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Lono · 04-19-2010, 01:55 PM

So a few weeks ago my son was at his grandparents. They were cooking and, my son who is 4 likes to help peel potatoes. They give him a potatoe and a butter knife and he acts all big. He loves it and thinks he is really helping. He does this all the time. Well apparently he gets the bright idea to stab the potatoe. Not smart on his part I know, and he cuts his finger with the knife. They take him to the hospital thinking he will need stitches, they werent required, they used some glue. Anyway the Doctor was kind of a butthole from the very start. He comes in asking my son if his parents always let him play with knives and yatta yatta. He is telling him to stop crying or he will give away his easter basket (week before easter and they gave him one /shrug) Anyway this just makes him cry worse. My wife is really starting to get pissed now. Anyway he puts the glue on and leaves. Today my wife calls and says DFS is investigating the incident and we have 10 days to reply. I am more than irate. If I catch this doctor out, they will arrest me because i will beat him senseless.

Garcia Bronco · 04-19-2010, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by raybec 4

This. You really have to be a shitbag to get DFS to take any action against you. They'll do an investigation and leave it there.

AND keep a record of the investigation.

Garcia Bronco · 04-19-2010, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by jAZ

Their job is looking out for the kids. They aren't there to get you. I don't understand why parents who are inconvenienced by questioning turn so hostile when someone was there in an effort to protect the most beloved part of your life (I assume).

It's not about you. Why make it so?

You've posted some stupid shit over the years, but that takes the cake. Clearly you do not have children or are a parent.

soopamanluva · 04-19-2010, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jAZ

Their job is looking out for the kids. They aren't there to get you. I don't understand why parents who are inconvenienced by questioning turn so hostile when someone was there in an effort to protect the most beloved part of your life (I assume).

It's not about you. Why make it so?

Yea, they are there to protect your kids.....from you. Like they care more about your children than you or even give damn. Thats why he's upset. Not hard to understand. A person coming to YOUR house, to question YOU about YOUR kids. People don't like to be threatened or told what to do.

**Bane** · 04-19-2010, 03:36 PM

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Originally Posted by jAZ

Their job is looking out for the kids. They aren't there to get you. I don't understand why parents who are inconvenienced by questioning turn so hostile when someone was there in an effort to protect the most beloved part of your life (I assume).

It's not about you. Why make it so?

I know what their job is and they're only trying to protect children,my problem wasn't with being questioned,it was with the manner in which she worded the questions.She tried to make is sound as if we didn't watch our boys correctly and that maybe we needed parenting classes so to "learn" how to watch our kids.I tried to explain to her calmly that. They run,they jump,they play,every once in a while something is gonna happen.It wasn't like that was our 4th or 5th emergency room visit with him having a busted head or some crazy shit.I understand the whole protect the kids thing so don't act like I'm an asshole for being upset with a smart ass bitch who tried to question my parenting and make It sound like I'm not a capable parent!
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**Bane** · 04-19-2010, 03:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Garcia Bronco

AND keep a record of the investigation.

Yeah that pissed me off too.Now me and the wife have on our record that they"invesigated"us for child neglect.Even though it was unfounded its still there and that's a crock of shit for the parents that do try very hard to be good parents and take good care of our kids.
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sedated · 04-19-2010, 03:57 PM

hide the bruises

MOhillbilly · 04-19-2010, 03:58 PM

Had a buddy blurt out once that he knew he was a good parent cause DFS had told him so, twice.

RJ · 04-19-2010, 04:04 PM

Man, if a kid getting a little cut will get the law on you my ass would have been in big trouble when my sons were young. I lost track of how many times we had to go to the ER for various stitches and broken bones. I remember one time the doc asks my oldest if he's ever had stitches before.

"Yes"

"Where have you had them?"

"St. Josephs, Good Samaritan, Franklin Square....."

"No, not the hospital. Where on your body?"

Yeah, I'd have been in trouble.

Bi_polar · 04-19-2010, 04:25 PM

wait, is that the same as date-rape? let me know and i'll offer up my reply.

tmax63 · 04-19-2010, 05:59 PM

++++1 on keeping the report on file forever. See what happens if he falls down and hurts/cuts himself and see how fast they respond on the second "accident". Another indication of how close we are getting to a nanny state. Remember Obama and government knows best regardless of whether it's cars, finances or parenting.

**Predarat** · 04-19-2010, 06:07 PM

Yes I got them called on me because my Air Conditioning broke and complained about bad living conditions. Whoever called needs to take a trip to the ghetto or farm houses. Luckily I got a good DFS rep but they were so mad at my neighbor for wasting their time but I was told they pretty much have to respond to every complaint.

jidar · 04-19-2010, 06:17 PM

That sucks.

Although this thread is once again filled with short sighted idiots.

The next time there is a thread about kids being kicked and beaten then everyone will wonder why the parents still have control the kids.

So how is DFS supposed to know if a case is neglect, abuse or just nothing? Yeah they have to ask. I guess all you ****ing pillowbiters have esp or something and would just know somehow...

THINK MCFLY

dumb ****s
jesus

Lono · 04-19-2010, 07:31 PM

Well I talked to the social worker that works at the same school as I do. She said I have absolutely nothing to worry about and that they will drop it immediately after I talk to them. They are required to send that after the doctor sent in his stuff.

jaz, are you kidding me. Wth is an ER for? I had stitches all the damn time as a kid. My parents didn't beat me or something stupid. It is absolutely absurd for a Doctor to do that. The ONLY reason he did is because my wife was pissed about the way he was talking and acting. I was told that nothing will come of it but I should sure as hell be pissed at that doctor. The kid had zero bruises and he had zero cause to report that other than being a dick. I'm also going to say me showing up dirty and in camo made him think I was some white trash who couldn't take care of my kids. (listened for turkeys that morning otw to the lake fishing) Can you say stereotype! Basically other than my son needing to be looked at to see if he needed stitches from an accident, of which he did not, there was no reason for him to report it. Your right, I should have knocked his teeth out when he threatened to take my kids basket as he was bawling while looking at his cut.

