Life GF of 3 years left me yesterday.... - Page 16

Pushead2 · 01-04-2011, 07:55 AM

She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore.....

I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window.

I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think?

Pushead2 · 01-05-2011, 04:43 AM

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Originally Posted by beach tribe

I'm really sorry to hear this bro. These things can be HARD. Whatever you do don't bitch up. Don't beg and whine. Be strong my friend.

Nice, but firm. Be accepting of the things she has said, but don't say you're gonna change.
Be self sufficient. Do not blow up her phone.

The more you try to pull her back to you, the further you will push her away. It's 50/50 right now IMO.

If it doesn't work out in the end. I'm really sorry, but we've all been there.
I know I wanted to die as I laid face first in the carpet for about a month, and carried the pain for what seemed like forever.
That taught me a lot, but I'm not going to lie. It still stings 9 years later. The wounds heal but the scars never go away.
I don't sweat it though......

cause my new GF is WAY HOTTER, and is into more of the same shit that I am.
Old GF used to give me shit about my Chiefs addiction. This GF buys me an Eric Berry jersey, and herself a little tight pink #7. Oh man I grab her by her ass, and throw he on the bed then I....*ahem*..... sorry.

Seriously though, its not the end of the world, even though it feels like it.

OK here comes the REALLY hard part. I'm not doing this to hurt you, but I know women.

99% chance she's met someone. And if you guys are under 25 like I think you are. This is probably the best thing that ever happened to you. If you were ready to break out the ring, her doing this now IS the best thing you could've hoped for. Live your life dude. By your own rules. Do what YOU want to do. Bang some strange.

And just as a word of advice, make sure you've survived something seriously straining, and came out of it stronger before you break out the finger cuff.

She hasn't met anyone else.....we've always had honesty. I've left someone before because I was interested in someone else & I wasn't torn up one bit. With her she's hysterical crying, if there was another guy she would be hurt but not hysterical.

and today I feel good.....I feel a little bit better. I have a ton of friends & I have hockey buddies so I'll be keeping busy with that & finishing my degree.

So life will go on....

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

She hasn't met anyone else.....we've always had honesty. I've left someone before because I was interested in someone else & I wasn't torn up one bit. With her she's hysterical crying, if there was another guy she would be hurt but not hysterical.

and today I feel good.....I feel a little bit better. I have a ton of friends & I have hockey buddies so I'll be keeping busy with that & finishing my degree.

So life will go on....

I've left a lot of girls with zero prospects on my radar. But a girl's brain doesn't work like ours does.................My God. What is wrong with me. I'm sorry dude.
You're right bro. Your'e right......

Everyday will be better.

**Ming the Merciless** · 01-05-2011, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

She hasn't met anyone else.....we've always had honesty.

SOrry bro...

You may be wrong here....

DOn't just assume this if she is acting like you say she is. I was with someone for longer than 4 years and she acted almost exactly how you describe..

And I found out much later she was a liar and cheated on me.

Just ****ing be warned, they are not like us.

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 04:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

Did you have a good time for 3 years? Did you learn and grow from this relationship? Has it helped you narrow the dynamics relating to the personality of a gal with whom you would want to spend the rest of your life? Has this relationship left you scarred, hating women, needing a lawyer, paying child or spousal support, or missing half of your worldly possessions?

Frankly, it sounds like you had a great time dude. It hurts, yeah but this one will pass fast. You'll have fond memories of this gal in no time at all. Now, live your life and when the one shows up you'll be in a better spot.

I wish I would have said this instead

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 04:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

another thing is she has NO family here in NYC & very little friends....She's from Oklahoma but came here to go to NYU.

So the fact that she's willing to accept being VERY lonely is making me think it's over but at the same time thinking once she sees how lonely she will be she'll think twice.

He is wrong PM, but why the **** did I have to be the asshole to make him privy to it.

Girls don't leave guys to be alone, unless she HATES him, and cannot strand the sight of him. Doesn't sound like this is the case with the two of you.

**Dunit35** · 01-05-2011, 04:54 AM

Keep your head up.

Three years ago I had to leave a relationship and I thought it was the end of the world. I am now happier than ever with my fiance of 16 months. She is so much better than any women I've ever dated. She's into sports, guns, cooking, cleaning, playing video games with me...what more could a man ask for?

Pushead2 · 01-05-2011, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Pawnmower

SOrry bro...

You may be wrong here....

