishing her a good day etc. Nothing. I called Tuesday...didn't answer. WTF??!! Things were alright...right? So...I emailed her at work. She called, bitched me out. Basically saying not to bring her personal life to work etc etc. The email wasn't bad at all...not sure what this was about. I responded very badly and told her basically to kick rocks. She told me that basically she lied to me the whole time about her feelings for me and led me on. While I know it's not true...it was mean to say it. Ouch. After letting that settle in for a few days, I didn't want it to end like this. We had shared so much over the last 3+ months that I didn't want to leave it with us basically hating each other. So, I went to her house to drop off the rest of her stuff (used that as an excuse). We ended up talking for 3 1/2 hours. It went REALLY well. I gave her a massage...talked and watched her dog that once loved me...stare me down and growl at me. She gave me a huge long hug which she wouldn't let go when I tried to pull away early. I looked at her and kissed her forehead. Then I said goodbye. She said she needed more than 2 days to cool off from our last conversation...and would call me when she figures a few things out. Who knows how it will turn out...I won't go back to how it was...but I do want her in my life. Last edited by jaa1025; 09-06-2012 at 06:48 PM..
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jaa1025 Veteran Join Date: Nov 2006 Casino cash: $10000898	So...bringing back this topic. I went to her house to kind of mend things with us. Even if we don't get back together, I have a hard time just being a douche bag to her and don't like leaving like that. We sat there and talked about things for about 3 hours. She said she needed some time to cool off and she would call me. She gave me a hug and she almost wouldn't let go...I kissed her forehead and left. On a side note...when I sat down to talk...I moved closer. Her boxer, that LOVED me before...growled at me and wouldn't stop staring at me. That was REALLY weird.
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