Life Flabbergasted and pissed

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:07 PM

Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain.

I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again.

He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon.

So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!"

When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sh*t. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool.

But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F***'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this a**hole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks.

*So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?

**DeezNutz** · 08-01-2010, 04:12 PM

Yes, you have a valid reason to be pissed.

The bigger question, however, is, "Men attend 'bridal' parties?"

**Bwana** · 08-01-2010, 04:13 PM

The guy sounds like a first class douche bag and should have been out of your life along time ago. You took it very easy on him to be honest.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Bwana

The guy sounds like a first class douche bag and should have been out of your life along time ago. You took it very easy on him to be honest.

You're absolutely right. I regret even saying yes to be a part of his wedding.

Hootie · 08-01-2010, 04:15 PM

If it was that easy to take a cab...

why did you care in the first place?

How much was the cab fare?

Seriously...

If the cab was REALLY that easy AND an option...how was this a big deal at all?

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Meat Dragon

If it was that easy to take a cab...

why did you care in the first place?

How much was the cab fare?

Seriously...

If the cab was REALLY that easy AND an option...how was this a big deal at all?

Cab fare was 60 bucks.

But that's not the point. It's the treatment received.

It was about him being a snake about something, and not being open, honest, and considerate towards me. I acted nice, considerate and did a favor for him, and when I asked him for something back in return I pretty much get abit of f*** you I don't give a sh*t attitude...that pretty much explains the hated and the rage.

that's a big deal to me.

Lex Luthor · 08-01-2010, 05:29 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RedThat

Cab fare was 60 bucks.

But that's not the point. It's the treatment received.

It was about him being a snake about something, and not being open, honest, and considerate towards me. I acted nice, considerate and did a favor for him, and when I asked him for something back in return I pretty much get abit of f*** you I don't give a sh*t attitude...that pretty much explains the hated and the rage.

that's a big deal to me.

Get the sand out of your vagina. It was his fucking wedding night for Christ's sakes.

If you ever whine about this to him, he would be justified in immediately dropping you from his friend list.

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Brainiac

Get the sand out of your vagina. It was his fucking wedding night for Christ's sakes.

If you ever whine about this to him, he would be justified in immediately dropping you from his friend list.

So what?

Should that be an excuse on how you treat a friend? Good. you know something, I'd be thrilled if he dropped me as a friend, one less f***ing douchebag to deal with.

**DaneMcCloud** · 08-01-2010, 05:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by RedThat

I'd be thrilled if he dropped me as a friend, one less f***ing douchebag to deal with.

I'd bet he feels the same way

Mr. Laz · 08-01-2010, 04:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The Meat Dragon

If it was that easy to take a cab...

why did you care in the first place?

How much was the cab fare?

Seriously...

If the cab was REALLY that easy AND an option...how was this a big deal at all?

i believe it's more about the guy's attitude ... "you help me, but you are on your own"

Duck Dog · 08-01-2010, 04:25 PM

You lost me at 'part of the bridal party'.

Mr. Laz · 08-01-2010, 04:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DeezNutz

Yes, you have a valid reason to be pissed.

The bigger question, however, is, "Men attend 'bridal' parties?"

Quote:

Originally Posted by Duck Dog

You lost me at 'part of the bridal party'.

umm ... i think he means 'bridal party' as being a bridesmaid or groomsmen.

technically it's 'Grooms party' for the guys and bridal party for the girls

i think

RedThat · 08-01-2010, 04:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Laz

umm ... i think he means 'bridal party' as being a bridesmaid or groomsmen.

technically it's 'Grooms party' for the guys and bridal party for the girls

i think

Yes, as in being a groomsmen...I meant grooms party..Thanks for clearing that up.

**Bugeater** · 08-01-2010, 04:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Laz

umm ... i think he means 'bridal party' as being a bridesmaid or groomsmen.

technically it's 'Grooms party' for the guys and bridal party for the girls

i think

I always thought the whole group was referred to as a 'wedding party'.

Marcellus · 08-01-2010, 04:28 PM

Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.

08-01-2010, 04:07 PM	Topic Starter
RedThat Banned Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Earth Casino cash: $10004900	Flabbergasted and pissed Totally felt this way yesterday and Im a little bit better today. Im just wondering if I have good reason to feel this way and ask for the opinions of the readers of this thread. I'll explain. I was at a wedding last night, and happened to be part of a bridal party. The person who got married I had been friends with for years, dating back since high school. I've done him favors left, right, and center throughout the time knowing him but he just happens to be one of those people that depends on you to do stuff for him, but when it comes to you, he would do very little. Last night topped it off and fully convinced me that I shall never do anything for this guy again. He orders a limo to pick us up at his house. The limo took us to the church, to the park to take pictures for the wedding, and finally to the banquet hall. I was kind enough to bring some booze and play batender in the limo by serving drinks for everyone. Oh and to mention I gave him a good chunk of change to support him and his wife for both the hall and honeymoon. So last night at around 1am in the morning were at the banquet hall and I asked him out of the blue, I said, "How am I going to get home?" The reason I asked him this question was because I recall that the limo driver told me he wasn't coming back. Now, my friend never mentioned this to me before the wedding. When I asked him that very question you know what his response was? "IT'S NOT MY RESPONSIBILITY!" When he said that, I wanted to grab him and choke him to death. What he said, definately made me feel very angry and like sht. I was going to tell him off then and there, but felt it wasn't a good idea since it was his special day, and I didn't want any animosity to arise or did not want to put other peoples nights down as a result. With that being said, I managed to keep my cool. But I told him straight, that he should of got a bus to escort us back home to his house because thats where all of our cars were when the limo came to pick us up. But, what really ticked me off even more was that his eff'n wife ordered a bus because she had family that came over from greece. The bus took them back to her house where they stayed over night to sleep. but then Im like, "What about the F'N bridal party?! Why aren't we getting this very same type of treatment? Just totally surprised and upset at the way this ahole had treated me. Later on in the night, he kept insisting that I should hitch rides with other people like other distant friends or members of his family that happened to come along and were about to leave. Is this right? To go around doing something like that? Im thinking in my head, are you stupid? do you think I am going to go around asking people for rides, and doing that especially when you are a part of the groom? You know how silly and stupid that looks. *So I just got up, and left. I didn't even say goodbye, never turned back, I just called a cab and fucked off! Im never EVER doing a favor for this guy again. So, finally let me ask you planteers, do you think Im right? Do I have reason to feel this way or should I just relax and not take it too hard?
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08-01-2010, 04:13 PM	#3
Bwana It's Five O'Clock Somewhere Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Billings, Montana Casino cash: $2135843647	The guy sounds like a first class douche bag and should have been out of your life along time ago. You took it very easy on him to be honest.
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08-01-2010, 04:15 PM	#5
Hootie Banned Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Dallas, Texas Casino cash: $10004900	If it was that easy to take a cab... why did you care in the first place? How much was the cab fare? Seriously... If the cab was REALLY that easy AND an option...how was this a big deal at all?
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08-01-2010, 04:25 PM	#11
Duck Dog Reap the whirlwind Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Olathe Casino cash: $10004900	You lost me at 'part of the bridal party'.
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08-01-2010, 04:28 PM	#15
Marcellus Diablo Negro Join Date: Sep 2003 Casino cash: $-487338	Chalk it up as a learning experience and move on.
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