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It is tough because he is the family member I have always been the most concerned about. When my father called me yesterday after the friends phone call, he tried to hide it but I could tell that he was a wreck. Sadly, my brother really wouldnt have any problem losing any of us. He has never had the NEED for anyone (or so he puts on). He and I spoke earlier yesterday before the phone call and he is planning on moving out to Tennessee very soon... which means that we will have even less influence. This sucks. Of course, his main person who he goes to for comfort is our mother, who is about a 2 bottle of wine a day person herself. So she is not a good influence. I have all but eliminated her from my life as she is a habitual liar and frankly, she only care about herself. In fact, 14 years ago, the FBI had located the stepfather in Canada. They were getting ready to nab him and they were a day too late. The FBI agents believed she tipped him off, and from what I do remember of things back then, there are things that lead me to the same assumption (this was before I was told the FBI had the assumption). Family sucks sometimes.
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Sorry to hear this but I can relate. This type of thing has been in our family tree forever, yes we have for generations lived up to the Irish sterotype. The one thing I have learned you can not talk them out of it or beat it out of them. They must chose the path they will follow. Good luck I hope you can reach him.
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I hear you on that.
It is a tough situation and I'm not going to pretend I'm an expert, but for a friend of mine who had a similar situation, his g/f offered to pay for counseling for him. Long story short, when the demons from his past (in your brother's case your stepfather) are brought out of him, then and only then did my friend start uphill from the bottom. Alcohol is his release or escape, either way there is much more deeply seated problems. We couldn't force him to go, but he did to talk about his past and slowly he put down the bottle, but it was a long process. Whatever you and your family/friends decide, good luck...and I truly mean that. |
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i feel for you Vegas Dave but the bottom line is you can't help someone who doesn't want to change - really want to change. start with that.
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I am just ending a 4 year marriage to an alcoholic, so I kinda know where you are coming from in the "what the f@#K can I do to help" mindframe.
First I would recommend intervention... and if he doesn't take it upon himself to seek some kinda help after that; shrink, AA, counselor.. all of the above.... i would maybe attempt to force him into a rehab facility or something my soon to be ex was in rehabs at least 6 times in the last 2 years... its not fun and ultimately there really isn't much you can do until HE decides to come to YOU for help... then you can be there for him to help him It REALLY sux to see someone you love self-destruct and be completely powerless to stop them I feel for you man, good luck
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