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12-24-2012, 01:18 AM | #1 |
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Good shit guys. Appreciate the thoughts. I've decided I'm definitely going to confront her, but wait until after Christmas. I like the stuff about not being accusatory. My natural inclination would be to become totally accusatory and start bitching her out, but that wouldn't end well. |
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12-24-2012, 01:15 AM | #3 | |
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12-24-2012, 09:34 AM | #4 | |
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She didn't choose your family, she chose you. If you really disliked her family, do you think you might discuss it candidly with people close to you? A friend or a brother? Honestly you sound like a douchebag that needs to work on himself before he starts looking for reasons to fight with a girl he probably doesn't deserve.
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12-24-2012, 06:33 AM | #5 | |
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12-24-2012, 06:40 AM | #6 |
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Yup that's why I would use this bit of info he's discovered to try and get a read on a tell she might have. This way you can identify if she is lying about anything else.
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12-24-2012, 06:49 AM | #7 | |
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My wife and I have an open relationship. Not like that, freaks. We don't delete emails, or texts and have each others passwords to everything. I don't know if my wife checks my shit, and she doesn't know if I check hers. Because we have nothing to hide from each other. How did that come about you ask? We've asked each other to pull something up for us at one time or another, and given each other our passwords. We have nothing to hide. And frankly, I thought that was perfectly normal. You guys are making me think it may not be. I don't care. We've been together for 10 years, without kids, so nothing is "keeping" us together. We love each other. That said, it didn't start until a couple of years into our marriage, so we'd been together for 4-5 years. I'm sure that's part of it. As Mr. Fax said, there are times it would be much easier if we could just lie to one another, but our relationship doesn't work that way. It's called life. It's a roller coaster. Hold on tight. |
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12-24-2012, 06:59 AM | #8 | |
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But in reference as to why I wouldn't dump her, I guess, since I am profound liar I have a morbid curiosity when I am being lied to, I enjoy seeing how far the rabbit hole goes. Plus it could all just turn out that this is the only thing she is lying about and it could be worked out. |
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12-24-2012, 07:06 AM | #9 | |
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As for the OP, you are in a catch 22. Reading those text messages is a trust issue. On the other hand, there are 3 things that couples fight about at a fundamental level and one of those is family. If she REALLY hates your family THAT much, I am afraid there isn't much of a chance she will ever be truly happy. My advice, and I realize I am being brutally honest here, is that you guys aren't meant to be together. I would ditch her. |
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12-24-2012, 10:24 AM | #10 | |
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Be glad that she is civil with your family. At least she makes an effort to do that. And guess what...she probably does that because she loves you. If I were her, I would dump your sorry ass in a heartbeat if I found our your were reading my private text messages without my permission. You're the one with the problem. Not her. |
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12-24-2012, 11:12 AM | #11 | |
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Trust me....the guy probably already knows the issues his family has, and to some extent might even agree with most of it. But for her to be deceitful about it portends a bigger issue, and one that will rear it's ugly head somewhere later. You can candy-coat it all you want but if she is lying about how she feels about the family, then she is probably lying about other things too. |
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12-24-2012, 11:17 AM | #12 | |
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12-24-2012, 01:37 PM | #13 | |
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Wait til it is done.. Then apologize that you read the texts.. But you feel ashamed that she could not be honest with you.. |
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12-24-2012, 01:14 AM | #14 |
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12-24-2012, 01:16 AM | #15 |
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let's say she goes this Christmas thing and says something that you know is complete BS because you read those messages... I would have a hard time not starting shit right there.
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