Going on 1st date in 13 years. How have the rules changed?

chris · 10:17 AM

Recently divorced.

Been to numerous lunch dates. Lunch dates are safe, cause in a hour you go back to work. Didn't like any of them anyway.

This new woman may be different. We've spent 10-20 hours on the phone and I'm going to Vegas to meet her where she is attending a trade show.

I have tickets to a show. Plus we'll go somewhere to dinner. I would prefer not a buffet.

SOOOOOOOOO, what has changed?

Small bunch of flowers still acceptable?

Ladies, what is the cologne of choice?

What are the things to do, not do, say, not say??

thanks

SBK · 01-13-2005, 12:36 AM

Girls like it now if you slap them on the butt and ask them "who's your daddy?"

TheNextStep · 01-13-2005, 12:41 AM

Before I got married, I discovered to my surprise that girls no longer expect you to bring them flowers when you pick them up for a date. I was going to take a girl out and I mentioned to of my friends (both girls) that I had to run to the florist. They both thought I was completely out of my mind.

You know what else I learned though? I learned not to listen to those two, bought the flowers anyway, and the girl I was taking out was absolutely bowled over by it. I never failed to take flowers on the first date after that.

Of course, I haven't been on a date in 8 years, so that may have changed, too... but I'd bet most women would still appreciate it.

**J Diddy** · 01-13-2005, 01:08 AM

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Originally Posted by TheNextStep

Before I got married, I discovered to my surprise that girls no longer expect you to bring them flowers when you pick them up for a date. I was going to take a girl out and I mentioned to of my friends (both girls) that I had to run to the florist. They both thought I was completely out of my mind.

You know what else I learned though? I learned not to listen to those two, bought the flowers anyway, and the girl I was taking out was absolutely bowled over by it. I never failed to take flowers on the first date after that.

Of course, I haven't been on a date in 8 years, so that may have changed, too... but I'd bet most women would still appreciate it.

Find out first if she is tree hugging hippy that would object to the cruel treatment of flowers just for the simple delight of woman on the first date.

She could go insane, and well then you probably won't score. Which is the goal.

Never lose sight of the goal.

**Skip Towne** · 01-13-2005, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by ENDelt260

I usually get a single rose for a first date.

You're right... they don't expect it, and they like it.

Yeah, I'm probably believing that shit. Next you'll be telling us you carry a single rose in your back pocket for when you meet the next hogette at the bar.

**Mr. Kotter** · 01-13-2005, 09:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Skip Towne

Yeah, I'm probably believing that shit. Next you'll be telling us you carry a single rose in your back pocket for when you meet the next hogette at the bar.

WTF do you know about dating....weren't arranged marriages the deal back in your day?

**CosmicPal** · 01-13-2005, 10:15 AM

Dump the flowers and the chocolates- that's for teenagers going to a dance.

Here's a foolproof plan- Show up at the door with a bottle of tequila and bring a copy of Led Zeppelin IV. Later on, when she invites you into her bedroom to show you her photo album that's when you "go for it"

**Mr. Kotter** · 01-13-2005, 10:17 AM

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Originally Posted by CosmicPal

Dump the flowers and the chocolates- that's for teenagers going to a dance.

Here's a foolproof plan- Show up at the door with a bottle of tequila and bring a copy of Led Zeppelin IV. Later on, when she invites you into her bedroom to show you her photo album that's when you "go for it"

CosmicPal is my inspiration; where were you when I needed advice as a young adult?

You're becoming the Fonz of ChiefsPlanet.

**RNR** · 01-13-2005, 12:41 AM

It is a trip! went through the same thing. Being a gentleman still seems to work. However be prepared things have changed! women will walk up and ask you to dance, or walk up and give you their phone number or ask you for yours. It is a different game nowdays.

**grandllama** · 01-13-2005, 01:54 AM

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Originally Posted by RedNeckRaider

It is a trip! went through the same thing. Being a gentleman still seems to work. However be prepared things have changed! women will walk up and ask you to dance, or walk up and give you their phone number or ask you for yours. It is a different game nowdays.

That it is... i'm going through it right now after six years off the market as well... I DJ for college girls who seem to actually go for the 'who's your daddy' shit mentioned earlier, but when I date in my age group, the flowers are still the easiest path to the promised land...

