Life You Versus Your Father - Page 3

**Rain Man** · 01-27-2009, 07:58 PM

How do you stack up against your father? (Female posters: against your mother)?

Poll following, which is the spitting image of its predecessor.

Rules: There will likely be some questions that you can't answer. In those cases, don't answer them. For example, if you don't have kids, you can't discern whether they're better behaved than your father's kids.

RJ · 01-27-2009, 10:53 PM

My dad died last month.

Many hundreds of people came to the funeral home and the funeral. They came out of respect, love, friendship and admiration. No one mentioned anything about money or looks or business accomplishments.

That's a tough act to follow, I'd better hurry up.

**Rain Man** · 01-28-2009, 09:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RJ

My dad died last month.

Many hundreds of people came to the funeral home and the funeral. They came out of respect, love, friendship and admiration. No one mentioned anything about money or looks or business accomplishments.

That's a tough act to follow, I'd better hurry up.

Y'know, once I made the poll I realized that I forgot "had more friends" as a comparison. I would've remembered if I had more friends.

Sorry about your dad.

**Rain Man** · 01-28-2009, 09:59 AM

So far, it appears that the typical father worked harder for less money, had more kids and who were slightly better behaved, and was in better health/physical condition (even if not quite as attractive). We, on the other hand, benefit from higher education levels and native smarts, are more ambitious, make more money with better career prospects, are happier with our lives and our marriages, and have better future prospects.

The health one is particularly intriguing to me, because I kind of figured it would break toward our fathers in light of all the fast food and weight issues we discuss.

My own father would have done great if he had been born in 1920 instead of 1940. He's a really hard-working, ambitious guy who is/was more handsome than me and more personable. He kind of got screwed by life, though, because he was from a really rural family where it was a big accomplishment for him to get a high school diploma, and college was out of the question. (I don't think either of his parents got past the third grade.) Up to about age 35, he was doing really well in terms of career and finances and stuff relative to his starting place in life, not rich, but we were solid middle class. Unfortunately, society kind of blew past him in about the late 1970s in terms of technology and stuff, and he fell behind and has never caught up, and it's been kind of painful to see him always work harder and harder but never gain traction. He is starting to use e-mail now, though, and is still married to my mom even though the two of them got married at 18 and 16.

Jilly · 01-28-2009, 10:39 AM

This is hard. I have the best momma in the world. Seriously, she is amazing. I can never come close to how amazing she is...but it sure has given me something to live by and hold onto.

**The Franchise** · 01-28-2009, 10:48 AM

My Dad was in the Air Force for 23 years. He gave up a tryout for the Red Sox to go to Vietnam. He was a First Sgt., an SP and worked on missles during that 23 years. He made sure that my brother and I had whatever we needed but he also made sure that we grew up to respect others and not be **** ups. He always made sure that his family was taken care of and after he retired from the AF....he went out and got 2 jobs to make sure that we were taken care of. He's 63 and he still works to this day....to make sure that his Grandkids are taken care of. My Dad is honestly the greatest guy I've ever known and I'd be ecstatic if I grew up to be half the man he was.

**Saulbadguy** · 01-28-2009, 11:09 AM

Dad had kids at 33 so no measurables there. We look similar and are in similar health, I think. Intelligence/ambition/brighter future is a bit hard to measure.

Dad had a masters degree at my age, but was making less $$$ even adjusted for inflation. As a matter of fact I am making about the same as my dad did when he retired. We are in the same pay range but he is a higher step than I am because he was there for 20+ years.

MagicHef · 01-28-2009, 11:17 AM

When I think about it, my dad and I are very similar in a lot of ways. Really the only difference is that the job market in his field was very bad when he came out of college, it was a lot better for me.

raybec 4 · 01-28-2009, 11:19 AM

When my dad was my age he was just emerging from 9 years in Marion Federal Correctional Facility for kidnapping. He continued to do the things that lead up to his imprisonment for many years after, I have never even been convicted of a crime.

Demonpenz · 01-28-2009, 11:54 AM

My dad is pretty much a bad ass, everyone talks about how they were let down by their dad once they found out he wasn't superman and he was human, my dad was hard ass on me when I did bad, let me play sports, I had a couple large parties in highschool he kicked my ass all over the place for that, then laughed later on when he saw the amount of hot girls that were there. He plays guitar, loves rock, how many dads would give an honest listen to eminem and name all members of grand funk rail road. How do I stack up? Not even close for home repair, raising kids, cars, etc. I am better at computers sports and some other random shit, but I am still making mistakes and have to ask my dad about shit for awhile. He also installed an impressive amount of guilt if I buy something over 20 dollars. So you never see me buy some crazy shit. Although he is actually the one that bought crazy shit. He has always had a nice boat truck and bowling ball. My dad also rupsured his achelles tendon when he was running away from a bee's nest he wacked with a weed wacker. So that makes him tougher, but I get some props for saving his life because i found him passed out with bees all over him.

