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View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing? | |||
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep | 42 | 27.10% | |
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep | 19 | 12.26% | |
No | 78 | 50.32% | |
I've never proposed | 16 | 10.32% | |
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01-16-2013, 11:59 AM | #1 |
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01-16-2013, 12:01 PM | #3 |
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Lets put it this way. Most of the "no" posters say that they regret it, and all of the "yes" posters think it is still the right thing to do. That should answer all of your questions.
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01-16-2013, 12:03 PM | #4 |
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01-16-2013, 12:02 PM | #5 |
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Similarly, as a sign of respect, would you ask for the father's blessing if you were getting a divorce from her? Or is respect just not that important anymore?
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01-16-2013, 12:04 PM | #7 |
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01-16-2013, 12:05 PM | #8 |
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i think it truly does vary n a case by case basis.
the girl/woman's relation ship with her father, and or family. knowing how big family was to her, well Family, I wanted to do it. It would not have gone over well had I not from a disrespect POV. But, it worked out because I would've done it anyway. and, as Okoye said, I don't think it's so much of asking for permission these days, but a blessing. The blessing can be denied, and yiou'll be married anyway etc, but a blessing (depending on the sort of family you're entering into) would be gravy. of course, if you don't get a blessing, it's probably because you're a dirtbag, or the father is a prick. I'd say any stand-up, grown man would get a blessing otherwise.
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good point. they're seriously the only ones that I know of that are divorced in her entire huge family/extended family.
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And for the record if you feel like you have to odds are you'll end up a much more happy husband...
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I didn't ask, but he was there when I proposed. Her Mom knew it was coming though.
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01-16-2013, 12:11 PM | #13 |
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Never been married, have no kids. For now I'd err on the side of not asking. It seems outdated and very mildly sexist. I'm young, but I've never been in a serious relationship with a woman who seemed to find things like that important.
That being said, I don't feel so strongly about it that I wouldn't do it if I knew that it was important to either my fiancee or her family. It's a small thing to do if it means gaining the respect and affection of people you're probably going to be around the rest of your life. |
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Also, I never meant to create the impression that I don't care whether her dad/family like me or not - I care about that very much. I just don't see how asking for their blessing/permission would do anything to strengthen that relationship, unless it's something that they specifically want. Last edited by Canofbier; 01-16-2013 at 12:32 PM.. |
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