My last 2 days - Page 2

tommykat · 06-02-2007, 09:24 PM

I spent the last 2 days at my Mom's house having a Estate sale, ( garage sale ). As I write this try to understand if you have not lost your parents or one of them... can you imagine seeing your whole life flash before you? You watch people taking things that you lived with your entire , saying I will give you a dime for this or that. I don't believe I have hurt so much seeing things go that you remembered from childhood. Seeing my Mothers wedding dress hanging there.....well, that was a killer. Imagine if you can, your worst nightmare.....well I just lived it. Sleep deprived from Thurday nite, went to bed at 12:00 and got up at 3:00 AM start putting stuff out by 4:00 AM. Sale to begin at 7:00, as my girlfiriend and I work our butts off putting and pulling tables out got it done about 6:45. Cool, right? Ahhh Chit.........10 to 7 it rained to beat all. About 3/4" of rain so fast....right grab the tables run the back in/out/in/out.....So today? Yep, again the same rain....Funny people had umbrellas looking under the tarps. Had to laugh, even tho inside I still was hurting. Where am I going with this?

LOVE YOUR MOM AND DAD please while you have them. They may drive you nuts to beat all,but one day this will happen to you. Thanks for letting me ramble.

Tommykat, Kathy

Simplex3 · 06-03-2007, 07:54 AM

TK,

Sorry for your loss. Just remember that the things didn't define the person, the person defined the things. Without that person those items are just things. You're the one who is in sole possession of your memories, from now until you die.

**Lzen** · 06-03-2007, 10:06 AM

Skip, can you stop being an ass, please? Or at least just don't reply to this kind of thread if you can't resist.

TK,
Sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how tough it is. I do know it was very tough losing my grandparents. Like roger said, your advice makes a lot of sense. I know I should try to spend more time with my folks, especially since I know my dad doesn't have long. My wife is always reminding me of that fact.

Keep your spirits. You will get to feeling better.

Hydrae · 06-03-2007, 10:29 AM

My wife lost her mother last week so we have been going through some of what you are talking about. You look around after the fact and it doesn't seem right that these few things are all that is left. It was rather amazing though to see all the relatives gather near the end though and set aside their differences and band together as the family they really are.

Otter · 06-03-2007, 10:31 AM

Sorry for your loss TK.

Start bringing some positives into your life now that it's over. Take the dog for a walk on a scenic trail of Missouri that you never been to before. Don't own a dog? Get a puppy. Take classes and learn something new or refine a subject you already know. Start working out.

Or whatever the hell blows your hair back...just make sure there are positive things coming in or it's gonna be all negative.

Make sense?

ROYC75 · 06-03-2007, 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Logical

Kathy,

Deepest sympathy for your pain. Pick a few key items that hold cherished memories and keep them. No amount of money will replace those memories.

Jim

Agree with Jim, the best way to remember the good and let time heal the bad.

TK, it sucks knowing the setimental value weighs more that the actual dollar value to a garage sale crowd, which is what you get in an estate sale.

Hang tough, just remember the good times .

Simplex3 · 06-03-2007, 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Hydrae

It was rather amazing though to see all the relatives gather near the end though and set aside their differences and band together as the family they really are.

Heh. You were lucky. When my grandmother died my aunt cleaned out my grandmother's bank account, stole her car and skipped town while everyone was at the funeral.

|Zach| · 06-03-2007, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

Heh. You were lucky. When my grandmother died my aunt cleaned out my grandmother's bank account, stole her car and skipped town while everyone was at the funeral.

Jesus, for real?

blueballs · 06-03-2007, 11:43 AM

Hopefully something will happen to snap your life into some what normalcy again. For me it was at the funeral. I leaned over and kissed them on the forehead and that broke the grief. When my lips hit that cold skin, I knew the parent I loved was gone. This was just a shell. They were in a better place now.

Sadly, remembering the face fades. But on occasion I will smell a smell that will remind me of them. A smell that has no logical reason to be there at that place and time. Strangely it comforts me instead of freaking me out.

May you find your peace

milkman · 06-03-2007, 11:48 AM

Not to make light of TK's loss, but why does "Funeral" start with "Fun"?

Chief Henry · 06-03-2007, 11:49 AM

TK,

I dread the thought of my mother dying some day.
She's 80 and in good health. Gods Blessings to you and your family. Life sure isn't easy and fair.

06-03-2007, 11:55 AM

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Originally Posted by blueballs

Hopefully something will happen to snap your life into some what normalcy again. For me it was at the funeral. I leaned over and kissed them on the forehead and that broke the grief. When my lips hit that cold skin, I knew the parent I loved was gone. This was just a shell. They were in a better place now.

Sadly, remembering the face fades. But on occasion I will smell a smell that will remind me of them. A smell that has no logical reason to be there at that place and time. Strangely it comforts me instead of freaking me out.

May you find your peace

More of these posts and less of the goofy, senseless schtick.

Stewie · 06-03-2007, 01:38 PM

Sorry TK. I lost both my parents within 18 months of each other when I was in my 20s. That was a long time ago, but I still miss them.

Hang in there. Time does heal, and remember the good times.

boogblaster · 06-03-2007, 02:13 PM

TK sorry for you...life has many travels some really suck ......