**Rain Man** · 01-28-2009, 11:57 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by raybec 4

When my dad was my age he was just emerging from 9 years in Marion Federal Correctional Facility for kidnapping. He continued to do the things that lead up to his imprisonment for many years after, I have never even been convicted of a crime.

So if you make more than 47 cents an hour, you've got him beat on the money question.

Demonpenz · 01-28-2009, 11:57 AM

anyone want to share stories from a spiritual aspect? How is religion different from your fathers?

raybec 4 · 01-28-2009, 12:19 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Rain Man

So if you make more than 47 cents an hour, you've got him beat on the money question.

No, not really, the events and the work that preceeded him going to prison were very lucrative although very ill-legal. He always had spending money and anything under 10 grand got paid for in cash. Anything over 10 grand was bought in someone else's name. When he went to the can I went to the state of Mo. I never lived with him after, but I do know he always had very nice stuff and a lot of cash to throw around.

Jilly · 01-28-2009, 12:25 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Demonpenz

anyone want to share stories from a spiritual aspect? How is religion different from your fathers?

Mine isn't that much different, I'm radically more liberal and passionate....but if it wasn't for my parents, I wouldn't have faith. They've shown me the face of Christ time and time again. And prodigal son? Yeah, they definitely know the message of unconditional love. Again, I wish I could live like they do...but it's something I strive for on a daily basis.

View Poll Results: Compare you and your father at your current age.
I make more money than my father did at my age (inflation-adjusted).	53	65.43%
My father made more money than me at my age (inflation-adjusted).	17	20.99%
We make/made about the same money.	12	14.81%
I have a better marriage/marital history than my father did at my age.	27	33.33%
My father had a better marriage/marital history at my age than me.	19	23.46%
Our marriages/marital histories are about the same.	29	35.80%
I have more kids than my father did at my age.	6	7.41%
My father had more kids at my age than me.	50	61.73%
We have/had the same number of kids.	18	22.22%
I work more hours than my father did at my age.	15	18.52%
My father worked more hours at my age than me.	33	40.74%
We work/worked about the same number of hours.	30	37.04%
I'm happier overall than my father was at my age.	31	38.27%
My father was happier at my age than me.	10	12.35%
We are/were similarly happy.	35	43.21%
I'm better looking than my father was at my age.	30	37.04%
My father was better looking at my age than me.	15	18.52%
We are/were similar in attractiveness.	30	37.04%
I have better career prospects than my father did at my age.	48	59.26%
My father had better career prospects at my age than me.	15	18.52%
We have/had similar career prospects.	16	19.75%
I have a better financial situation than my father did at my age.	54	66.67%
My father had a better financial situation at my age than me.	14	17.28%
We have/had similar financial situations.	11	13.58%
I have more education than my father did at my age.	50	61.73%
My father had more education at my age than me.	14	17.28%
We have/had similar education levels.	14	17.28%
I have higher-achieving children than my father did at my age.	12	14.81%
My father had higher-achieving children at my age than me.	12	14.81%
Our children are/were similar in achievement.	21	25.93%
I have better-behaved children than my father did at my age.	8	9.88%
My father had better-behaved children at my age than me.	14	17.28%
Our children are/were similar in behavior.	26	32.10%
I have better health/physical condition than my father did at my age.	22	27.16%
My father was healthier/in better shape at my age than me.	24	29.63%
We are/were in similar health/physical condition.	32	39.51%
I am smarter than my father was at my age.	35	43.21%
My father was smarter at my age than me.	9	11.11%
We are/were similar in intelligence.	34	41.98%
I am more ambitious than my father was at my age.	26	32.10%
My father was more ambitious at my age than me.	15	18.52%
We are/were similar in ambition.	35	43.21%
I have a brighter future than my father did at my age.	36	44.44%
My father had a brighter future at my age than me.	9	11.11%
Our futures are/were similar.	29	35.80%
I have a more interesting life than my father did at my age.	29	35.80%
My father had a more interesting life at my age than me.	20	24.69%
Our lives were similar in level of interest.	25	30.86%
Cat's in the cradle and the silver spoon	22	27.16%
Little boy blue and the man in the moon	24	29.63%
Multiple Choice Poll. Voters: 81. You may not vote on this poll

