I think i need some advice

Hammock Parties · 01-03-2006, 03:28 AM

Join the armed forces.

**QuikSsurfer** · 01-03-2006, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by gochiefs

Join the armed forces.

death is higher on the list than joining any branch of the military.

**cdcox** · 01-03-2006, 03:38 AM

I would stop the drugs today. You can't afford them and you are not at a point in you life where you can deal with functioning on half a brain.

I'd go somewhere where I could land on my feet, build a financial base to do what I really wanted, and sort through things. That sounds like your grand parents' place. Earn and save money. Decide what you want to do.

From your description, you sound like you are at a turning point in your life. Things can either get better from here or much worse. It will depend on your decisions and actions, more than anything else.

**QuikSsurfer** · 01-03-2006, 03:41 AM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

I would stop the drugs today. You can't afford them and you are not at a point in you life where you can deal with functioning on half a brain.

I'd go somewhere where I could land on my feet, build a financial base to do what I really wanted, and sort through things. That sounds like your grand parents' place. Earn and save money. Decide what you want to do.

From your description, you sound like you are at a turning point in your life. Things can either get better from here or much worse. It will depend on your decisions and actions, more than anything else.

I think that would be the best choice. It just seems that I would be miserable living there. It would be better financial situation. However, I do need to cut back on the drugs. Even more so than I already have.

**cdcox** · 01-03-2006, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by QuikSsurfer

I think that would be the best choice. It just seems that I would be miserable living there. It would be better financial situation. However, I do need to cut back on the drugs. Even more so than I already have.

If it is miserable that should give you plenty of motivation to save $ and decide what it is you'd rather be doing. I think finding a purpose for your life is the key. Then you can set goals and start working toward them. In the mean time, start focusing on short term goals such as saving enough money for a car and to move out from your GP, since these things need to happen no matter what.

**QuikSsurfer** · 01-03-2006, 03:51 AM

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Originally Posted by cdcox

If it is miserable that should give you plenty of motivation to save $ and decide what it is you'd rather be doing. I think finding a purpose for your life is the key. Then you can set goals and start working toward them. In the mean time, start focusing on short term goals such as saving enough money for a car and to move out from your GP, since these things need to happen no matter what.

You are absolutely right.
Another option that wasn't mentioned above: My sister and brother-in-law live in Kansas City, KS and would more than likely give me a place to stay for a few months for me to get on my feet. What's the job market like there in KS? My sister lives in the Johnson county area.

Taco John · 01-03-2006, 03:55 AM

The answer is right in front of your face, yet you refuse to do it because you're too open minded.

**QuikSsurfer** · 01-03-2006, 04:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Taco John

The answer is right in front of your face, yet you refuse to do it because you're too open minded.

I hope you're not talking about faith.

Ultra Peanut · 01-03-2006, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Taco John

The answer is right in front of your face, yet you refuse to do it because you're too open minded.

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I hope you're not talking about faith.

I think the point is that living with your grandparents for a while may suck, but is probably the best option you've got, despite their alleged penchant for proselytizing.

Life can truly, deeply suck. I'm the last person that should tell anyone what they should do, so all I can really do is ask, "Why the hell would you want to live in Oxfart?"

On the bright side, it could be worse... say, the only thing you've ever really wanted in your entire life being completely, utterly impossible, and casting a cloud over every waking moment you ever experience. That's no fun.

**QuikSsurfer** · 01-03-2006, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Psicosis

I think the point is that living with your grandparents for a while may suck, but is probably the best option you've got, despite their alleged penchant for proselytizing.

Life can truly, deeply suck. I'm the last person that should tell anyone what they should do, so all I can really do is ask, "Why the hell would you want to live in Oxfart?"

On the bright side, it could be worse... say, the only thing you've ever really wanted in your entire life being completely, utterly impossible. That's no fun.

Oxford is where I found myself. It was the first place for me to live after moving out of Madison. I love Oxford and feel comfortable here. More comfortable than I have ever been.
Happiness is at a cost and i'm definitely paying for it.

huskerdooz · 01-03-2006, 06:59 AM

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Originally Posted by QuikSsurfer

Oxford is where I found myself. It was the first place for me to live after moving out of Madison. I love Oxford and feel comfortable here. More comfortable than I have ever been.
Happiness is at a cost and i'm definitely paying for it.

In other words, Oxford is the place where you could be irresposible, flunk out of school, and blow all your money on drugs. Sounds to me like Oxford is just comfortable enough for you to wind up dead.

