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Bump · 05:27 PM

Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm.

This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor.

Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure.

Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses.

Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again.

These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing.

$750,000 for nine months of work, would you?

Okie_Apparition · 04-24-2011, 09:31 PM

Oh sure, birth a child to a couple who may bugger it. Or worse, raise it on lies. There is a Santa, toothfairy & a Easter bunny. Only for it not to trust(rightfully) adults. Morals for money is dooooooooooom

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by dtforever

This couldn't be further from the truth. But that is just based on my personal experience with this scenario.

I disagree, also based personal experience with this exact scenario. I don't see how you can refute the maternal bonding that takes place between the unborn baby and mother. Now take said baby away and what do you get, butterflies and rainbows? I'm guessing you haven't been lucky enough to experience the boom boom to bombs away first hand, it doesn't happen like you see in the movies. But feel free to be wrong.

MIAdragon · 04-24-2011, 09:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Okie_Apparition

Oh sure, birth a child to a couple who may bugger it. Or worse, raise it on lies. There is a Santa, toothfairy & a Easter bunny. Only for it not to trust(rightfully) adults. Morals for money is dooooooooooom

No Santa?!!?

DJ's left nut · 04-24-2011, 09:45 PM

No chance. I have a job that pays well and she's soon going to have her masters in nursing as well. The money would be nice, but honestly I don't really need it.

Meanwhile, baby's are hard has hell on a woman's body and can create some issues that never truly go away. And that's not even getting into the stress of pregnancy combine with the fact that the entire affair is monetary (I mean think of how angry pregnant couples get at each other when the upshot is a child of their own).

Simply put - there's no way in hell I'd allow it. I'd be more likely to be okay with it for a close family friend that couldn't have children that would simply provide me with the costs of the childbirth than I would a situation where it strictly for money. There has to be a benevolent purpose to that or the damage it would cause would simply be too great.

DJ's left nut · 04-24-2011, 09:49 PM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

I agree there should be a discussion between a married couple when either one of them wants to do something of this magnitude. I just think that "allow" in the thread title is a little too paternal.

I disagree.

That's a decision where I'd damn well better have veto authority.

I don't get to tell her "yes - do this", but as her husband, I most assuredly have a vested interest in the outcome and should absolutely have the right to say "no you will not".

It's not my body, but its my house, my bank account, my past and my future. Yeah, a decision of this magnitude needs to be unanimous and with that in mind, 'allow' is an appropriate word, IMO.

Okie_Apparition · 04-24-2011, 09:53 PM

There are relatives you wouldn't leave your 10 year old with & you want to put a new born in the hands of strangers? You might never sleep well again

crazycoffey · 04-25-2011, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut

I disagree.

That's a decision where I'd damn well better have veto authority.

I don't get to tell her "yes - do this", but as her husband, I most assuredly have a vested interest in the outcome and should absolutely have the right to say "no you will not".

It's not my body, but its my house, my bank account, my past and my future. Yeah, a decision of this magnitude needs to be unanimous and with that in mind, 'allow' is an appropriate word, IMO.

and, if she was driven enough to do it behind your back, is it divorce worthy? not trying to pick, just curious

threebag · 04-25-2011, 04:32 AM

Triffling whore would need to GTFO.

DJ's left nut · 04-25-2011, 05:41 AM

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Originally Posted by CrazyCoffey

and, if she was driven enough to do it behind your back, is it divorce worthy? not trying to pick, just curious

Without question.

Apart from the impact on your relationship from the act itself, could you ever trust her again?

shirtsleeve · 04-25-2011, 05:56 AM

Surrogate mother. No way.

Sexual surrogate? Sure, why not? The couple can work out their stuff and the mrs can have a great time for $750,000.00!

Not to mention the money I'd make from the video (or non release of said video)

MDHQ · 04-25-2011, 06:33 AM

Sure, why not? A year of discomfort for $750k? Sure!

crazycoffey · 04-25-2011, 06:44 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut

Without question.

Apart from the impact on your relationship from the act itself, could you ever trust her again?

but it's for her sister who can't have kids of her own, and your wife really felt compelled to help a family member. She still loves you and hopes you'll understand....

Inspector · 04-25-2011, 07:24 AM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

Once in a while I'll hear someone talking that way, but it always sounds weird to me. Dad clearly wore the pants in our house when I was growing up, but I never heard him talk that way once.

In my house, I have the final word. I am the ultimate authority. Nobody ever questions my ruling.

As long as my wife OK's it first.

**luv** · 04-25-2011, 07:57 AM

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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut

I disagree.

That's a decision where I'd damn well better have veto authority.

I don't get to tell her "yes - do this", but as her husband, I most assuredly have a vested interest in the outcome and should absolutely have the right to say "no you will not".

It's not my body, but its my house, my bank account, my past and my future. Yeah, a decision of this magnitude needs to be unanimous and with that in mind, 'allow' is an appropriate word, IMO.

Wow. You let her out of the kitchen at all? Does she need to get your permission to wear a certain outfit in the morning? You're right, it's HER body. You are her husband, not her keeper. Now, if she values you and your relationship, then I am sure she would listen. However, I don't think it would be a matter of her needing to get permission from you. If she wants to do it and you divorce her, then I'd say your marriage probably had some issues to begin with.

Ebolapox · 04-25-2011, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by luv

Wow. You let her out of the kitchen at all? Does she need to get your permission to wear a certain outfit in the morning? You're right, it's HER body. You are her husband, not her keeper. Now, if she values you and your relationship, then I am sure she would listen. However, I don't think it would be a matter of her needing to get permission from you. If she wants to do it and you divorce her, then I'd say your marriage probably had some issues to begin with.

spoken by a woman who's never been married.

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I don't care what she does, whatever	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $30K	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $100K	6	8.33%
I'd let her do it for $500K	6	8.33%
I'd do the deal in a heartbeat!	11	15.28%
I'd have to think about it, but would lean towards going through with it	7	9.72%
I would require a cool million	3	4.17%
I would require more than a million	6	8.33%
I'd let her screw Gaz so I could raise his kid	2	2.78%
No dice.	23	31.94%
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04-24-2011, 05:05 PM
Bump YOU take YOUR seat Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $1745105	Would you allow your wife/girlfriend to be a surrogate? Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm. This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor. Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure. Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses. Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again. These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing. $750,000 for nine months of work, would you? Last edited by Bump; 04-24-2011 at 05:27 PM..
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04-24-2011, 09:31 PM	#31
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04-24-2011, 09:45 PM	#34
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04-25-2011, 05:56 AM	#40
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04-25-2011, 06:33 AM	#41
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