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01-27-2009, 10:53 PM	#31
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01-28-2009, 09:59 AM	#33
Rain Man NFL's #1 Ermines Fan Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: My house Casino cash: $3168491 VARSITY	So far, it appears that the typical father worked harder for less money, had more kids and who were slightly better behaved, and was in better health/physical condition (even if not quite as attractive). We, on the other hand, benefit from higher education levels and native smarts, are more ambitious, make more money with better career prospects, are happier with our lives and our marriages, and have better future prospects. The health one is particularly intriguing to me, because I kind of figured it would break toward our fathers in light of all the fast food and weight issues we discuss. My own father would have done great if he had been born in 1920 instead of 1940. He's a really hard-working, ambitious guy who is/was more handsome than me and more personable. He kind of got screwed by life, though, because he was from a really rural family where it was a big accomplishment for him to get a high school diploma, and college was out of the question. (I don't think either of his parents got past the third grade.) Up to about age 35, he was doing really well in terms of career and finances and stuff relative to his starting place in life, not rich, but we were solid middle class. Unfortunately, society kind of blew past him in about the late 1970s in terms of technology and stuff, and he fell behind and has never caught up, and it's been kind of painful to see him always work harder and harder but never gain traction. He is starting to use e-mail now, though, and is still married to my mom even though the two of them got married at 18 and 16. __________________ I'm putting random letters here as a celebration of free speech: xigrakgrah misorojeq rkemeseit.
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01-28-2009, 10:39 AM	#34
Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $10004925	This is hard. I have the best momma in the world. Seriously, she is amazing. I can never come close to how amazing she is...but it sure has given me something to live by and hold onto. __________________ "In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight." — Ram Dass
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01-28-2009, 10:48 AM	#35
The Franchise Most Valuable Villain Join Date: Dec 2006 Casino cash: $2955047	My Dad was in the Air Force for 23 years. He gave up a tryout for the Red Sox to go to Vietnam. He was a First Sgt., an SP and worked on missles during that 23 years. He made sure that my brother and I had whatever we needed but he also made sure that we grew up to respect others and not be **** ups. He always made sure that his family was taken care of and after he retired from the AF....he went out and got 2 jobs to make sure that we were taken care of. He's 63 and he still works to this day....to make sure that his Grandkids are taken care of. My Dad is honestly the greatest guy I've ever known and I'd be ecstatic if I grew up to be half the man he was.
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01-28-2009, 11:09 AM	#36
Saulbadguy When a nightmare becomes real Join Date: Nov 2003 Casino cash: $2486966	Dad had kids at 33 so no measurables there. We look similar and are in similar health, I think. Intelligence/ambition/brighter future is a bit hard to measure. Dad had a masters degree at my age, but was making less $$$ even adjusted for inflation. As a matter of fact I am making about the same as my dad did when he retired. We are in the same pay range but he is a higher step than I am because he was there for 20+ years.
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01-28-2009, 11:17 AM	#37
MagicHef The Seated Villain Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Seattle Casino cash: $2370247	When I think about it, my dad and I are very similar in a lot of ways. Really the only difference is that the job market in his field was very bad when he came out of college, it was a lot better for me. __________________ With a sack in 61% of his games, SB MVP Von Miller is the most consistent pass rusher in NFL history.
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01-28-2009, 11:19 AM	#38
raybec 4 MVP Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: East Jabip Casino cash: $5123807	When my dad was my age he was just emerging from 9 years in Marion Federal Correctional Facility for kidnapping. He continued to do the things that lead up to his imprisonment for many years after, I have never even been convicted of a crime.
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01-28-2009, 11:54 AM	#39
Demonpenz I got Rice cookin in the micro Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Apartment "G UNIT!" Casino cash: $3042136	My dad is pretty much a bad ass, everyone talks about how they were let down by their dad once they found out he wasn't superman and he was human, my dad was hard ass on me when I did bad, let me play sports, I had a couple large parties in highschool he kicked my ass all over the place for that, then laughed later on when he saw the amount of hot girls that were there. He plays guitar, loves rock, how many dads would give an honest listen to eminem and name all members of grand funk rail road. How do I stack up? Not even close for home repair, raising kids, cars, etc. I am better at computers sports and some other random shit, but I am still making mistakes and have to ask my dad about shit for awhile. He also installed an impressive amount of guilt if I buy something over 20 dollars. So you never see me buy some crazy shit. Although he is actually the one that bought crazy shit. He has always had a nice boat truck and bowling ball. My dad also rupsured his achelles tendon when he was running away from a bee's nest he wacked with a weed wacker. So that makes him tougher, but I get some props for saving his life because i found him passed out with bees all over him. __________________
Posts: 54,282

01-28-2009, 11:57 AM	#41
Demonpenz I got Rice cookin in the micro Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Apartment "G UNIT!" Casino cash: $3042136	anyone want to share stories from a spiritual aspect? How is religion different from your fathers? __________________
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