01-13-2005, 02:23 AM

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Originally Posted by grandllama

That it is... i'm going through it right now after six years off the market as well... I DJ for college girls who seem to actually go for the 'who's your daddy' shit mentioned earlier, but when I date in my age group, the flowers are still the easiest path to the promised land...

Holy crap. What happened to twins and marriage? Damn. Should I

or is this your way of telling us....

01-13-2005, 01:09 AM

Just relax, be yourself, and have a good time. Wear whatever cologne you normally wear, if any. If you've already spent a lot of time on the phone with her, you're a leg up on anybody else going on a first date because you kinda know her. Keep it simple - no need to go overboard on flowers or candy - I think a first date woman would be equally impressed with the simplicity of a solitary flower.

There's absolutely no reason to be nervous. If this one isn't right for you, you move on to the next one.

Do you get nervous trying on shoes? Same concept.

teedubya · 01-13-2005, 01:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Do you get nervous trying on shoes? Same concept.

well, what if he wears velcro shoes?

01-13-2005, 01:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Ali Chi3fs

well, what if he wears velcro shoes?

Velcro shoes? Hell, if he's wearing velcro shoes, there's nothing at all to worry about. There's no more sure thing than a slutty nursing home granny.

01-13-2005, 12:34 AM	Topic Starter
chris Always Ask "Why" Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: Park City; Two Rivers Casino cash: $10004900	Going on 1st date in 13 years. How have the rules changed? Recently divorced. Been to numerous lunch dates. Lunch dates are safe, cause in a hour you go back to work. Didn't like any of them anyway. This new woman may be different. We've spent 10-20 hours on the phone and I'm going to Vegas to meet her where she is attending a trade show. I have tickets to a show. Plus we'll go somewhere to dinner. I would prefer not a buffet. SOOOOOOOOO, what has changed? Small bunch of flowers still acceptable? Ladies, what is the cologne of choice? What are the things to do, not do, say, not say?? thanks Last edited by chris; 01-13-2005 at 10:17 AM..
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01-13-2005, 12:36 AM	#2
SBK Curry is the pick??? Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Georgia Casino cash: $10004900	Girls like it now if you slap them on the butt and ask them "who's your daddy?"
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01-13-2005, 12:41 AM	#3
TheNextStep Veteran Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: Omaha Casino cash: $10004900	Before I got married, I discovered to my surprise that girls no longer expect you to bring them flowers when you pick them up for a date. I was going to take a girl out and I mentioned to of my friends (both girls) that I had to run to the florist. They both thought I was completely out of my mind. You know what else I learned though? I learned not to listen to those two, bought the flowers anyway, and the girl I was taking out was absolutely bowled over by it. I never failed to take flowers on the first date after that. Of course, I haven't been on a date in 8 years, so that may have changed, too... but I'd bet most women would still appreciate it.
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01-13-2005, 10:15 AM	#8
CosmicPal Learn it. Know it. Live it. Join Date: Nov 2002 Location: St. Petersburg, FL Casino cash: $10004900	Dump the flowers and the chocolates- that's for teenagers going to a dance. Here's a foolproof plan- Show up at the door with a bottle of tequila and bring a copy of Led Zeppelin IV. Later on, when she invites you into her bedroom to show you her photo album that's when you "go for it" __________________ - * - * - * - * - * - * - * - * - * - Four blessings upon my fellow planeteers: Older whiskey, younger women, faster horses, and more money.
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RNR America is great assholes~ Join Date: Sep 2001 Location: In some people's mind~ Casino cash: $10027990	It is a trip! went through the same thing. Being a gentleman still seems to work. However be prepared things have changed! women will walk up and ask you to dance, or walk up and give you their phone number or ask you for yours. It is a different game nowdays. __________________ The Trump campaign and Black Lives Matter movement are perfect for each other. Both sides filled with easily led and angry nitwits convinced they are victims~
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01-13-2005, 01:09 AM	#13
Phobia Guest Casino cash: $	Just relax, be yourself, and have a good time. Wear whatever cologne you normally wear, if any. If you've already spent a lot of time on the phone with her, you're a leg up on anybody else going on a first date because you kinda know her. Keep it simple - no need to go overboard on flowers or candy - I think a first date woman would be equally impressed with the simplicity of a solitary flower. There's absolutely no reason to be nervous. If this one isn't right for you, you move on to the next one. Do you get nervous trying on shoes? Same concept.
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