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Originally Posted by DJ's left nut
It's not the 'doing it right' that improves the probability, it's the willingness to do so. If your parents give you $10K to go buy a ring but your wife never knows, that doesn't mean anything - you've not demonstrated a fundamental commitment - it's no skin off your ass to spend daddy's money.
But those that ARE willing to do so and make sacrifices to get it done, are those that have put the requisite amount of thought and care in the decision in the first place.
The nicer ring and more substantial wedding is simply a byproduct of that level of commitment and dedication to the union. If it matters, you'll treat it as such. And you likely won't give it a second thought.
But as you and I appear to be the same person in a dozen different ways, I suspect you already understood all of that...
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Agreed. I like the term sacrifice you threw out there because it seems super counterintuitive to put a ton of focus on material things to represent love. But sacrifice is a good term for it. We value money and give up something we value for the one we love. Much better approach than focusing on shiny shit instead of what's important in the relationship - like how it seems in my head.
So thanks for closing that divide in my (our?) head.
