Life I'm cohabitating... would appreciate any advice. - Page 9

Direckshun · 05-02-2008, 09:15 AM

Well I did the dumbest ****ing thing possible and fell in love with someone.

Now we're making plans to move in together sometime this coming fall. She's lived with a significant other before, but this is the first time I've ever done it.

So considering how green I am to the whole process, I'd appreciate the ironclad braintrust at the Planet to provide me with advice (preferably from experience) so I don't walk into bear trap after bear trap throughout this ordeal.

Thanks in advance.

**KcMizzou** · 05-04-2008, 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by ClevelandBronco

I'd advise against it entirely, but I'm likely as old as your father.

I guess that you crazy kids are entitled to your own ideas about cohabitation now that you're not under my roof. We certainly all made own mistakes when we were young and...well, let's just leave it as young.

On the other hand, I don't really see any point in getting to know her until you're married. Please don't bring her home for Christmas. You still have a younger sister living here with us and I'd hesitate to send her the message that your mother and I condone this sort of thing. If you do bring her home, you'll understand why we have to put you up in separate bedrooms.

(By the way, you've broken your mother's heart, not that you ever cared about doing that. Not since that 8th grade incident that I swore I'd never mention again — even though you know what I'm referring to — but she's crying about that and trying to rock herself to sleep right now wondering how she failed to instill all women's crying need for permanent, unconditional love in your sorry ass.)

I hope all is well,

Your Other Dad

Are you sure you're not my dad?

ClevelandBronco · 05-04-2008, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by KcMizzou

Are you sure you're not my dad?

I'm available for anyone who's missing a father. How's that?

I'll post a resume if anyone needs one.

**J Diddy** · 05-04-2008, 02:35 AM

just be prepared

for you don't know what

nonetheless, be prepared

**J Diddy** · 05-04-2008, 02:37 AM

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Originally Posted by ClevelandBronco

I'm available for anyone who's missing a father. How's that?

I'll post a resume if anyone needs one.

sweet

will be sending a formal bill for past due child support

knew I could count on ya pops

ClevelandBronco · 05-04-2008, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by J Diddy

sweet

will be sending a formal bill for past due child support

knew I could count on ya pops

Uh-oh.

**KcMizzou** · 05-04-2008, 02:54 AM

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Originally Posted by J Diddy

sweet

will be sending a formal bill for past due child support

knew I could count on ya pops

You're an "idea" man.

**J Diddy** · 05-04-2008, 03:08 AM

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Originally Posted by ClevelandBronco

Uh-oh.

oh I see

gonna run out, huh?

you were never there for me

**J Diddy** · 05-04-2008, 03:09 AM

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Originally Posted by KcMizzou

You're an "idea" man.

:shady:

pst play along I'll cut you in

Demonpenz · 05-04-2008, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Joie

Aces and I were together for 3 1/2 years before he proposed. I made it clear I wanted to eventually get married, but he didn't ask until HE was ready to. I strongly suggest all men do the same...you don't want to propose, and then regret it.

no one ever at anytimes regrets it

chagrin · 05-04-2008, 11:33 AM

Never get married unless you have a plan for divorce, same applies with cohabitating

**luv** · 05-04-2008, 12:57 PM

I'm actually thinking about moving in with someone myself. Kind of nervous. My mom and her boyfriend have lived together for over 10 years. Neither has the desire to get married. It's worked for them. I think you just have to know where you're going in your relationship by doing this. AS long as you're on the same page with the same expectations, then all should go fairly well.

Good luck and enjoy!

StcChief · 05-04-2008, 01:17 PM

Good luck LUV, everything happens for a reason, I just hope your not in the 2/3 major of failures.

R&GHomer · 05-04-2008, 01:19 PM

I haven't read through every post, but don't listen to half of these ass hat's. Just make sure you really care enough about her, because a relationship changes when you live together. Talk to her and make sure you're in agreement on things. Ie.. who takes out the trash, mops the floors, cleans the garage etc...

Good luck

**The Bad Guy** · 05-04-2008, 01:46 PM

Anyone who says "You shouldn't really get to know your spouse until you are married," is a ****ing clown.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with living together before marriage. You get to realize if you are making a mistake in marriage, or if this is the 100% right person for you.

**Rain Man** · 05-04-2008, 04:17 PM

I would advise you to hold your ground on the means by which you fold the towels, and how clean the dishes need to be when they go in the dishwasher, and where the toothpaste tube is squeezed. These may not seem like big deals, but if you fold on them, you'll lose traction on more important issues that arise later.

05-02-2008, 09:15 AM
Direckshun __ Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Springpatch Casino cash: $4153447	I'm cohabitating... would appreciate any advice. Well I did the dumbest ****ing thing possible and fell in love with someone. Now we're making plans to move in together sometime this coming fall. She's lived with a significant other before, but this is the first time I've ever done it. So considering how green I am to the whole process, I'd appreciate the ironclad braintrust at the Planet to provide me with advice (preferably from experience) so I don't walk into bear trap after bear trap throughout this ordeal. Thanks in advance.
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05-04-2008, 12:57 PM	#131
luv MY LITTLE #15 Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Springfield, MO Casino cash: $6019600	I'm actually thinking about moving in with someone myself. Kind of nervous. My mom and her boyfriend have lived together for over 10 years. Neither has the desire to get married. It's worked for them. I think you just have to know where you're going in your relationship by doing this. AS long as you're on the same page with the same expectations, then all should go fairly well. Good luck and enjoy!
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05-04-2008, 01:17 PM	#132
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R&GHomer Veteran Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $10004900	I haven't read through every post, but don't listen to half of these ass hat's. Just make sure you really care enough about her, because a relationship changes when you live together. Talk to her and make sure you're in agreement on things. Ie.. who takes out the trash, mops the floors, cleans the garage etc... Good luck __________________ Tod Haley: "I just want to coach well, have our team play well and make this city proud of us again."
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The Bad Guy Scott Pioli Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: The Copacobana Casino cash: $9363645	Anyone who says "You shouldn't really get to know your spouse until you are married," is a ****ing clown. There is absolutely nothing wrong with living together before marriage. You get to realize if you are making a mistake in marriage, or if this is the 100% right person for you. __________________
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05-04-2008, 04:17 PM	#135
Rain Man NFL's #1 Ermines Fan Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $2918491 VARSITY	I would advise you to hold your ground on the means by which you fold the towels, and how clean the dishes need to be when they go in the dishwasher, and where the toothpaste tube is squeezed. These may not seem like big deals, but if you fold on them, you'll lose traction on more important issues that arise later. __________________ I'm putting random letters here as a celebration of free speech: xigrakgrah misorojeq rkemeseit.
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