Life Question about Military Tours and Domestic Deaths - Page 2

Jenson71 · 03-08-2011, 10:17 PM

I could not find this on a quick search, so I'm hoping someone here has an answer.

What happens if you are on your tour in Iraq/Afghanistan, and a relative dies? Do you get to come back home for a week or so? And what kind of considerations does the military make depending on if it's your wife, child, parent, brother, grandparent, uncle, etc?

Jenson71 · 03-09-2011, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by SCTrojan

He wanted to go and asked. But there wasn't a question in my mind that he should go back home, and there really wasn't much of a discussion as to whether we would let him. It was more a matter of getting it right administratively with the personnel folks.

How long into the tour was this, if you remember?

SCTrojan · 03-09-2011, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Jenson71

How long into the tour was this, if you remember?

More than half - he had already taken his mid-tour leave. That was part of the administrative issue.

**RNR** · 03-09-2011, 09:57 AM

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Originally Posted by SCTrojan

This pretty much summarizes it for deployments. If it's a close relative - parent (even in-laws), spouse or children - there's not a question that the troop will get sent home. They normally get priority at the transportation terminals as well. Although it's still a matter of lift availability.

I sent one of my guys back home from Iraq after his grandmother died. You don't want that weighing on someone under that sort of pressure.

My father-in-law died while I was stationed in Germany, and I got sent back no charge.

My son was not allowed to return from his tour to attend his grandmothers funeral~

SCTrojan · 03-09-2011, 10:04 AM

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Originally Posted by RedNeckRaider

My son was not allowed to return from his tour to attend his grandmothers funeral~

Ultimately, it does come down to a decision by the leadership. Some don't see it the way we did.

03-09-2011, 10:07 AM

Essential personnel makes a difference as well. If you're the only guy who can do your job in theater, it had better be immediate family. If you're a low-ranking non-essential then you'll almost always get your leave approved. Mission comes first and everything else second.

JohninGpt · 03-09-2011, 10:14 AM

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My son was not allowed to return from his tour to attend his grandmothers funeral~

They call it Local Parentus. If a member of your immediate family dies you are allowed emergency leave. Immediate family includes mother, father, brother, sister, spouse, and children. If a grandparent, aunt, or uncle dies it is only considered local parentus if you were raised by, or lived with that person for a specified length of time during childhood.

And if I weren't so damn lazy I would have read trndobrd's post saying pretty much the same damn thing before I typed this.

SCTrojan · 03-09-2011, 10:24 AM

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Originally Posted by JohninGpt

They call it Local Parentus. If a member of your immediate family dies you are allowed emergency leave. Immediate family includes mother, father, brother, sister, spouse, and children. If a grandparent, aunt, or uncle dies it is only considered local parentus if you were raised by, or lived with that person for a specified length of time during childhood.

And if I weren't so damn lazy I would have read trndobrd's post saying pretty much the same damn thing before I typed this.

Our guy's grandmother didn't fall into that category, but we were able to get him out anyway. As Phobia pointed out, sometimes the situation doesn't allow commands to be that flexible.

**RNR** · 03-09-2011, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by JohninGpt

They call it Local Parentus. If a member of your immediate family dies you are allowed emergency leave. Immediate family includes mother, father, brother, sister, spouse, and children. If a grandparent, aunt, or uncle dies it is only considered local parentus if you were raised by, or lived with that person for a specified length of time during childhood.

And if I weren't so damn lazy I would have read trndobrd's post saying pretty much the same damn thing before I typed this.

They were very close and he was pretty broke about it. When he was a child we lived at my parents house for awhile. He was less than half way through a 15 month stint on his first tour. I know nothing of the details other than his disappointment of not being able to attend~

**Iowanian** · 03-09-2011, 01:14 PM

It depends the relationship and circumstances I think.

My brother got 3-4 days leave from his first tour in Iraq when our aunt died.
He came back the 2nd tour when our grandpa died, but got a few more days...like 5-6 I think.

Where there is a will, there is often a way. I'm thinking we made our notification through Red Cross.

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Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $3838454	It depends the relationship and circumstances I think. My brother got 3-4 days leave from his first tour in Iraq when our aunt died. He came back the 2nd tour when our grandpa died, but got a few more days...like 5-6 I think. Where there is a will, there is often a way. I'm thinking we made our notification through Red Cross.
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