Darien25 · 04-19-2010, 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Lono

It was in West Plains, Mo.

I lived in West Plains in the 70's and 80's. Graduated a Zizzer. Yeah! Unfortunately, the town sucks major ass. My mom still lives there but every time we go to visit we spend more time in Mammoth Springs or Alton (another crappy town).

**jAZ** · 04-19-2010, 09:53 PM

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Originally Posted by CoMoChief

It's not the states job to parent children. It's the parent's job to raise their children. Shit happens. Sometimes really stupid shit. The state doesn't need to be breathing down people's back lecturing on how to people should raise their children. Parents learn along the way at being a parent as well.

They aren't there to parent kids. They put some kids back with really shitty parents. Their job isn't to make sure you are a good parent. It's to protect children and ultimately save lives. 4 year olds can't save their own life in most cases.

Again, it's not about you (anyone) as a parent. It's about the kid.

04-19-2010, 01:55 PM
Lono Starter Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Mo Casino cash: $9933836	Anyone ever had a DFS complaint against you? So a few weeks ago my son was at his grandparents. They were cooking and, my son who is 4 likes to help peel potatoes. They give him a potatoe and a butter knife and he acts all big. He loves it and thinks he is really helping. He does this all the time. Well apparently he gets the bright idea to stab the potatoe. Not smart on his part I know, and he cuts his finger with the knife. They take him to the hospital thinking he will need stitches, they werent required, they used some glue. Anyway the Doctor was kind of a butthole from the very start. He comes in asking my son if his parents always let him play with knives and yatta yatta. He is telling him to stop crying or he will give away his easter basket (week before easter and they gave him one /shrug) Anyway this just makes him cry worse. My wife is really starting to get pissed now. Anyway he puts the glue on and leaves. Today my wife calls and says DFS is investigating the incident and we have 10 days to reply. I am more than irate. If I catch this doctor out, they will arrest me because i will beat him senseless.
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04-19-2010, 03:58 PM	#37
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04-19-2010, 04:04 PM	#38
RJ Supporter Join Date: Oct 2000 Location: In a shotgun shack Casino cash: $9965202	Man, if a kid getting a little cut will get the law on you my ass would have been in big trouble when my sons were young. I lost track of how many times we had to go to the ER for various stitches and broken bones. I remember one time the doc asks my oldest if he's ever had stitches before. "Yes" "Where have you had them?" "St. Josephs, Good Samaritan, Franklin Square....." "No, not the hospital. Where on your body?" Yeah, I'd have been in trouble.
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04-19-2010, 04:25 PM	#39
Bi_polar Starter Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: The Dirty Casino cash: $10004900	wait, is that the same as date-rape? let me know and i'll offer up my reply. __________________ Notices Welcome back, Bi_polar! Where ya been?
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04-19-2010, 05:59 PM	#40
tmax63 Veteran Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Colorado Casino cash: $3160400	++++1 on keeping the report on file forever. See what happens if he falls down and hurts/cuts himself and see how fast they respond on the second "accident". Another indication of how close we are getting to a nanny state. Remember Obama and government knows best regardless of whether it's cars, finances or parenting. __________________ An armed member of society is a citizen, an unarmed member is a subject.
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04-19-2010, 06:07 PM	#41
Predarat Run Chiefs fans, run!! Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Nashville, TN Casino cash: $9973863	Yes I got them called on me because my Air Conditioning broke and complained about bad living conditions. Whoever called needs to take a trip to the ghetto or farm houses. Luckily I got a good DFS rep but they were so mad at my neighbor for wasting their time but I was told they pretty much have to respond to every complaint.
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04-19-2010, 06:17 PM	#42
jidar MVP Join Date: May 2005 Location: a Casino cash: $10004900	That sucks. Although this thread is once again filled with short sighted idiots. The next time there is a thread about kids being kicked and beaten then everyone will wonder why the parents still have control the kids. So how is DFS supposed to know if a case is neglect, abuse or just nothing? Yeah they have to ask. I guess all you **ing pillowbiters have esp or something and would just know somehow... THINK MCFLY dumb **s jesus
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04-19-2010, 07:31 PM	#43
Lono Starter Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Mo Casino cash: $9933836	Well I talked to the social worker that works at the same school as I do. She said I have absolutely nothing to worry about and that they will drop it immediately after I talk to them. They are required to send that after the doctor sent in his stuff. jaz, are you kidding me. Wth is an ER for? I had stitches all the damn time as a kid. My parents didn't beat me or something stupid. It is absolutely absurd for a Doctor to do that. The ONLY reason he did is because my wife was pissed about the way he was talking and acting. I was told that nothing will come of it but I should sure as hell be pissed at that doctor. The kid had zero bruises and he had zero cause to report that other than being a dick. I'm also going to say me showing up dirty and in camo made him think I was some white trash who couldn't take care of my kids. (listened for turkeys that morning otw to the lake fishing) Can you say stereotype! Basically other than my son needing to be looked at to see if he needed stitches from an accident, of which he did not, there was no reason for him to report it. Your right, I should have knocked his teeth out when he threatened to take my kids basket as he was bawling while looking at his cut.
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