Would/could/should you ever hit a woman back?

[GoHuge]

I was out last night with some friends and it was 8 or 9 couples. We went to dinner, the boats, and then to P&L. One of my buddies has a new girlfriend and she's just kinda weird. Couldn't really put my finger on it, but we where all watching the Pavlik/Martinez fight and she starts going on and on about how boxing is for whimps because she does MMA. This chick was just getting dumber and dumber as the night went on and the more she drank. When we all got down to P&L she starts yelling at my buddy and within 20 seconds just sucker punched him 2-3 times in the face. Everyone just kind of froze like WTF? His mouth/nose where bleeding and she went after him again. They where like 15 yards behind us so none of us where right there to stop it immediatley, but it got broken up quick. He just went into a ball and did nothing. I asked him how he just say there and he said "I can't hit a girl."

I've been slapped by a girl before, but not a big deal. It's what some of the high drama ones do. You hang out with anyone like that and you deserve it. I think fighting is absolutely ridiculous unless it's to protect yourself, your family, or a person that can't protect themselves for whatever reason.

If you where that guy what would you have done? I'd like to think I would just do something to restrain her, or push her down, or whatever. Or I might have went bat shit crazy....not sure. My buddy had told me she's pretty bad ass at the MMA stuff and never lost a match, etc as she was talking down boxing. So she's a trained fighter and makes herself a combatant with closed fists. How is she any different than any of these other athletes like football players, boxers, that assault other people because they really know how to hurt them or are much bigger and stronger? IMO a bully is a bully and should be looked at as such. Having never been in a situation like I'm honestly not sure what I'd do in the heat of the moment. If anybody closes their fists and sucker punches you are they fair game? Do you get your man card pulled for returning fire?

[Bwana]

Originally Posted by Otter

She deserved a punch in the throat if you ask me. Once you start throwing punches to the face that bloody me up you lose your lady privileges.

I can speak from the experience that usually the better you get at defending yourself the less likely you are to engage someone. It's no longer two frat boys throwing haymakers hoping one lands. You can really **** someone up if you know what your doing. Not saying I'm Bwana caliber but I'm working on it.

Did he do anything to antagonize her? Kinda weird that she would just start swinging out of the blue unless she's a total psycho.

Heh, I know I have told this story before, but the short version is I had a chick try to kill me one night with a piece of picture frame glass after the crazy bitch threw the picture up against the wall when she was on the whisky. She ran at me yelling "I'm going to kill you!" I don't have to tell you Joe, you don't think, you react. I threw a front kick, it hit her, she hit the wall, wind gone, problem solved. I was living with her at the time, I called her mother and told her she had 30 minutes to come get her DNA, or it and all her belongings we going out on the front lawn. That was the last time I saw her. Would I normally hit a female, no, when they try to kill me and my life is on the line, you're damn right.

[Gonzo]

"I apologize for way back when I hit you the first time."

[Otter]

Originally Posted by Bwana

Heh, I know I have told this story before, but the short version is I had a chick try to kill me one night with a piece of picture frame glass after the crazy bitch threw the picture up against the wall when she was on the whisky. She ran at me yelling "I'm going to kill you!" I don't have to tell you Joe, you don't think, you react. I threw a front kick, it hit her, she hit the wall, wind gone, problem solved. I was living with her at the time, I called her mother and told her she had 30 minutes to come get her DNA, or it and all her belongings we going out on the front lawn. That was the last time I saw her. Would I normally hit a female, no, when they try to kill me and my life is on the line, you're damn right.

I've heard that one before but it never gets old.

Yeah man, I'm not condoning hitting women by a long shot. But hell, this chick didn't slap him or throw a drink in his face. She was an MMA trained drunk, violent nutjob hitting him hard enough to bloody him up in front of his friends and other strangers.

A line was crossed there which as far as I'm concerned is rational for (thanks MoHillbilly) "wanna go nuts? Ok, let's go ****ing bonkers!".

Ugly subject but that's my take.

[raybec 4]

Either way you slice it there's no positive outcome if your the guy. You either beat up a woman or get beat up by one. So **** it, beat that bitches ass. (unless you deserve to be punched and if you deserved it you know it 99% of the time.)

['Hamas' Jenkins]

I've found that throwing a drink in their face is a great way to escalate the situation.

[Bill Lundberg]

Let me start off by stating that my curiosity of the opposite sex began at a very early age. The whole, girls are gross thing never really applied to me. As early as the 2nd grade myself and a couple of buddies would take over the tire forts at recess and two of us would “guard” the fort while the third was inside playing “I’ll show you mine if you show me yours”, which usually meant punching around in the girls panties. I don’t know what’s scarier, the fact that we did this as 8 year olds or the fact that we always found willing girls. As I assume most kids do, I always had a “girlfriend”.

In the 4th grade that girlfriend was Misty. Misty was the cute, popular girl with blond hair and blue eyes. Apparently 4th grade was a good year for me because all the girls would send me the “Will you go out with me? Yes/No Circle One” notes. One glorious day I received one of those notes from Jenny. Jenny was a fiery little red headed tom boy. She refused to play little league softball with the girls because she wanted to play baseball with the boys. Looking back on this I’m surprised she didn’t grow up to be a lesbian, but I digress. Apparently Jenny didn’t know I was “going out” with Misty so I checked yes and fired the note back to her. I now officially had two girlfriends and was on top of the world. This lasted all of roughly 2 hours.

Afternoon recess rolls around and Jenny and Misty confront me. I guess it didn’t take long for word to get out that I had two girlfriends. They demanded that I chose one on the spot. Naturally, I chose Misty (I’ve always been a sucker for Blonds). Before I finished speaking Misty’s name Jenny punched me twice in the face, it was a mean 1-2 combination. A crowd gathered all my buddies are urging me to kick her ass; it was your typical playground fight scene. One problem, my dad always told me if I ever hit a girl I might as well not bother coming home due to the amount of damage he would do to me with “the belt” once I got home. Knowing this I just stood there and took it, then it happened, Jenny wound up her right leg and, with the force of an Ryan Succop field goal attempt, drilled me right in the nuts. I dropped to my knees in tears and the teacher came to break up the crowd. I was devastated physically and emotionally. I just got my ass kicked by a girl.

School resumed and I told the teacher I was sick and needed to see the nurse. I convinced her to let me call my mother (a teacher at the same school) and let me go home for the day. Upon arriving home my mom tells dad the story and without hesitation he says, “If anyone boy or girl ever does that to you, you have every right to defend yourself. You can’t let them get away with that.” Would have been great information the day before…

Now, 25 years later I probably still wouldn't hit a girl even if she kicked me in the beans. But I sure as hell would keep it from getting to that point to begin with.

[Frazod]

Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

I've found that throwing a drink in their face is a great way to escalate the situation.

So is asking them how many pounds of makeup they're wearing.