Life Parental Advice- Re: Xbox 360 - Page 2

teedubya · 02-04-2013, 06:14 PM

Alright, my 11 year old son said a friend of his "gave" him his copy of Black Ops 2, because he thought he had lost it... got another copy and gave this other copy to my son.

I don't want my kids playing these violent video games, as it is, so I wouldn't buy this game for him.

Well, my son's friend's mom just called me and told me that they couldn't find the game anywhere... and they last remember playing it when my son was there.

My son then changed his story when confronted, saying that he was "borrowing" it and that his friend said that he could.

This is the third instance of him grabbing something that doesn't belong to him. He used my stored credit card in the XBOX to buy a bunch of credits to download games about 7-8 months ago. He took a gold peace sign necklace from my mom about 4 months ago. And now this.

So, should I sell the XBOX 360 or not? My instinct says yes. What say you?

TL;DR my son stole something for the 3rd time in the past 8 months, should I sell the XBOX?

**Buck** · 02-04-2013, 06:23 PM

I voted to sell it, but I just bought a 360 and notice there were pretty extensive parental controls.

If you don't want to sell it, but don't want him playing it for a while, I'm sure you could change the settings to where he couldn't play it even if he had access to it.

teedubya · 02-04-2013, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Sorter

Take your son out into your backyard. Show him where you have placed the xbox. Remove the baseball bat from behind your back. Smash xbox repeatedly.

Repeat 3X for effect.

Look your son in the eyes, then smile as you light it on fire.

where does the AIDS and antifreeze come into play? I'm confused.

**The Franchise** · 02-04-2013, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by teedubya

We have it in the game room.... most of the time it is in the living room though.

My kids have no TV's in their rooms. Nor computers.

1. Take away the Xbox for 3 months.
2. Password protect all purchases.
3. When he gets it back....the Xbox gets moved to where he has to play it where you can see.

KCUnited · 02-04-2013, 06:24 PM

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teedubya · 02-04-2013, 06:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Buck

I voted to sell it, but I just bought a 360 and notice there were pretty extensive parental controls.

If you don't want to sell it, but don't want him playing it for a while, I'm sure you could change the settings to where he couldn't play it even if he had access to it.

I never play the XBOX... but maybe I can lock it down. Good idea. Thanks, man.

Ceej · 02-04-2013, 06:25 PM

Can I change my vote to - "what you would have rather done to Thannon Tharpe when you saw him in public?"

Sorter · 02-04-2013, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by teedubya

where does the AIDS and antifreeze come into play? I'm confused.

**Iowanian** · 02-04-2013, 06:27 PM

My preschool daughter came home with 13 pennies from a boy on the bus and I made her give them to the boys' mom. My kids won't take things that aren't theirs and they will learn it as the opportunity comes.

If my kid stole 3 times, I'd beat their butt hard enough they would pray HARP Rings would bring aliens to vaccinate them with pit bull teeth to numb them.

Not sure if I'd sell the Xbox or smash it in front of them.

We have a Zero tolerance policy on theft here. No gray area.

teedubya · 02-04-2013, 06:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Cave Johnson

Taking away the 360 is a good start, but it sounds like you need to reevaluate how your parenting has led to stealing being acceptable (e.g., weak punishment for the necklace heist).

Or, if you're anything like my BIL, you should get off your GD computer and spend more time with your son.

The punishment for the "necklace heist" was he deleted all of the progress on the XBOX and didn't have access to it, the computer or the iPad for 6 weeks.

He got a couple swats with the belt, as well.

teedubya · 02-04-2013, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

My preschool daughter came home with 13 pennies from a boy on the bus and I made her give them to the boys' mom. My kids won't take things that aren't theirs and they will learn it as the opportunity comes.

If my kid stole 3 times, I'd beat their butt hard enough they would pray HARP Rings would bring aliens to vaccinate them with pit bull teeth to numb them.

Not sure if I'd sell the Xbox or smash it in front of them.

We have a Zero tolerance policy on theft here. No gray area.

As soon as my wife gets home, I'm taking him over there to his friend's house to have him confront the situation.

I'm with you on the no theft zero tolerance.

-King- · 02-04-2013, 06:30 PM

You know what... to teach him a lesson, don't take the entire xbox away. Just take his controller and hard drive. That way he will always see it but never be able to use it.
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**hometeam** · 02-04-2013, 06:31 PM

Just throwing this out there, and not making a judgement by any means. But, do you think not allowing them to have violent games and hoarding all the digital play devices in the living room is fueling a need to act out?

