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03-23-2001, 10:53 AM | #2 |
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Sounds like your wife wants you to be there for her and the kids, but also wants to prevent you from knocking the snot out of the deadbeat.
Probably a good idea. No matter how irresponsible this bonehead is, it's not his stepmoms fault, and it's her funeral. Don't ruin the funeral. Wait outside, follow him home, and take the $2k out of his hide. John AKA-Ann Landers on crack |
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03-23-2001, 11:07 AM | #3 |
What time is it?
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Well, I don't support kicking the crap out of him (well, I kinda do. I pay my child support on time and loathe those that don't ... there is no excuse.) but I do agree with the rest of Johnin's post.
Support her and the kids. Tell the boy who tried to get a hold of him to talk to the loser and see what's up. You should probably remain in the background and be an attentive ear, nothing more, nothing less. Just my 2˘. You're in a heckuva place and there are no easy anwers. MM ~~AKA—Dear Abbey Post Bong Hit.
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03-23-2001, 11:17 AM | #4 |
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Both are correct my friend. Remember what the reason of a funeral is for. Nothing should be said, perhaps even from your wife about that subject there. Perhaps just one hint from your wife that legal action could be taken if needed.
As far as I`m concerned, the child support issue is none of your business and should be treated as so. Good Luck and Condolances... |
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03-23-2001, 11:21 AM | #5 |
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Now, throw this monkey wrench in the works. What if the sob says something about his kids, I know they are his kids in name only. He hasn't had a darn thing to do with them for over 7 years..
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03-23-2001, 11:25 AM | #6 |
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You should be there to support your wife and kids but it is unreasonable to expect you not to go in. It sounds like she is doing it out of respect for him when he shows her and the kids no respect. Your the one supporting and raising his KIDS when he obviously doesn't care. If she wants to go she should support you the same way you support her and their kids.
BIG DADDY Would assure her you will put your differences aside for the day.
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03-23-2001, 11:27 AM | #7 |
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bkkcoh,
If he is stupid enough to bring it up simply tell him this is not the place or time.
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03-23-2001, 11:38 AM | #8 |
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There is a time and place for everything....a funeral isn't a place for confrontation.....I say go, support your kids and the wife..they both know who has and who hasn't been there...If he says something out of line, its better to "deal" with it when they aren't around to see it anyway...as far as the $$...$107 isn't enough to make much of a difference and shows the true color of the snakes belly...YELLOW.
Last summer I attended a wedding with a Girlfriend(ex now) and a guy who had date raped her sat 2 rows behind us...Every ounce of me wanted to jump the seat..but didn't...I had better opportunity a couple of weeks later to "let him know how i felt" about what he had done....that being said...It will be tough to sit still that day...and you'll probably chew a hole in your lip....but its for the best.. ~I don't envy your situation. |
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03-23-2001, 11:53 AM | #9 |
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I really don't advocate beating the guy up either. I do, however despise people who don't take responsibility for their children. Can we legalise caning? |
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03-23-2001, 11:54 AM | #10 |
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Iowanian,
You show more control than I would have. Not at the funeral but later. I think i would have pretended not to know anything and then when he least expected it, introduced him to the old Louisville Slugger. BIG DADDY Would have never seen me coming.
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03-23-2001, 11:56 AM | #11 |
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Brian, if he attempts to say something like that then you know (and I guess you already know) what kind of person he is. It is not the time or place to "discuss" it. If he were to say something like that, then say, "Yes, well Your kids are living with Me now", and drop it. Ignore him. You can beat him at his own game, just don`t stoop to his level.
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03-23-2001, 12:16 PM | #12 |
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There is a time and a place for everything. This is the time to take the moral high ground. In addition to that while I share your disdain for the actions and lack of responsibility shown by this man, it is important to keep a few things in mind. This is not some sort of party to honor him. It is to honor the deceased. Also many of the people in attendance have most likely been feed his version of the truth. Being a divorced father myself I have heard some real doozies.
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03-23-2001, 01:07 PM | #13 |
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Bigdaddy,
maybe i should clarify that my expression of my feelings began with an overhand right...with not a word before...and "explained" it as we "went along"...I was on his home turf and alone, so it wasn't completely finished..but he completely understood my position on the issue...probably for several days.:mad: |
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03-23-2001, 01:20 PM | #14 |
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iowa!!! you freaking sucker-punched the dude???
i hope he was right in the middle of taking a drink of his beer. sec |
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03-23-2001, 01:25 PM | #15 |
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sec,
I wouldn't consider what I did a sucker punch...I drank a beer and worked my mad up...walked back where he and 2 guys were playing pool...walked straight in front of him looked him in the eye...and let the devil loose..so to speak. ...the ex came in during the ruckus...and I was in trouble for months...probably a good portion of the demise of that situation. |
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