Life Question about my new town - Page 2

Cornstock · 05-26-2013, 08:24 PM

Hey gang. So here's my story. I recently moved to Sioux City, IA for my job. The tough thing, as many of you know, about moving to a new town is making new friends. The first few months of living here I was able to visit college friends nearby and was content. But now, its summer and they're all gone.

In an attempt to make friends I've joined a gym, started going to church again, tried going to bars, and tried hanging out at hip places like coffee shops for long periods of time. Tried going to Target, WalMart, etc. and striking up a conversation, but I get the "mind your own goddamn business" look.

I think the gym still holds promise, as does church. Bars, however, going solo without any friends just seems weird. When talking to guys, they won't give me the time of day (I think mostly because they're too focused on trying to get some or slummin with the frat buddies) and with the girls they just take it as I'm hitting on them (ok, ok, I was.)

Funny thing is, I don't consider myself socially awkward or anything. I'm a perfectly normal, decently good-looking, gainfully employed, 23 year old guy. I've had no problems meeting people in other places. Even abroad, its been easy (I think because people are always interested in the American, so having that as a prop helps).

I'm not asking for advice to get laid or anything. But just plain making friends would be nice. Any thoughts or advice?

05-26-2013, 08:24 PM	Topic Starter
Cornstock Veteran Join Date: Oct 2008 Casino cash: $9986835	Question about my new town Hey gang. So here's my story. I recently moved to Sioux City, IA for my job. The tough thing, as many of you know, about moving to a new town is making new friends. The first few months of living here I was able to visit college friends nearby and was content. But now, its summer and they're all gone. In an attempt to make friends I've joined a gym, started going to church again, tried going to bars, and tried hanging out at hip places like coffee shops for long periods of time. Tried going to Target, WalMart, etc. and striking up a conversation, but I get the "mind your own goddamn business" look. I think the gym still holds promise, as does church. Bars, however, going solo without any friends just seems weird. When talking to guys, they won't give me the time of day (I think mostly because they're too focused on trying to get some or slummin with the frat buddies) and with the girls they just take it as I'm hitting on them (ok, ok, I was.) Funny thing is, I don't consider myself socially awkward or anything. I'm a perfectly normal, decently good-looking, gainfully employed, 23 year old guy. I've had no problems meeting people in other places. Even abroad, its been easy (I think because people are always interested in the American, so having that as a prop helps). I'm not asking for advice to get laid or anything. But just plain making friends would be nice. Any thoughts or advice?
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