Life Question

badgirl · 10-17-2009, 11:57 PM

How many of you guys would rather have a old fashion woman than a woman who was so independant that making sure her man was taken care of and going the extra mile to see to it he was.

My grandmother and grandpa were married 65 years before he passed away and I remember her walking by him and putting her hand on the side of his face and telling him she loved him and he would take her hand and tell her he loved her.

When I was married I wanted the kind of marriage they had and I was very good to my husband doing some things that his sisters would say your crazy for doing that. I would tell them he worked in the cold and heat to support me and the kids and I didn't care what they thought about it that I was going to make sure when he came home I would make things as comfortable and make him happy no matter what it took.

If some women heard the stuff I did they would think I was crazy cause I don't think there are a lot of that kind of woman anymore. Women these days have the equal lib thing going on, whereas I feel if you have a marriage where there is no abuse or anything like that it is your "duty" to take of care of your husband. I loved being a wife and mother to my kids and hoped to have the kind of marriage my grandparents had, but instead I was taken advantage of and it didn't work.

So what kind of woman would you like to have for a lifelong partner?

'Hamas' Jenkins · 10-17-2009, 11:59 PM

One who realizes that she isn't a second-class citizen.

KcKing · 10-18-2009, 12:01 AM

One that's not afraid to roll around on a tarp drenched in baby oil with her equally hot sister...

10-18-2009, 12:03 AM

What is old fashioned about taking care of each other? That's part of the problem with our 50% divorce rate. People think that loving relationships are passe'. I definitely want (and have) what you've dubbed as "old fashioned". That's the way God meant it to be and that's what is proven to be successful.

badgirl · 10-18-2009, 12:12 AM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

One who realizes that she isn't a second-class citizen.

No someone who feels good about them selves also.

badgirl · 10-18-2009, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

What is old fashioned about taking care of each other? That's part of the problem with our 50% divorce rate. People think that loving relationships are passe'. I definitely want (and have) what you've dubbed as "old fashioned". That's the way God meant it to be and that's what is proven to be successful.

I agree. Finally we agree on something. I figure taking care of each other in some peoples eyes is old fashion.

'Hamas' Jenkins · 10-18-2009, 12:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

What is old fashioned about taking care of each other? That's part of the problem with our 50% divorce rate. People think that loving relationships are passe'. I definitely want (and have) what you've dubbed as "old fashioned". That's the way God meant it to be and that's what is proven to be successful.

This post is a straw man.

You can have a loving relationship outside of what you think of as "old fashioned". To think that there is only one path to a successful relationship, and that said path is ordained by "God" (ironically the same God whose book he inspired consistently urges the subjugation of women) is reductive and ignorant of the vast realm of types of relationships that can make both individuals happy.

**Shaid** · 10-18-2009, 12:35 AM

Mutual love and respect. I think each person should do what they can to satisfy the needs of the other person. Not because you have to but because you want to. If you can't commit to a person in that way, don't get married. Marriage is forever in my opinion so why would you ever want anything less in your relationship?

badgirl · 10-18-2009, 12:38 AM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

This post is a straw man.

You can have a loving relationship outside of what you think of as "old fashioned". To think that there is only one path to a successful relationship, and that said path is ordained by "God" (ironically the same God whose book he inspired consistently urges the subjugation of women) is reductive and ignorant of the vast realm of types of relationships that can make both individuals happy.

Well it doesn't have to be a marriage I was talking about a relationship were two people love each other.

badgirl · 10-18-2009, 12:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Shaid

Mutual love and respect. I think each person should do what they can to satisfy the needs of the other person. Not because you have to but because you want to. If you can't commit to a person in that way, don't get married. Marriage is forever in my opinion so why would you ever want anything less in your relationship?

yea you have to have love and respect on both sides, when I done for my husband it was definately cause I wanted to, it made me happy to be able to do things for him, it made me happy to see him happy, but as i said he took advantage of it. Thats why he is my X now. If I had a husband who respected me and without a doubt loved me I know it would last forever.

**btlook1** · 10-18-2009, 01:29 AM

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Originally Posted by KcKing

One that's not afraid to roll around on a tarp drenched in baby oil with her equally hot sister...

Now that sounds really nice!

However marriage is a two way street we take care of each other if one of us wasn't working yes then that one would probably be doing more but I like it the way it is...my 30% and her 70%.

Nixhex · 10-18-2009, 01:37 AM

MoreLemonPledge · 10-18-2009, 02:49 AM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

One who realizes that she isn't a second-class citizen.

Yes, that would be an insult to all second-class citizens. I want my women to be third world citizens.

10-18-2009, 03:37 AM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

One who realizes that she isn't a second-class citizen.

Way out of your league, bro.

sportsman1 · 10-18-2009, 03:42 AM

I go through stages depending on current life expierences. Right now I would just really like to find one that would make me a sammich. That could change tommorow though.

10-17-2009, 11:57 PM
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