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Bump · 05:27 PM

Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm.

This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor.

Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure.

Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses.

Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again.

These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing.

$750,000 for nine months of work, would you?

**bevischief** · 04-24-2011, 06:47 PM

I have said for years I don't have to carry the kid for 9 months, her choice. I only have to deal with the weird food cravings... Now if they want to make me the 1st man to have a kid, for me I am not paying taxes for the rest of my life and and very large bank account, like not to have to work every again...

**cdcox** · 04-24-2011, 06:48 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

A husband should certainly have a say.

I agree there should be a discussion between a married couple when either one of them wants to do something of this magnitude. I just think that "allow" in the thread title is a little too paternal.

Just Passin' By · 04-24-2011, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

I agree there should be a discussion between a married couple when either one of them wants to do something of this magnitude. I just think that "allow" in the thread title is a little too paternal.

So you don't know of any relationships where the man makes the decisions?

**luv** · 04-24-2011, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by HMc

well you might want him to have a say if you want him to hang around

If it's anyone significant, then, yes, I would consider their thoughts and feelings. I realize not everyone gets married nowadays. And, either way, he would not be "allowing" me to do anything. The decision is ultimately up to me.

**cdcox** · 04-24-2011, 06:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Just Passin' By

So you don't know of any relationships where the man makes the decisions?

My wife and I always discuss things and rarely have diametrically opposing views on important issues. Both of us would probably cooperate with the other to help each other achieve goals that we set. If push really came to shove, my wife would probably defer to me on most issues. If I started talking about allowing this or not allowing that (and she knew I wasn't joking) she would probably think I lost my marbles.

Thig Lyfe · 04-24-2011, 07:02 PM

Yes.

Just Passin' By · 04-24-2011, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

My wife and I always discuss things and rarely have diametrically opposing views on important issues. Both of us would probably cooperate with the other to help each other achieve goals that we set. If push really came to shove, my wife would probably defer to me on most issues. If I started talking about allowing this or not allowing that (and she knew I wasn't joking) she would probably think I lost my marbles.

That's fine if it works for you, but I was referring to your take about "allow" being too paternal, given that some relationships do have the man making the decisions. However, since this is likely going to head into the same territory that the nude photos thread went into, I'm all for leaving it as is.

crazycoffey · 04-24-2011, 07:10 PM

just for money? my two cents would (as mentioned by others already) it wouldn't be worth all troubles and suggest she didn't do it.

If it were for a family member who couldn't have kids and she really had her heart set on it, I'd support her decision.

**cdcox** · 04-24-2011, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Just Passin' By

That's fine if it works for you, but I was referring to your take about "allow" being too paternal, given that some relationships do have the man making the decisions. However, since this is likely going to head into the same territory that the nude photos thread went into, I'm all for leaving it as is.

Once in a while I'll hear someone talking that way, but it always sounds weird to me. Dad clearly wore the pants in our house when I was growing up, but I never heard him talk that way once.

Joie · 04-24-2011, 07:25 PM

We would discuss and make the decision together. Just like all other major decisions.

They wouldn't want to rent my womb anyway, that would be like renting a car and having to pay a mechanic once a week to keep it running.

Lonewolf Ed · 04-24-2011, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Just Passin' By

So you don't know of any relationships where the man makes the decisions?

None of my married friends do, unless you count deciding which of his socks he will put on first, left or right.

threebag · 04-24-2011, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

I don't think that a boyfriend would have any say in the matter.

He'd have all the say in the world. There is a chick on every corner.

dtforever · 04-24-2011, 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by MIAdragon

Nope, let's forget the impact on her body the emotional impact that would come from giving away the baby would be massive, not worth it.

This couldn't be further from the truth. But that is just based on my personal experience with this scenario.

**Rain Man** · 04-24-2011, 08:26 PM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

My wife and I always discuss things and rarely have diametrically opposing views on important issues. Both of us would probably cooperate with the other to help each other achieve goals that we set. If push really came to shove, my wife would probably defer to me on most issues. If I started talking about allowing this or not allowing that (and she knew I wasn't joking) she would probably think I lost my marbles.

If I started talking like that, my wife would crack down on me like I was a Chinese kid in Tiananmen Square.

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

Once in a while I'll hear someone talking that way, but it always sounds weird to me. Dad clearly wore the pants in our house when I was growing up, but I never heard him talk that way once.

Because the ones that do, don't need to talk like that.

View Poll Results: ?
I don't care what she does, whatever	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $30K	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $100K	6	8.33%
I'd let her do it for $500K	6	8.33%
I'd do the deal in a heartbeat!	11	15.28%
I'd have to think about it, but would lean towards going through with it	7	9.72%
I would require a cool million	3	4.17%
I would require more than a million	6	8.33%
I'd let her screw Gaz so I could raise his kid	2	2.78%
No dice.	23	31.94%
Voters: 72. You may not vote on this poll

04-24-2011, 05:05 PM
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crazycoffey .......... Join Date: Dec 2006 Casino cash: $5067901	just for money? my two cents would (as mentioned by others already) it wouldn't be worth all troubles and suggest she didn't do it. If it were for a family member who couldn't have kids and she really had her heart set on it, I'd support her decision.
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04-24-2011, 07:25 PM	#25
Joie Veteran Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Kansas Casino cash: $10004900	We would discuss and make the decision together. Just like all other major decisions. They wouldn't want to rent my womb anyway, that would be like renting a car and having to pay a mechanic once a week to keep it running.
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