What is the appropriate age for "the talk"?

Mr. Plow · 04-25-2007, 02:16 PM

As a parent of an 8 year old, I often tell myself that he is "far to young to be thinking about sex, drugs, etc." I have already begun the drug talks. I have even brought him here, to the Planet, to show the affects drugs can have.

With how kids seem to be more interested in these types of things at a younger age than I was, I am starting to wonder if I am being completely naive to what my oldest knows about and talks about to his friends.

So, the short version - what is the appropriate age for the birds & bees talk nowadays?

ROYC75 · 04-25-2007, 02:20 PM

I told III this at age 10, he spent the next 3 days outside with a pair of binoculars on..........

SLAG · 04-25-2007, 02:20 PM

4th grade

**CosmicPal** · 04-25-2007, 02:23 PM

I'd show him how it's done.

StcChief · 04-25-2007, 02:24 PM

I'll Go with SLAG

now a adays likely 4th Grade. Old enough and attention span for the conversation.

What is done at your school regarding drug talk.

SEX maybe 5th.

**Iowanian** · 04-25-2007, 02:26 PM

Have Monte Python teach him about the act of mating.....

Show him some old Quicksurfer posts to show the danger of the other.

Drug talk now......the other in 5th grade.

Mr. Plow · 04-25-2007, 02:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by StcChief

I'll Go with SLAG

now a adays likely 4th Grade. Old enough and attention span for the conversation.

What is done at your school regarding drug talk.

SEX maybe 5th.

They've been talking about "Say no to drugs" and all that jazz. Same stuff that I went through, but much later in life.

I've done the same with him. Talk about what to do if someone offers him drugs, etc. Not going into to many details, just trying to set a foundation to build upon as he gets older.

wutamess · 04-25-2007, 02:28 PM

My daughter just turned 10. I gave her "the talk" around 6 mos ago. It's hard to wait too long with the influences T.V. has on the childs brain. Sex is everywhere (even with the filter).

I know she's curious but she knows we can talk candidly about the subject as I've busted her on ifilm looking at a comedians (sexual positions) video Thank God for History feature.

And she was only on there trying to find music videos.

She thought she'd get in trouble when I gave her the opportunity to come clean. I told her she'd get in trouble the next time though and to ask me about it if she has any questions and I'd answer them.

Next freaking question out of her mouth is... "do you and mama do those positions". I responded with... "Your mama's a freak". Of course the wifey didn't like it too well but it let my daughter know that I'd candidly (probably too honest) answer her ?'s.

BTW: The school had them watch a video about sex (a coupla weeks ago) and had a Q&A afterwards. The daughter still had questions and I answered them that night.

Boys... I think I'd wait a year depending on the child. They develop slower than girls. Childern as a whole grow up so fast these days. I wasn't thinking about nothing but playing outside at that age (aside from the "show me yours I'll show you mine" with the distant cousin)

Reerun_KC · 04-25-2007, 02:32 PM

Been talking to my daughter about it since she was 10 or 11.. She is now 14 and understands that men are worthless shit bags...

Chiefnj · 04-25-2007, 02:34 PM

For the drug talk I'd suggest playing Requiem For a Dream for the lad. That should discourage him for a few years.

Mr. Plow · 04-25-2007, 02:36 PM

Dear God. I've got a baby daughter on the way (due in Sept) and I can only imagine how I will be when she gets to this age. Luckily, she will have 3 older brothers that I will teach to beat up any boy that comes with in touching distance of her.

htismaqe · 04-25-2007, 02:37 PM

I'm gonna tell my kids that if anyone ever offers them drugs, bring them to me immediately.

BigRock · 04-25-2007, 02:39 PM

Man, 5th grade seems awfully late for a sex talk, IMO. When I was in 3rd grade my friends were sneaking their older brothers' Playboys out of the house to show the rest of us, and we had our first "health" class about it during 4th grade. And that was over 15 years ago.

I don't have kids, but I can only assume that, like every generation, they find out about this stuff younger and younger. I'd say like... when they're 8 or 9.