DOn't just assume this if she is acting like you say she is. I was with someone for longer than 4 years and she acted almost exactly how you describe..

And I found out much later she was a liar and cheated on me.

Just ****ing be warned, they are not like us.

I'm just not going to sit & think about that because it will do me no good you know?

She said there wasn't & that's that for me.

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Dunit35

Keep your head up.

Three years ago I had to leave a relationship and I thought it was the end of the world. I am now happier than ever with my fiance of 16 months. She is so much better than any women I've ever dated. She's into sports, guns, cooking, cleaning, playing video games with me...what more could a man ask for?

**** yeah dude. And I will bet anything that if this guy just lets this chick walk, he'll find someone that he can be himself around, and not have to worry about someone trying to change him.

Pushead2 · 01-05-2011, 05:01 AM

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Originally Posted by beach tribe

**** yeah dude. And I will bet anything that if this guy just lets this chick walk, he'll find someone that he can be himself around, and not have to worry about someone trying to change him.

for sure, I've ceased contact on all ground. It's time to go forward with or without her.

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 05:03 AM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

I'm just not going to sit & think about that because it will do me no good you know?

She said there wasn't & that's that for me.

And you know her better than any of us. Don't let what we've said creep into your head if you feel otherwise. Like you said, what good will that kind of thinking do? NONE.

**Dunit35** · 01-05-2011, 05:04 AM

I ceased all contact with her probably a month after we left each other and it felt like a weight was lifted off my back. With the help of a fellow cp member, I was getting much better daily. You'll be on your feet and ready to rock out before you know it.

**Ming the Merciless** · 01-05-2011, 05:05 AM

Hit the gym.

Forget that bitch.

Everythign she says is lies.

Thats all you need to think of.

(youll thank me in a couple years)

beach tribe · 01-05-2011, 05:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Pushead2

for sure, I've ceased contact on all ground. It's time to go forward with or without her.

You're gonna be fine dude. I turned into a biotch the first time this happened to me. The outta nowhere thing. I had actually already bought the ring. I am sooooooooo glad I never gave it to her. She'd probably be driving around in my Jeep right now.

Pushead2 · 01-05-2011, 05:09 AM

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Originally Posted by Dunit35

I ceased all contact with her probably a month after we left each other and it felt like a weight was lifted off my back. With the help of a fellow cp member, I was getting much better daily. You'll be on your feet and ready to rock out before you know it.

thanks dude, within a few weeks I'll be fine. I got get friends that surround me. It doesn't hurt that I'm an alternate captain on my hockey team so a lot of the players have been supportive of me & making sure I'm ok. It's like a small family we have.

Pushead2 · 01-05-2011, 05:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Pawnmower

Hit the gym.

Forget that bitch.

Everythign she says is lies.

Thats all you need to think of.

(youll thank me in a couple years)

amen, except I'll never see her as a bitch (just no reason to think that) & we were fairly open nothing hidden.

thanks for the support.

01-04-2011, 07:55 AM
Pushead2 **** off Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New York Casino cash: $7391882	GF of 3 years left me yesterday.... She's going for her PhD, it takes up a lot of her time & I felt a tad bit neglected. I know it's tough for her as it is but I told her how I felt. She told me in response that she loves me to death but doesn't feel the same about being in love with me anymore..... I'm still young & I've left a long relationship (4 years) before but this was different. She was more than my gf but my best friend too.....I was planning on proposing to her later this year but that's clearly out the window. I'm getting 50/50 opinions from people on if I should just let her be & move on or fight for the girl I love / my best friend. She was all torn up hysterically crying last night when the conversation was going on.....Don't know, felt like I needed to air it out to a different crowd than my friends. What y'all think?
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01-05-2011, 04:54 AM	#231
Dunit35 Keepin it Real Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Oklahoma Casino cash: $1537045	Keep your head up. Three years ago I had to leave a relationship and I thought it was the end of the world. I am now happier than ever with my fiance of 16 months. She is so much better than any women I've ever dated. She's into sports, guns, cooking, cleaning, playing video games with me...what more could a man ask for?
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01-05-2011, 05:04 AM	#236
Dunit35 Keepin it Real Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Oklahoma Casino cash: $1537045	I ceased all contact with her probably a month after we left each other and it felt like a weight was lifted off my back. With the help of a fellow cp member, I was getting much better daily. You'll be on your feet and ready to rock out before you know it.
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