Your 23 and from your description, you've never decided to take responsibility for your life. You need to grow up and start taking responsibility for your actions. Like cdcox stated you can turn your life around now or let it slide off into the abyss of drugs and alcohol, it's your choice.

That being said, I don't think you're really ready to turn your life around yet. Otherwise you wouldn't be looking for easier solutions like living with your sister for a short time. What makes you think that it will be any different living with her. You will probably just spend your time and money looking for new sources for your drug habit. You say you are a recovering cocaine addict. Did you go into rehab to kick your habit? Since when does rehab advocate abstaining from one drug but allow the use of another. It sounds to me the only reason you had to give up cocaine was because you couldn't afford it. That happens when mom cuts off the financial spigot doesn't it. You complain that you have no way to commute across town, is there no form of public transportation in Oxford? You also complain that you don't have the money to take the A+ certification exam, yet you claim that you are still smoking too much ganja. IIRCC ganja isn't cheap. Here's an idea, try saving some of that money to pay for the exam.

Just as TJ indicated, the solution is right there but you're too stubborn and immature to see it. Your Grandparents are obviously offering you a place and an oppurtunity to get back on your feet. You don't want to blow this oppurtunity that they are offering by continuing to blow all your money on the very lifestyle that got you into this mess in the first place. If you actually got clean from the drugs you might actually discover that college could actually be for you as well. For that to happen you might need to get away from Oxford so that you can make a clean break from the very lifestyle that got you into trouble in the first place.

You can't go through life living out "Animal House". It's fun for awhile but eventually you need to take responsibility for your life and actually make something of yourself.

I'm sure this will come off as a bit preachy but I have very little sympathy for someone that continually wants to blame others for there misery and misfortune instead of taking responsibility for there own life.

jspchief · 01-03-2006, 07:07 AM

It's time to stop smoking pot. That crap is for kids and adult losers.

teedubya · 01-03-2006, 07:14 AM

You are 23 years old, and have a several opportunities... while it may look bleak right now, it is all working according to plan. Years from now, you will be able to look back on this trying time in your life and see how it positively affected your path.

Around this age, I had a slice of humble pie, and had no car, no job, and had to move in with family. It sucked, but it motivated me to get back on top.

Drop the nose candy, that shit isnt healthy... I cant with a good conscience tell you to drop the herbals, because I partake occassionally myself. let me offer this tidbit...

Moderation is key... things like that make a good icing on the cake of life, just dont let the drugs become the cake.

Get yourself in a new set of surroundings... chances are, if you dont, you might find yourself in the same boat the Maurice Clarett is in...

Love yourself, and make every attempt to be happy with whatever decisions you make... you are NOT your past decisions... you are NOW HERE for a reason, and you are in a critical fork in the road of life... be happy with it, and move in the right direction. This is a valuable opportunity to get a grip on who you are, and who you want to become.

And always remember, not to place blame on anyone, but take responsibility for everything. It is all working according to plan... your life right now, is the result of your past actions... you want a different future, take responsibility and move in the direction you feel is best for you.

And be happy with yourself, and your decisions.

:-)

Hog's Gone Fishin · 01-03-2006, 07:33 AM

Knock Knock

Who's there ?

Oppurtunity.

Opportunity who?

Why in the hell are you asking when I'm knocking on your door. Open the damn door!!

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teedubya Most Valuable Poster Join Date: Oct 2003 Casino cash: $9480002	You are 23 years old, and have a several opportunities... while it may look bleak right now, it is all working according to plan. Years from now, you will be able to look back on this trying time in your life and see how it positively affected your path. Around this age, I had a slice of humble pie, and had no car, no job, and had to move in with family. It sucked, but it motivated me to get back on top. Drop the nose candy, that shit isnt healthy... I cant with a good conscience tell you to drop the herbals, because I partake occassionally myself. let me offer this tidbit... Moderation is key... things like that make a good icing on the cake of life, just dont let the drugs become the cake. Get yourself in a new set of surroundings... chances are, if you dont, you might find yourself in the same boat the Maurice Clarett is in... Love yourself, and make every attempt to be happy with whatever decisions you make... you are NOT your past decisions... you are NOW HERE for a reason, and you are in a critical fork in the road of life... be happy with it, and move in the right direction. This is a valuable opportunity to get a grip on who you are, and who you want to become. And always remember, not to place blame on anyone, but take responsibility for everything. It is all working according to plan... your life right now, is the result of your past actions... you want a different future, take responsibility and move in the direction you feel is best for you. And be happy with yourself, and your decisions. :-)
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