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View Poll Results: Did you seek father's permission/blessing? | |||
Yes, it is a tradition I wanted to keep | 42 | 27.10% | |
Yes, it is a tradition I knew spouse's family wanted to keep | 19 | 12.26% | |
No | 78 | 50.32% | |
I've never proposed | 16 | 10.32% | |
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01-16-2013, 12:04 PM | #76 |
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No, not his decision.
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01-16-2013, 12:05 PM | #77 |
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i think it truly does vary n a case by case basis.
the girl/woman's relation ship with her father, and or family. knowing how big family was to her, well Family, I wanted to do it. It would not have gone over well had I not from a disrespect POV. But, it worked out because I would've done it anyway. and, as Okoye said, I don't think it's so much of asking for permission these days, but a blessing. The blessing can be denied, and yiou'll be married anyway etc, but a blessing (depending on the sort of family you're entering into) would be gravy. of course, if you don't get a blessing, it's probably because you're a dirtbag, or the father is a prick. I'd say any stand-up, grown man would get a blessing otherwise.
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01-16-2013, 12:07 PM | #78 | |
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01-16-2013, 12:07 PM | #79 |
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I didn't ask, but he was there when I proposed. Her Mom knew it was coming though.
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And for the record if you feel like you have to odds are you'll end up a much more happy husband...
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01-16-2013, 12:09 PM | #81 | |
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When I asked him for his blessing I only brought a bottle of wine... |
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01-16-2013, 12:11 PM | #82 |
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Never been married, have no kids. For now I'd err on the side of not asking. It seems outdated and very mildly sexist. I'm young, but I've never been in a serious relationship with a woman who seemed to find things like that important.
That being said, I don't feel so strongly about it that I wouldn't do it if I knew that it was important to either my fiancee or her family. It's a small thing to do if it means gaining the respect and affection of people you're probably going to be around the rest of your life. |
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01-16-2013, 12:12 PM | #83 |
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My future in laws didn't like me, and I didn't really care for them....so no. And I don't feel the slightest bit bad about it.
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good point. they're seriously the only ones that I know of that are divorced in her entire huge family/extended family.
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01-16-2013, 12:14 PM | #85 |
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You're not a father yet. Imagine the best outcome of any woman you might want to date right now. She's perfect. You get married. Then Imagine (yeah, I was like 25 before this hit me) that in this perfect life some half-whit-low-britches-tard has convinced your precious that he's the best thing since rock music on the radio. He doesn't give a $3it if you like him either...
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I don't recommend that course of action, by the way. We were lucky and blessed. Most high school marriages over a baby wind up failing. 20 years and counting for us.
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I didn't, but I figured he wouldn't have a problem with it since he suggested we move in together before we were even engaged. He and I get along together great. I've been with my wife for 23 years now, and married for almost 19 of those years.
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Didn't. Kind of wish I had in retrospect. Not a big deal though...
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01-16-2013, 12:19 PM | #90 |
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lots of good perspectives in here; truly.
I also think if the daughter is extremely close to her father, that it would impact the decision as well. But again.....lots of variables in the decision.
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