Fritz88 · 02-04-2013, 06:31 PM

I think he should know why you are going to take a certain course of action because he committed a mistake. But the issue is that he seems to be "taking" things from people without their permission. I am not sure how taking the XBOX from him will fix the problem.

Take it and you surely need to do something else to address what he has been doing.

**Gadzooks** · 02-04-2013, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Molitoth

Sit him down and explain the negatives of theft, and how someday it will effect him and the things he owns.

This, take his Xbox away, (don't get rid of it). While you're speaking to him, look at him as though he's repulsive.
This method should shame him into understanding that his underhanded actions are also repulsive.
Also, try to setup something where he can earn his Xbox back through positive behavior. Something that would take 2 weeks to a month to accomplish.
Problem solved. Your welcome.

**Iowanian** · 02-04-2013, 06:32 PM

Making him return it, look them in the face and dealing with the consequences is a good start.

Call the mom before hand and ask her to tell him that 'she's very disappointed" in him and that he can't return for a while.

All theft should be dealt with by hulk smash.

I forgot a boy gave my first grader a dollar last fall and she had to return it as well. It's not hers, she didn't steal, but right is right.

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Yes, you should sell it.	66	65.35%
No, you shouldn't sell it. Just ground him for awhile	29	28.71%
No. That would be mean to sell it.	3	2.97%
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02-04-2013, 06:14 PM
teedubya Most Valuable Poster Join Date: Oct 2003 Casino cash: $9480002	Parental Advice- Re: Xbox 360 Alright, my 11 year old son said a friend of his "gave" him his copy of Black Ops 2, because he thought he had lost it... got another copy and gave this other copy to my son. I don't want my kids playing these violent video games, as it is, so I wouldn't buy this game for him. Well, my son's friend's mom just called me and told me that they couldn't find the game anywhere... and they last remember playing it when my son was there. My son then changed his story when confronted, saying that he was "borrowing" it and that his friend said that he could. This is the third instance of him grabbing something that doesn't belong to him. He used my stored credit card in the XBOX to buy a bunch of credits to download games about 7-8 months ago. He took a gold peace sign necklace from my mom about 4 months ago. And now this. So, should I sell the XBOX 360 or not? My instinct says yes. What say you? TL;DR my son stole something for the 3rd time in the past 8 months, should I sell the XBOX?
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02-04-2013, 06:23 PM	#16
Buck Take a Chill Pill Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: South Carolina Casino cash: $8319900	I voted to sell it, but I just bought a 360 and notice there were pretty extensive parental controls. If you don't want to sell it, but don't want him playing it for a while, I'm sure you could change the settings to where he couldn't play it even if he had access to it.
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Ceej BOOM!1! Join Date: Aug 2004 Casino cash: $9475541	Can I change my vote to - "what you would have rather done to Thannon Tharpe when you saw him in public?"
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02-04-2013, 06:27 PM	#23
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4748454	My preschool daughter came home with 13 pennies from a boy on the bus and I made her give them to the boys' mom. My kids won't take things that aren't theirs and they will learn it as the opportunity comes. If my kid stole 3 times, I'd beat their butt hard enough they would pray HARP Rings would bring aliens to vaccinate them with pit bull teeth to numb them. Not sure if I'd sell the Xbox or smash it in front of them. We have a Zero tolerance policy on theft here. No gray area.
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02-04-2013, 06:30 PM	#26
-King- ▓▓▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▒▓▓ Join Date: Jan 2009 Casino cash: $2455743	You know what... to teach him a lesson, don't take the entire xbox away. Just take his controller and hard drive. That way he will always see it but never be able to use it. Posted via Mobile Device
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02-04-2013, 06:31 PM	#27
hometeam Supporter Join Date: Jul 2011 Casino cash: $4091956	Just throwing this out there, and not making a judgement by any means. But, do you think not allowing them to have violent games and hoarding all the digital play devices in the living room is fueling a need to act out?
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02-04-2013, 06:31 PM	#28
Fritz88 Custom User Title Join Date: Nov 2008 Casino cash: $8855943	I think he should know why you are going to take a certain course of action because he committed a mistake. But the issue is that he seems to be "taking" things from people without their permission. I am not sure how taking the XBOX from him will fix the problem. Take it and you surely need to do something else to address what he has been doing.
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02-04-2013, 06:32 PM	#30
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4748454	Making him return it, look them in the face and dealing with the consequences is a good start. Call the mom before hand and ask her to tell him that 'she's very disappointed" in him and that he can't return for a while. All theft should be dealt with by hulk smash. I forgot a boy gave my first grader a dollar last fall and she had to return it as well. It's not hers, she didn't steal, but right is right.
Posts: 61,534