**Iowanian** · 04-25-2007, 02:40 PM

My wife will be tasked with speaking on the sex topics with any daughters, I'll tend to the boys.

I don't think I could have that chat with a daughter..boyond the

"you tell all the boys If you See a Pickle, your daddy will pull it out and show them the roots".

htismaqe · 04-25-2007, 02:43 PM

I'm worried about the whole sex talk with my girls. I don't have any boys, and I'm a goddamn pervert.

04-25-2007, 02:16 PM
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04-25-2007, 02:20 PM	#2
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04-25-2007, 02:28 PM	#8
wutamess MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $5381637	My daughter just turned 10. I gave her "the talk" around 6 mos ago. It's hard to wait too long with the influences T.V. has on the childs brain. Sex is everywhere (even with the filter). I know she's curious but she knows we can talk candidly about the subject as I've busted her on ifilm looking at a comedians (sexual positions) video Thank God for History feature. And she was only on there trying to find music videos. She thought she'd get in trouble when I gave her the opportunity to come clean. I told her she'd get in trouble the next time though and to ask me about it if she has any questions and I'd answer them. Next freaking question out of her mouth is... "do you and mama do those positions". I responded with... "Your mama's a freak". Of course the wifey didn't like it too well but it let my daughter know that I'd candidly (probably too honest) answer her ?'s. BTW: The school had them watch a video about sex (a coupla weeks ago) and had a Q&A afterwards. The daughter still had questions and I answered them that night. Boys... I think I'd wait a year depending on the child. They develop slower than girls. Childern as a whole grow up so fast these days. I wasn't thinking about nothing but playing outside at that age (aside from the "show me yours I'll show you mine" with the distant cousin) Last edited by wutamess; 04-25-2007 at 02:37 PM..
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04-25-2007, 02:32 PM	#9
Reerun_KC Rock Chalk Jayhawks! KU!!! Join Date: Aug 2005 Casino cash: $8301160	Been talking to my daughter about it since she was 10 or 11.. She is now 14 and understands that men are worthless shit bags...
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04-25-2007, 02:34 PM	#10
Chiefnj MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Willis, Harris and Davis. Casino cash: $10004900	For the drug talk I'd suggest playing Requiem For a Dream for the lad. That should discourage him for a few years. __________________ "I always tell (the assistant coaches), 'Make it simple, 'cause I'm stupid,'" Edwards said. "This ain't computer football." Herm Edwards, 3-20-07 Q: Herm, back on December 25th you were asked if Trent Green was your starter going into next season and you said, ‘yeah, why wouldn’t he be?’ Have you changed your mind on that? EDWARDS: No, I have not.” (1-11-07)
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04-25-2007, 02:36 PM	#11
Mr. Plow In Search of a Life Join Date: Dec 2005 Casino cash: $1977391	Dear God. I've got a baby daughter on the way (due in Sept) and I can only imagine how I will be when she gets to this age. Luckily, she will have 3 older brothers that I will teach to beat up any boy that comes with in touching distance of her.
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04-25-2007, 02:37 PM	#12
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04-25-2007, 02:39 PM	#13
BigRock Pritay Pritay Pritay Good Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: The State of Euphoria Casino cash: $3415412	Man, 5th grade seems awfully late for a sex talk, IMO. When I was in 3rd grade my friends were sneaking their older brothers' Playboys out of the house to show the rest of us, and we had our first "health" class about it during 4th grade. And that was over 15 years ago. I don't have kids, but I can only assume that, like every generation, they find out about this stuff younger and younger. I'd say like... when they're 8 or 9.
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04-25-2007, 02:40 PM	#14
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $4758454	My wife will be tasked with speaking on the sex topics with any daughters, I'll tend to the boys. I don't think I could have that chat with a daughter..boyond the "you tell all the boys If you See a Pickle, your daddy will pull it out and show them the roots".
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04-25-2007, 02:43 PM	#15
htismaqe 'Tis my eye! Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Chiefsplanet Casino cash: $10269900	I'm worried about the whole sex talk with my girls. I don't have any boys, and I'm a goddamn pervert.
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