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View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing? | |||
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep | 42 | 27.10% | |
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep | 19 | 12.26% | |
No | 78 | 50.32% | |
I've never proposed | 16 | 10.32% | |
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01-16-2013, 10:56 AM | #16 |
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01-16-2013, 10:56 AM | #17 |
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I also got a goat and 2 head of cattle?
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01-16-2013, 10:57 AM | #18 |
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Yes - be a man and show some respect.
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01-16-2013, 10:57 AM | #19 |
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Just the head's, that's cool.
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01-16-2013, 10:58 AM | #20 | |
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and this was 3 years prior to our "engagement". sec
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01-16-2013, 10:59 AM | #21 |
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01-16-2013, 10:59 AM | #22 |
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No. I kind of felt bad about it in retrospect, but my wife's parents lived 8 hours away at the time and I barely knew her dad. If I had lived near them, I probably would've.
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01-16-2013, 11:04 AM | #23 |
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01-16-2013, 11:04 AM | #24 | |
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No; but I swear to god, his brother's house, in their dining room, they have a black laquered table, black laqured hutch thinky; and everything has gold on it. at our wedding when we were taking our pictures in this nice park - everyone was sort of gathered around, mingling etc he dad rolls up and parks in a handicap spot. he's not handicapped, I said (name witheld)"hey....I think you parked in a handicapped spot. and he says "oh, so I did". reaches into his glove box and pulls out a handicap placard and hangs it from his mirror. lol His grandmother, how was like 95 - and his since passed sadly - always donned a jet black wig. His brother and him would talk football etc, and they'd be swearing back and forth. His mom slaps him in the arm (which was a weaky, 90 old woman slap), looks up to the ceiling and does the holy cross thingy on her chest. Followed by both of them "Sorry, Ma" the first Thanksgiving I attended, it was nothing but basta (which is what they call it apparently) and sugo; bread, meatballs, stuffed artichokes, lassagna, stuffed shells, meatsauce....just a HUGE spread of italian food. and I swear, the 'turkey' was like the size of a game hen/small chicken lol..which no one touched. The first time I met her cousin, he was friendly; about my age. we start talking, asks what I did for a living; I tell him; and he takes a long drag of his cigarette and says "...How much does somethin' like that pay"? just a collective series of things/actions over years where it's like one big stereo type.
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01-16-2013, 11:05 AM | #25 |
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Better safe than sorry. I did and it worked out fine.
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01-16-2013, 11:06 AM | #26 |
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I did. They looked at me like I was an idiot. Still happy I did, though.
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01-16-2013, 11:08 AM | #27 |
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Not his call.
My wife and I had dated for 5 years(ish) at that point and she actually told me she didn't want me to ask permission. She's a big-time daddy's girl but still thought it was strange for me to go ask him permission to marry her. We spoke about it later and his reaction was the same as hers - why ask? It's not my decision to make. I always thought it was something I was supposed to do, but they both thought it was an odd step. It may just be different for me because it was a foregone conclusion. We freakin' grew up together. It's not like we were adults that met at each other's houses and never saw her parents. I went over to their place to watch movies and have meals. I would DD for her dad once a year when they went to some event at the KC Zoo where you got hammered and gave away gobs of money. The 'respect' was shown well in advance of the decision to get married. I don't know that it's an antiquated tradition, but I think it's certainly a redundant and awkward bit of worthless ceremony if you've spent as much time around the parents as I have.
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01-16-2013, 11:09 AM | #28 |
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I didn't, and I sort of regret it. My in-laws have never brought it up, but my wife said one time that it would have been a nice thing to do.
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01-16-2013, 11:09 AM | #29 |
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Yeah I tried.
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01-16-2013, 11:09 AM | #30 |
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before getting enganged, my wife and I obviously sort of discussed it. I casually said "so, you think I should ask your dad for permission"?
she laughed and said "uh, yeah, You'd better. Stuff like that is a big deal to him and our family, and it would piss him off beyond belief if you didn't."
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