***** Official NEW Dating Mega Thread *****

[TLO]

Let's do this.


Part 2: http://www.chiefsplanet.com/BB/showthread.php?t=293622

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Sounds like the other guy will win unless you make a move.

[Discuss Thrower]

C'est la vie then.

[Hammock Parties]

I will whip Discuss and Billay into a couple of cock diesel jacked ass missouri studs.

[Eureka]

Originally Posted by luv

GoChiefs, Billay, and Discuss Thrower walk into a bar....

Sounds like the beginning of a joke.

Well when you put it in that perspective. I would have fun going out with these guys. I could encourage them to walk up to different chics all night and let the comedy ensue.

How's your current "luv" interest going? Still going?

[eDave]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Mutual friend also informed me of this:

[Other guy] is one you'll initially like, but after three more dates you like him less and less.

Discuss is the opposite. YOu won't like him much at first, but the more time you give him the more you like him.


So I've got that going for me. Which is nice.

Why don't they like you at first?

[Hammock Parties]

Something I have learned...I think you are best off taking first dates to a place where it's dimly lit and somewhat noisy...not like a din, but you want a good chatter, and good lighting.

Everyone looks best in low lighting, obviously, so you create the best first impression possible, I think. A slight chatter takes some pressure off...you don't feel as self conscious I think.

This occurred to me because I've pretty much been alternating between two places for first dates...and the second place is very quiet and very brightly lit. I've NEVER had a second date after going to that place. I've taken chicks there AFTER our first meeting and been fine, but something about that place isn't doing me any favors on first dates.

This other place though...for some reason chicks love it. I know now that I will almost always see a girl again after I take her there on a first meeting. Not sure what it is, but it creates a good first impression.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by eDave

Why don't they like you at first?

You'd have to ask the guy who said that.

I'm guessing it's because I'm not comfortable around people I don't know at first. Why? Being introverted or some shit. Anymore it's because I'm constantly on guard for saying the normal shit I say because strangers don't get that I'm usually being sarcastic or I just say outlandish shit that offends people.

Not that I try and offend anyone.. But just about any opportunity to put my foot in my mouth that comes my way, it happens. Like when Seinfeld's foot fell asleep and it looked like he was mocking "Leaping Larry?" That's a regular occurrence in my social life.

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by Eureka

Well when you put it in that perspective. I would have fun going out with these guys. I could encourage them to walk up to different chics all night and let the comedy ensue.

It would be beyond hilarious. I've literally never approached a stranger at a bar and attempted conversation. Anyone I've ever met out has agreed to meet me there beforehand.

Now you might say "isn't that the same thing, really?" Maybe to you, but not to me. When I see a stranger at a bar all I can think about is reasons I shouldn't talk to them. But if I'm meeting someone from a site, I've already loaded my brain with at least 10 reasons I should definitely talk to them.

That gives me all the confidence I need to pay for the evening and never talk to them ever again.

[eDave]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

You'd have to ask the guy who said that.

I'm guessing it's because I'm not comfortable around people I don't know at first. Why? Being introverted or some shit. Anymore it's because I'm constantly on guard for saying the normal shit I say because strangers don't get that I'm usually being sarcastic or I just say outlandish shit that offends people.

Not that I try and offend anyone.. But just about any opportunity to put my foot in my mouth that comes my way, it happens. Like when Seinfeld's foot fell asleep and it looked like he was mocking "Leaping Larry?" That's a regular occurrence in my social life.

I hear ya. I'm pretty unfiltered and I like to make myself laugh. So, with all due respect, you probably come off as an immature jackass. Again, with all due respect.

I know I do.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by eDave

I hear ya. I'm pretty unfiltered and I like to make myself laugh. So, with all due respect, you probably come off as an immature jackass. Again, with all due respect.

I know I do.

<3 <3 <3.

And being chronically underemployed but not living on ramen doesn't help the immature part.

Like I avoid being with friends and family I haven't seen for a year or more because I hate explaining how my jobs consist of freelancing reporting and PA'ing high school games. It just screams "directionless ****."

[Hammock Parties]

Discuss and I would probably do well together, because I'm far too polite and well-mannered.

He will be the Tonto to my Lone Ranger.

[eDave]

Originally Posted by Stop, Chiefs

Something I have learned...I think you are best off taking first dates to a place where it's dimly lit and somewhat noisy...not like a din, but you want a good chatter, and good lighting.

Everyone looks best in low lighting, obviously, so you create the best first impression possible, I think. A slight chatter takes some pressure off...you don't feel as self conscious I think.

This occurred to me because I've pretty much been alternating between two places for first dates...and the second place is very quiet and very brightly lit. I've NEVER had a second date after going to that place. I've taken chicks there AFTER our first meeting and been fine, but something about that place isn't doing me any favors on first dates.

This other place though...for some reason chicks love it. I know now that I will almost always see a girl again after I take her there on a first meeting. Not sure what it is, but it creates a good first impression.

I'm having a hard time expressing it, but this is true. Lower lighting is just nice. I imagine brighter lighting feels like an interview.

[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by eDave

I'm having a hard time expressing it, but this is true. Lower lighting is just nice. I imagine brighter lighting feels like an interview.

I would honestly RATHER go to the second place...it's more fun to me. But I can't ignore the trend.

[eDave]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

<3 <3 <3.

And being chronically underemployed but not living on ramen doesn't help the immature part.

Like I avoid being with friends and family I haven't seen for a year or more because I hate explaining how my jobs consist of freelancing reporting and PA'ing high school games. It just screams "directionless ****."

Sounds like you need to fix your shit first my friend. And remember this; the coolest guy in the room is the one who doesn't talk much. I'm on a speak when spoken too regiment at the moment.

[Eureka]

Originally Posted by Stop, Chiefs

It would be beyond hilarious. I've literally never approached a stranger at a bar and attempted conversation. Anyone I've ever met out has agreed to meet me there beforehand.

Now you might say "isn't that the same thing, really?" Maybe to you, but not to me. When I see a stranger at a bar all I can think about is reasons I shouldn't talk to them. But if I'm meeting someone from a site, I've already loaded my brain with at least 10 reasons I should definitely talk to them.

That gives me all the confidence I need to pay for the evening and never talk to them ever again.

You're exactly right.... It's all in your head.

Just think! In your state alone there are over a 1000 women who are wondering why they can't meet a guy like you. She could be one of those girls you're avoiding.