Life Should I confront my fiance over text messages I found? - Page 12

threebag · 12-24-2012, 09:21 AM

Don't give away the upper hand until you are ready to walk away from the table. She will turn straight up bitch as if she hasn't already and rob all your shit. Prep this shit set shit aside run the table don't lose your ass.

Don't be a pussy.

**Iowanian** · 12-24-2012, 09:23 AM

Is this the hill you want to die on?

Sometimes women are just bitches. Is she nice To your family?
IF you're going to marry her, you're going to have to figure this out at some point.

That said, jumping her ass about it does 2 things that aren't in your favor. It pisses her off that you're snooping on her and you become the jerk in the argument, and it reveals your information sources, should you ever be suspicious about more serious issues.

Spott · 12-24-2012, 09:28 AM

Don't do it. It's a very douchebag thing to go through someone else's phone. If you confront her, going through someone else's phone is one of those things that are considered deal breakers by a lot of people(myself included).

Al Bundy · 12-24-2012, 09:29 AM

Confront her about it. Period.

DaveNull · 12-24-2012, 09:29 AM

Finding out that she doesn't relish time with your family isn't that big of a deal. Unless she knows you go through her text messages then you'll be setting yourself up for a bigger fight about that, especially since you found something that isn't really a huge issue overall.

Your sister's kid probably is annoying.

**Iowanian** · 12-24-2012, 09:31 AM

I know. I know. I have the perfect Chiefsplanet response.

Print out her text messages, put them in a box and shit on top of them. Then wrap it and give that to her for Christmas at your mom's.

GloryDayz · 12-24-2012, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

I know. I know. I have the perfect Chiefsplanet response.

Print out her text messages, put them in a box and shit on top of them. Then wrap it and give that to her for Christmas at your mom's.

F***... Just give her a Chiefs #7 Jersey with "cASSHOLE" on the back. If she doesn't get it, let the family just point at her and laugh.

RaiderH8r · 12-24-2012, 09:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

I know. I know. I have the perfect Chiefsplanet response.

Print out her text messages, put them in a box and shit on top of them. Then wrap it and give that to her for Christmas at your mom's.

Actually this is better. Do this. Maybe tell her to drink antifreeze.

RaiderH8r · 12-24-2012, 09:34 AM

Put that shit in your pocket and start testing her. Give her chances to come clean or set up situations for her to lie when you already know the truth. Use this to hand her the shovel to dig her own hole then you have the evidence you need without ever tipping your hand.

Also, tell her to make you a sammich.

mcaj22 · 12-24-2012, 09:36 AM

shes going to spin this around on YOU the moment you confront her

she will turn it into the whole "you looked at my phone/invaded my privacy you creep" argument right to the forefront, and your goals and points about your family will be clearly overshadowed

thus she will be mad at you, you will be mad at her, nothing will be resolved and like someone says this could pull you two apart. Because I have never met a female (or anyone for that matter) that was okay with her private crap being looked at. And if this girls been trash talking in her private time, no way she will be okay with it either.

Good luck, no good way to go about this one.

RaiderH8r · 12-24-2012, 09:37 AM

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Originally Posted by mcaj22

shes going to spin this around on YOU the moment you confront her

she will turn it into the whole "you looked at my phone/invaded my privacy you creep" argument right to the forefront, and your goals and points about your family will be clearly overshadowed

thus she will be mad at you, you will be mad at her, nothing will be resolved and like someone says this could pull you two apart. Because I have never met a female that was okay with her private crap being looked at. And if this girls been trash talking in her private time, no way she will be okay with it either.

Good luck, no good way to go about this one.

Women twist every **** up they have around on the guy. Should have never let them vote.

**dirk digler** · 12-24-2012, 11:56 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by mcaj22

shes going to spin this around on YOU the moment you confront her

she will turn it into the whole "you looked at my phone/invaded my privacy you creep" argument right to the forefront, and your goals and points about your family will be clearly overshadowed

thus she will be mad at you, you will be mad at her, nothing will be resolved and like someone says this could pull you two apart. Because I have never met a female (or anyone for that matter) that was okay with her private crap being looked at. And if this girls been trash talking in her private time, no way she will be okay with it either.

Good luck, no good way to go about this one.

yep

Fish · 12-24-2012, 09:39 AM

You are both ****ed up, and I give your potential marriage about a 5% chance of succeeding. If you're engaged, and you're just now seeing "A side of her you've never seen", then that should be a huge red flag. Your insecurity and need to check her messages is a clear sign that you are in no way ready for marriage at this time. And her "Other side" indicates that she's not being open with you about much of what she feels. This is just all ****ed up from every approach. Neither of you sound like you should be considering marriage. No offense of course. Merry Christmas.

