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Bump · 05:27 PM

Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm.

This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor.

Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure.

Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses.

Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again.

These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing.

$750,000 for nine months of work, would you?

Molitoth · 04-25-2011, 09:58 AM

Some woman would be fine doing this... but I know for a fact my wife would not. I chose NO.

We just gave birth to our first, and are planning on a second. After that, I know I would be down for an easy million. =P

**Iowanian** · 04-25-2011, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by luv

If getting married means I have to give up my rights to decide what to do with my body, then I never will. I will not marry someone who thinks he can tell me what I can and can't do.

Remember that when he wants to put his, own personal handown part into the lady garden of a stranger for sport....not your body, not your problem and you have no right to say anything differently.

I would never tell my wife to put her body through some of this, but if she wanted to do it(more likely to help a family member)....I'd discuss the pros-cons with her, but I damn well have Veto power in my house. I'd be the one dealing with and raising our existing kids if she died of complications, and any consequences of the birth.

Chief Roundup · 04-25-2011, 11:19 AM

Allow her those are strong words.
She is the one that is going to have to do all of these things and suffer through the pregnancy. It is totally up to her. I wouldn't demand anything from her.
I take it you are not married and probably will never be married.

threebag · 04-25-2011, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

If I have to give up my body, I want someone who can tell me what I can and can't do.

Fixed

Just Passin' By · 04-25-2011, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

If getting married means I have to give up my rights to decide what to do with my body, then I never will. I will not marry someone who thinks he can tell me what I can and can't do.

When you get married, you generally give up a lot of the type of 'rights' you're referring to. You no longer have the right to donate your body to the local football team on Saturday nights, for example, and the husband no longer has the right to donate his body to the local volleyball team, either. One aspect of marriage is the sacrifice of individual autonomy and freedoms for the purpose of creating and strengthening a pair-bond and family unit, after all.

dtforever · 04-25-2011, 12:57 PM

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Originally Posted by MIAdragon

I disagree, also based personal experience with this exact scenario. I don't see how you can refute the maternal bonding that takes place between the unborn baby and mother. Now take said baby away and what do you get, butterflies and rainbows? I'm guessing you haven't been lucky enough to experience the boom boom to bombs away first hand, it doesn't happen like you see in the movies. But feel free to be wrong.

I didn't see it in a movie, and I know I am 100% correct relative to my personal experience.

**Saul Good** · 04-25-2011, 01:10 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

Wow. You let her out of the kitchen at all? Does she need to get your permission to wear a certain outfit in the morning? You're right, it's HER body. You are her husband, not her keeper. Now, if she values you and your relationship, then I am sure she would listen. However, I don't think it would be a matter of her needing to get permission from you. If she wants to do it and you divorce her, then I'd say your marriage probably had some issues to begin with.

Don't ever get married. If you don't think that your husband should have veto power over something like this, you will NEVER have a strong marriage. That is absolutely unfathomable to me that anyone would think that way.

**notorious** · 04-25-2011, 01:10 PM

$750K for 9 months.

That's an easy one. Yes.

None of the genes are ours so I wouldn't have a blood connection. My wife would be heart-broken but that would pass,too, when she realizes it is someone else's genetics at work.

crazycoffey · 04-25-2011, 03:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Saul Good

Don't ever get married. If you don't think that your husband should have veto power over something like this, you will NEVER have a strong marriage. That is absolutely unfathomable to me that anyone would think that way.

veto power, LOL.

Marriage is full of compromise, and NOBODY should have "VETO power". you discuss things together as adults, you say you are really against it if you want, but if she wants to do it anyway, you can live with it or decide it's divorce worthy.

be pretty shitty of you to divorce your wife because she wanted to help her sister out.

I have two step sisters, the oldest had many medical problems growing up and had her uterus removed at the age of 18. The younger sister has already stated she will carry a baby for the older sister, whenever she is ready. If the man the younger sister gets married to, had a problem and "tried" to "veto" this decision, he's going to be in for a rude awakening. And the younger sister has a big heart, good head on her shoulders, she's not going to be a spoiled wife, that has to always have her way. But I guarantee no man will stop her from helping her bigger sister.

I realize this is an edited version of the original OP, but just another angle to view the question.

**luv** · 04-25-2011, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Saul Good

Don't ever get married. If you don't think that your husband should have veto power over something like this, you will NEVER have a strong marriage. That is absolutely unfathomable to me that anyone would think that way.

