So what am i suppose to say?

[Mr. Laz]

Apparently a family member is going to 'come out of the closet' to me in the near future.

I don't why she plans to tell me she's gay considering that she has never told me anything else about her sexuality. I assume it's some kind of cathartic form of self-expression to be herself etc,etc.

She's family, i love her and i want to be supportive, but to be honest i just want to keep the entire process as short as possible. So what the hell am i suppose to say?

i'm gay:

'ok ... good for you'

'whatever makes you happy'

'cool'

'can i watch?'

'is she hot?'

'anti-freeze'

'pics or it didn't happen'



seriously ... supportive, not condescending, not judgmental,not patronizing

what are you suppose to say?


(fyi if you prefer to respond privately, as PM is fine)


Thanks in Advance

[beach tribe]

I would say........So?
Or.....and?

[Mr. Laz]

Originally Posted by beach tribe

I would say........So?
Or.....and?

the 'no big deal' response

i thought about that ... but isn't that dismissing her 'important news'?


i imagine it's a big risk to reveal something like this and to just 'shrug' isn't going to be very supportive.

[Bugeater]

Originally Posted by Mr. Laz

the 'no big deal' response

i thought about that ... but isn't that dismissing her 'important news'?


i imagine it's a big risk to reveal something like this and to just 'shrug' isn't going to be very supportive.

Well what in the hell could she possibly want? You to throw her a goddamn party for it?

Shame on her for putting you in this situation.

[Mother****erJones]

We need to see the evidence before we can give advice

[BigRock]

"Cool. I'm glad you told me."

Or if applicable:

"What, am I supposed to be surprised? With that haircut?"

[big nasty kcnut]

well slap my titties and call me surely glad your gay but i love you no matter what
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[big nasty kcnut]

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[Fishpicker]

[Mr. Flopnuts]

I'd offer up a big, warm smile and say "Thank you for sharing something so important to you with me. I'll always be supportive of you no matter what is going on in your life."

That honestly should take care of it.

[Infidel Goat]

Originally Posted by Mr. Flopnuts

I'd offer up a big, warm smile and say "Thank you for sharing something so important to you with me. I'll always be supportive of you no matter what is going on in your life."

That honestly should take care of it.

I'm actually not a fan of the second sentence. It sounds more like a I love the sinner but might hate the sin response.

If you're cool with it, say so. There's nothing wrong with saying you are an ally of the LGBTQ community unless you're not.

[Mr. Flopnuts]

Originally Posted by Infidel Goat

I'm actually not a fan of the second sentence. It sounds more like a I love the sinner but might hate the sin response.

If you're cool with it, say so. There's nothing wrong with saying you are an ally of the LGBTQ community unless you're not.

I see how that comes across. I am supportive of the LGBTQ community, so I guess my intention was, "Don't ever feel like there is something you should be uncomfortable talking about with me" but it didn't come out that way.

[threebag]

Maybe you should initiate the conversation by asking her if she has any single friends, then stare dumbfounded when she tells you.

[Brooklyn]

m.gawker.com/5990745/dad-overhears-sons-plans-to-come-out-assuages-his-fears-with-heartwarming-letter-of-acceptance

[LoneWolf]

Ask her for a copy of her softball schedule and then tell her you'll be at every game in the first row.