**dirk digler** · 06-03-2007, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

TK,

Sorry for your loss. Just remember that the things didn't define the person, the person defined the things. Without that person those items are just things. You're the one who is in sole possession of your memories, from now until you die.

Couldn't have said it better myself. I am very sorry for your loss TK and I wish you and your family all the best.

tommykat · 06-03-2007, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Simplex3

TK,

Sorry for your loss. Just remember that the things didn't define the person, the person defined the things. Without that person those items are just things. You're the one who is in sole possession of your memories, from now until you die.

You are so correct. Today I had to bag up all the things left that did not sale. That was tuff, but nothing compared to seeing all packed and the house empty. I still see all of the furniture etc there. The worst part? My brother and his wife took most all the stuff worth everything. AGAIN, just stuff. I understand that. When leaving I asked my brother for a hug. He couldn't do that. He will not cry as he said if I do then I will break and I will not do that. I feel for him. I broke and in a bad way, however I am strong now. My Mom told me that I was strong just like her when she was sick. She told me I would have to be the one to do it......I told her "Mom" I'm not strong like you. When cleaning out her clothes I cried and heard her saying " see baby I told you that you were strong".

Enough, thank you to all for your prayers and thoughts.

Kat

06-02-2007, 09:24 PM
tommykat zzzz Kats always Join Date: Mar 2001 Casino cash: $10004925	My last 2 days I spent the last 2 days at my Mom's house having a Estate sale, ( garage sale ). As I write this try to understand if you have not lost your parents or one of them... can you imagine seeing your whole life flash before you? You watch people taking things that you lived with your entire , saying I will give you a dime for this or that. I don't believe I have hurt so much seeing things go that you remembered from childhood. Seeing my Mothers wedding dress hanging there.....well, that was a killer. Imagine if you can, your worst nightmare.....well I just lived it. Sleep deprived from Thurday nite, went to bed at 12:00 and got up at 3:00 AM start putting stuff out by 4:00 AM. Sale to begin at 7:00, as my girlfiriend and I work our butts off putting and pulling tables out got it done about 6:45. Cool, right? Ahhh Chit.........10 to 7 it rained to beat all. About 3/4" of rain so fast....right grab the tables run the back in/out/in/out.....So today? Yep, again the same rain....Funny people had umbrellas looking under the tarps. Had to laugh, even tho inside I still was hurting. Where am I going with this? LOVE YOUR MOM AND DAD please while you have them. They may drive you nuts to beat all,but one day this will happen to you. Thanks for letting me ramble. Tommykat, Kathy
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06-03-2007, 07:54 AM	#16
Simplex3 MVP Join Date: Sep 2003 Casino cash: $10004900	TK, Sorry for your loss. Just remember that the things didn't define the person, the person defined the things. Without that person those items are just things. You're the one who is in sole possession of your memories, from now until you die.
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06-03-2007, 10:06 AM	#17
Lzen Banded Join Date: Feb 2001 Location: Oz Casino cash: $1120692	Skip, can you stop being an ass, please? Or at least just don't reply to this kind of thread if you can't resist. TK, Sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how tough it is. I do know it was very tough losing my grandparents. Like roger said, your advice makes a lot of sense. I know I should try to spend more time with my folks, especially since I know my dad doesn't have long. My wife is always reminding me of that fact. Keep your spirits. You will get to feeling better. __________________ Conversation would be vastly improved by the constant use of four simple words: I do not know.
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06-03-2007, 10:29 AM	#18
Hydrae MVP Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Newport, Or Casino cash: $1127000	My wife lost her mother last week so we have been going through some of what you are talking about. You look around after the fact and it doesn't seem right that these few things are all that is left. It was rather amazing though to see all the relatives gather near the end though and set aside their differences and band together as the family they really are.
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06-03-2007, 11:43 AM	#23
blueballs Banned Join Date: Feb 2006 Casino cash: $10004900	Hopefully something will happen to snap your life into some what normalcy again. For me it was at the funeral. I leaned over and kissed them on the forehead and that broke the grief. When my lips hit that cold skin, I knew the parent I loved was gone. This was just a shell. They were in a better place now. Sadly, remembering the face fades. But on occasion I will smell a smell that will remind me of them. A smell that has no logical reason to be there at that place and time. Strangely it comforts me instead of freaking me out. May you find your peace
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06-03-2007, 11:48 AM	#24
milkman Dumbass! Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Leading the Marty bashing Casino cash: $10029395	Not to make light of TK's loss, but why does "Funeral" start with "Fun"? __________________
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06-03-2007, 11:49 AM	#25
Chief Henry MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: IOWA Casino cash: $10005088	TK, I dread the thought of my mother dying some day. She's 80 and in good health. Gods Blessings to you and your family. Life sure isn't easy and fair. __________________ Patrick Mahomes...The only QB to ever play in the NFL with at least 5,000 passing yards in a single season and 5,000 passing yards in a single college season.
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06-03-2007, 01:38 PM	#27
Stewie MVP Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: West of the Equator Casino cash: $399901	Sorry TK. I lost both my parents within 18 months of each other when I was in my 20s. That was a long time ago, but I still miss them. Hang in there. Time does heal, and remember the good times.
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06-03-2007, 02:13 PM	#28
boogblaster MVP Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Verdigris Valley Campsite Casino cash: $10004900	TK sorry for you...life has many travels some really suck ...... __________________ WR or S please
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