If my husband and I have a good relationship, then he wouldn't need veto power. It's unfathomable that you make decisions for your wife instead of with her.

teedubya · 04-25-2011, 03:56 PM

Can I then dump her ass and take half?

Just Passin' By · 04-25-2011, 04:47 PM

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Originally Posted by CrazyCoffey

veto power, LOL.

Marriage is full of compromise, and NOBODY should have "VETO power". you discuss things together as adults, you say you are really against it if you want, but if she wants to do it anyway, you can live with it or decide it's divorce worthy.

be pretty shitty of you to divorce your wife because she wanted to help her sister out.

I have two step sisters, the oldest had many medical problems growing up and had her uterus removed at the age of 18. The younger sister has already stated she will carry a baby for the older sister, whenever she is ready. If the man the younger sister gets married to, had a problem and "tried" to "veto" this decision, he's going to be in for a rude awakening. And the younger sister has a big heart, good head on her shoulders, she's not going to be a spoiled wife, that has to always have her way. But I guarantee no man will stop her from helping her bigger sister.

I realize this is an edited version of the original OP, but just another angle to view the question.

Not all men just hand their balls over to the S.O..

Just Passin' By · 04-25-2011, 04:48 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

If my husband and I have a good relationship, then he wouldn't need veto power. It's unfathomable that you make decisions for your wife instead of with her.

How do you compromise on

Surrogate/no surrogate

Affairs/no affairs

and others of this nature?

**luv** · 04-25-2011, 06:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Just Passin' By

How do you compromise on

Surrogate/no surrogate

Affairs/no affairs

and others of this nature?

Surely you're not equating having an affair with being a surrogate.

Just Passin' By · 04-25-2011, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by luv

Surely you're not equating having an affair with being a surrogate.

You cannot compromise on an either/or issue. Either one side caves or you come to a split. It's just the nature of the beast.

View Poll Results: ?
I don't care what she does, whatever	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $30K	4	5.56%
I'd let her do it for $100K	6	8.33%
I'd let her do it for $500K	6	8.33%
I'd do the deal in a heartbeat!	11	15.28%
I'd have to think about it, but would lean towards going through with it	7	9.72%
I would require a cool million	3	4.17%
I would require more than a million	6	8.33%
I'd let her screw Gaz so I could raise his kid	2	2.78%
No dice.	23	31.94%
Voters: 72. You may not vote on this poll

04-24-2011, 05:05 PM
Bump YOU take YOUR seat Join Date: Nov 2007 Casino cash: $1745105	Would you allow your wife/girlfriend to be a surrogate? Imagine some rich couple that cannot reproduce or simply does not want to go through the hassle of pregnancy. Now imagine this couple offering $750,000 to your wife or girlfriend to give birth to their child with donor eggs and sperm. This rich couple would require that your wife be held to a very strict diet, no smoking and no alcohol or any other drugs, including caffeine. This couple would require that your wife or girlfriend check in once per day with them and regular office visits with their doctor. Your wife or girlfriend would have to follow a strict sleeping schedule and must follow every little guideline that they might require. Think of it as an extreme corporate job following every little rule and policy down the last detail. It would be stressful for sure. Her meals would be paid for and any medical expenses. Once the child is berthed, the doctors will take it away and hand her the check and you will never see or hear from them ever again. These people are assholes and would probably make terrible parents and would assume that money would take care of any problems that their child may have. They aren't paying for a surrogate because they really want a child, they are doing for an image thing. $750,000 for nine months of work, would you? Last edited by Bump; 04-24-2011 at 05:27 PM..
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04-25-2011, 09:58 AM	#61
Molitoth Mahomes Fanboi Join Date: Apr 2004 Casino cash: $2654969	Some woman would be fine doing this... but I know for a fact my wife would not. I chose NO. We just gave birth to our first, and are planning on a second. After that, I know I would be down for an easy million. =P
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04-25-2011, 01:10 PM	#68
notorious Supporter Join Date: May 2005 Location: Who knows? Casino cash: $2435884	$750K for 9 months. That's an easy one. Yes. None of the genes are ours so I wouldn't have a blood connection. My wife would be heart-broken but that would pass,too, when she realizes it is someone else's genetics at work.
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04-25-2011, 03:56 PM	#71
teedubya Most Valuable Poster Join Date: Oct 2003 Casino cash: $9460002	Can I then dump her ass and take half?
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