Once a cheater, always a cheater?

[Discuss Thrower]

You know, the more I think about it, it's probably a blessing I'll be single. Why the **** would you get emotionally invested (at the very least) when all your significant other is going to do is break your heart anyway?

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

You know, the more I think about it, it's probably a blessing I'll be single. Why the **** would you get emotionally invested (at the very least) when all your significant other is going to do is break your heart anyway?

Better to lose a hand every now and then than to fold every time.

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Better to lose a hand every now and then than to fold every time.

Even when you literally go all in with all that you are monetarily worth plus whatever you have intangibly knowing there's a sizable chance you'll lose it?

Ahhh, I get it. You're saying never get married.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

Even when you literally go all in with all that you are monetarily worth plus whatever you have intangibly knowing there's a sizable chance you'll lose it?

Ahhh, I get it. You're saying never get married.

You got to know when to hold em
Know when to fold em
Know when to walk away
Know when to RUN

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

You know, the more I think about it, it's probably a blessing I'll be single. Why the **** would you get emotionally invested (at the very least) when all your significant other is going to do is break your heart anyway?

Perhaps.

You never truly know what will happen though, that's why I posed the question.

I mean, if a woman ever cheated on me in a relationship- it's ****ing over. The thought of my woman with anyone other than me makes my stomach churn and I know for a fact I could never look at her the same way. It may hurt to end the relationship at the time, but my feelings and pride mean more to me than a few months of heartbreak.

But what if you were aware that a woman had cheated on someone else (as in not you) in the past. Say, 1 time several years ago. Would you think twice about getting involved with her?

I'm not sure what your situation is though. Care to share?

[Discuss Thrower]

Originally Posted by ThaVirus

Perhaps.

You never truly know what will happen though, that's why I posed the question.

I mean, if a woman ever cheated on me in a relationship; it's ****ing over. The thought of my woman with anyone other than me makes my stomach churn and I know for a fact I could never look at her the same way. It may hurt to end the relationship at the time, but my feelings and pride mean more to me than a few months of heartbreak.

But what if you were aware that a woman had cheated on someone else (as in not you) in the past. Say, 1 time several years ago. Would you think twice about getting involved with her?

I'm not sure what your situation is though. Care to share?

Would you trust her if she said she never cheated in the past? Or if the topic never got discussed in general?

Just because a person doesn't admit a behavior doesn't mean they're denying it.

[Dave Lane]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

You know, the more I think about it, it's probably a blessing I'll be single. Why the **** would you get emotionally invested (at the very least) when all your significant other is going to do is break your heart anyway?

Agree I've been single for a decade now and really not sure that will ever change to a marriage again. A SO yes but life is way too good after hanging out with my married friends. They all tell me I'm living the dream.

Originally Posted by Dave Lane

Agree I've been single for a decade now and really not sure that will ever change to a marriage again. A SO yes but life is way too good after hanging out with my married friends. They all tell me I'm living the dream.

We don't hang out much but I agree you're living the dream roughly 4 days a year or so. The other 361 days I'm living the dream. Unless you have 4 or 5 regular chicks who love you unconditionally and are willing to bear your children and still love you for all your stupid faults, I think I win. But you likely prioritize differently so, whatever. It takes all kinds. I don't dislike gay people, Dave.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by Phobia

We don't hang out much but I agree you're living the dream roughly 4 days a year or so. The other 361 days I'm living the dream. Unless you have 4 or 5 regular chicks who love you unconditionally and are willing to bear your children and still love you for all your stupid faults, I think I win. But you likely prioritize differently so, whatever. It takes all kinds. I don't dislike gay people, Dave.

Sure! Now if you'll excuse me, I have to get back to doing whatever I want whenever I want.

Originally Posted by Brock

Sure! Now if you'll excuse me, I have to get back to doing whatever I want whenever I want.

I do whatever I want whenever I want too. But now I just get to phrase where I'm going in the form of a question instead of a statement. It's a fair compromise. I don't think my lady has ever said, "no" so I either don't want to go do whatever I want very often, she's incredibly understanding, or her boyfriend likes it when I leave.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by Phobia

I do whatever I want whenever I want too. But now I just get to phrase where I'm going in the form of a question instead of a statement. It's a fair compromise. I don't think my lady has ever said, "no" so I either don't want to go do whatever I want very often, she's incredibly understanding, or her boyfriend likes it when I leave.

Surely you do a lot of things you DON'T want to do too.

[ThaVirus]

Originally Posted by Phobia

I do whatever I want whenever I want too. But now I just get to phrase where I'm going in the form of a question instead of a statement.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Phobia

We don't hang out much but I agree you're living the dream roughly 4 days a year or so. The other 361 days I'm living the dream. Unless you have 4 or 5 regular chicks who love you unconditionally and are willing to bear your children and still love you for all your stupid faults, I think I win. But you likely prioritize differently so, whatever. It takes all kinds. I don't dislike gay people, Dave.

You chose to build a second family and god bless you you seem to be happier than any other time I have known you. That is a decision I would never make however. IF my marriage didn't work for any reason I would never get married again as I wouldn't rebuild. I am putting everything into this one kid and that's it for me. On that note our marriage is very successful and seems to just get better with time which is more than I can say for just about any of the marriages around us. Codependency seems to be everywhere. I have no interest in living out my days in that enviroment.

[BIG_DADDY]

Originally Posted by Dave Lane

Agree I've been single for a decade now and really not sure that will ever change to a marriage again. A SO yes but life is way too good after hanging out with my married friends. They all tell me I'm living the dream.

The only reason to get married is to have a kid, period.