FAX · 12-24-2012, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Fish

You are both ****ed up, and I give your potential marriage about a 5% chance of succeeding. If you're engaged, and you're just now seeing "A side of her you've never seen", then that should be a huge red flag. Your insecurity and need to check her messages is a clear sign that you are in no way ready for marriage at this time. And her "Other side" indicates that she's not being open with you about much of what she feels. This is just all ****ed up from every approach. Neither of you sound like you should be considering marriage. No offense of course. Merry Christmas.

Still, the Yep Elf just jammed his teeny, tiny little elf penis in a domesticated, North Pole Yep on this deal.

FAX

**Iowanian** · 12-24-2012, 09:39 AM

The real reason she doesn't like your family is that she used to sleep with your brother and there was an ugly breakup related to something that sounds like schmerpes and schmanerial schwartz.

12-24-2012, 09:21 AM	#1
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12-24-2012, 09:23 AM	#2
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4648454	Is this the hill you want to die on? Sometimes women are just bitches. Is she nice To your family? IF you're going to marry her, you're going to have to figure this out at some point. That said, jumping her ass about it does 2 things that aren't in your favor. It pisses her off that you're snooping on her and you become the jerk in the argument, and it reveals your information sources, should you ever be suspicious about more serious issues.
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12-24-2012, 09:28 AM	#3
Spott Court Jester Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Orlando Casino cash: $2842400	Don't do it. It's a very douchebag thing to go through someone else's phone. If you confront her, going through someone else's phone is one of those things that are considered deal breakers by a lot of people(myself included). Last edited by Spott; 12-24-2012 at 02:02 PM..
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12-24-2012, 09:29 AM	#4
Al Bundy Damnit Peg Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Overland Park Casino cash: $5311831	Confront her about it. Period.
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12-24-2012, 09:29 AM	#5
DaveNull Veteran Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Villa Straylight Casino cash: $10005610	Finding out that she doesn't relish time with your family isn't that big of a deal. Unless she knows you go through her text messages then you'll be setting yourself up for a bigger fight about that, especially since you found something that isn't really a huge issue overall. Your sister's kid probably is annoying.
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12-24-2012, 09:31 AM	#6
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4648454	I know. I know. I have the perfect Chiefsplanet response. Print out her text messages, put them in a box and shit on top of them. Then wrap it and give that to her for Christmas at your mom's.
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12-24-2012, 09:34 AM	#9
RaiderH8r Now it's Willie Time! Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Beating hippies Casino cash: $5083512	Put that shit in your pocket and start testing her. Give her chances to come clean or set up situations for her to lie when you already know the truth. Use this to hand her the shovel to dig her own hole then you have the evidence you need without ever tipping your hand. Also, tell her to make you a sammich. __________________ “You may think RaiderH8r is just a thinker. But I’m not just a thinker. I’m a doer. Every day I go out there, and rev that engine, fire it up, grab a hold of that line between speed and chaos, and wrestle it to the ground like a demon cobra. And when the fear rises up in my belly, I use it. Fear is powerful, because it’s been there for billions of years. And it is good. And I use it. And I ride it; I ride it like a skeleton horse through the gates of hell.”
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12-24-2012, 09:36 AM	#10
mcaj22 MVP Join Date: Feb 2010 Casino cash: $10014454	shes going to spin this around on YOU the moment you confront her she will turn it into the whole "you looked at my phone/invaded my privacy you creep" argument right to the forefront, and your goals and points about your family will be clearly overshadowed thus she will be mad at you, you will be mad at her, nothing will be resolved and like someone says this could pull you two apart. Because I have never met a female (or anyone for that matter) that was okay with her private crap being looked at. And if this girls been trash talking in her private time, no way she will be okay with it either. Good luck, no good way to go about this one.
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12-24-2012, 09:39 AM	#13
Fish Ain't no relax! Join Date: Sep 2005 Casino cash: $2038919	You are both **ed up, and I give your potential marriage about a 5% chance of succeeding. If you're engaged, and you're just now seeing "A side of her you've never seen", then that should be a huge red flag. Your insecurity and need to check her messages is a clear sign that you are in no way ready for marriage at this time. And her "Other side" indicates that she's not being open with you about much of what she feels. This is just all **ed up from every approach. Neither of you sound like you should be considering marriage. No offense of course. Merry Christmas. __________________
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