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MTG#10 · 08-01-2013, 03:42 PM

Ok here's what's going on:

My ex and I have been divorced for a 2-3 years. We agreed to 50/50 everything with our kids...time with them, decision making, etc. My address is their legal address for mailing and educational purposes. Neither one of us pay child support, and even though the time with them is supposed to be 50/50 its more like 60/40 with me and Ive been keeping a detailed log for the last year.

Ex meets another guy, he joins the army a year later, they get married about 3 months after he joins. He now finds out he's being relocated to a base in Georgia. Ex thinks she is going to move with him and take our kids with her.

Everything the kids need or have ever known are here. Their school they've gone to since they started, me, their entire family on both sides...everything.

Is there anything for me to worry about? I know judges want to do whats best for the kids, so surely no judge would let her uproot and move them to another state without my consent, right? The only thing Im worried about is the military thing, that maybe they'd get special treatment for that...but at the same time, he decided to join after they were together and they both knew her situation with my kids. My lawyer doesn't think I have anything to worry about, but of course he's going to tell me that since he wants my $.

**Dave Lane** · 03-29-2014, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by MTG#10

Finally received her intent to relocate my kids by certified mail a few days ago and hired a new, supposedly better attorney today. Apparently this woman has won numerous awards and has been voted in the top 10 of all family attorneys in MO by her peers for 8 years in a row.

$2500 retainer, and I had to sign a contract stating I understand that if it goes to trial (likely will) it will cost AT LEAST another $5000, but most likely more. Does this sound excessive to anyone else for an objection to relocation? My divorce was $900 bucks.

My divorce was $25,000 and that was just attorney fees.

go bo · 03-29-2014, 09:05 PM

yeah dave, but cosmos-centric people like yourself always have to pay more...

and i would guess your property settlement was a little complicated which tends to drive up the price...

MTG#10 · 03-30-2014, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Chazno

MTG, I talked with you about this last year. I ran it quickly by my wife, the female family law attorney (shameless plug) and she echoed much that has been said here. Missouri is tough on relocations especially when they are following a new love interest. But, she emphasized, do not miss that deadline.

Also the rate is not unreasonable. Remember even you give the attorney money now, it's not theirs until they give you an invoice for work completed. My wife's detail each hour spent for more piece of mind.

Thanks, this post made me feel a lot better. Rep.

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08-01-2013, 03:42 PM
MTG#10 Mammoth penis Join Date: May 2006 Location: Springfield Casino cash: $7534386	Any lawyers here? Need advice on complicated custody dispute Ok here's what's going on: My ex and I have been divorced for a 2-3 years. We agreed to 50/50 everything with our kids...time with them, decision making, etc. My address is their legal address for mailing and educational purposes. Neither one of us pay child support, and even though the time with them is supposed to be 50/50 its more like 60/40 with me and Ive been keeping a detailed log for the last year. Ex meets another guy, he joins the army a year later, they get married about 3 months after he joins. He now finds out he's being relocated to a base in Georgia. Ex thinks she is going to move with him and take our kids with her. Everything the kids need or have ever known are here. Their school they've gone to since they started, me, their entire family on both sides...everything. Is there anything for me to worry about? I know judges want to do whats best for the kids, so surely no judge would let her uproot and move them to another state without my consent, right? The only thing Im worried about is the military thing, that maybe they'd get special treatment for that...but at the same time, he decided to join after they were together and they both knew her situation with my kids. My lawyer doesn't think I have anything to worry about, but of course he's going to tell me that since he wants my $.
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