Ever Sell an Engagement Ring?

[DJ's left nut]

Originally Posted by Buehler445

I hold the same position. The way I phrase it is "pay it the respect it deserves."

The logical side of me says it doesn't ****ing matter. But the practical side of my life pretty much exclusively shows that if you do little shit (like dressing up for important shit) it does something to the psychology of yourself.

That being said, there is nuance and exceptions. Some people it doesn't change things psychology. RE: Divorce, some people can take it seriously and shit goes off the rails. People change, people weren't grown up enough to understand real life, shit happens. But I'd agree. Taking it seriously and doing "right" improves the probability of success.

It's not the 'doing it right' that improves the probability, it's the willingness to do so. If your parents give you $10K to go buy a ring but your wife never knows, that doesn't mean anything - you've not demonstrated a fundamental commitment - it's no skin off your ass to spend daddy's money.

But those that ARE willing to do so and make sacrifices to get it done, are those that have put the requisite amount of thought and care in the decision in the first place.

The nicer ring and more substantial wedding is simply a byproduct of that level of commitment and dedication to the union. If it matters, you'll treat it as such. And you likely won't give it a second thought.

But as you and I appear to be the same person in a dozen different ways, I suspect you already understood all of that...