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02-25-2019, 03:19 PM | Topic Starter |
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Boyfriend's grandma passed away
My boyfriend's grandma been in a nursing home for about a year and a half, and, while not unexpected, her passing still hurts. There has already been some estate issues in recent months that have caused a huge rift between his dad and aunt. I'm not sure how her passing will affect all of that, but his dad already told him that he already said his goodbyes and would not be attending the funeral. This news did not sit well with my boyfriend. Any issues that family members may have with each other need to be set aside for 24 hours in order to honor their loved one's memory. He told his dad as much, so he hopes he reconsiders.
Anyway, a few of you have met my boyfriend, so I figured that, while I'm not really a praying person, I'd ask for prayers and good thoughts here. Thanks. Last edited by luv; 02-25-2019 at 03:40 PM.. |
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02-25-2019, 03:23 PM | #2 |
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Money crap tears apart families. I hate it. I've seen it happen 3 times in 3 years. Hopefully they'll get over it. Sorry for your loss.
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02-25-2019, 03:45 PM | #3 |
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You got it Luv - prayers up and out to you and him and the rest of the family.
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02-25-2019, 04:12 PM | #4 |
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Sorry to hear it, luv
Was in the room when my maternal Grandma died, it never leaves you but gets better over time As for the estate battle, my Lord what is it about a death that brings out the VERY worst side of people? Everyone suddenly becomes SO greedy and possessive... my family is still dealing with that kinda situation some 20 years after the death of said Grandma Folks who loved each other dearly, suddenly at each others throats... it's sickening and sad |
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02-25-2019, 04:10 PM | #5 |
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P&T out for you and the extended family.
Tough times with a lot of emotion and these things can get out of hand easily. Good luck to the BF. |
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02-25-2019, 04:12 PM | #6 |
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I thought you were married.
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02-25-2019, 04:22 PM | #7 |
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02-25-2019, 04:32 PM | #8 |
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and he’s a one helluva cute kid too. No BS.
Since I have met the boyfriend, I’ll chime in. He seemed to me a fun loving kind of guy. Don’t get in the middle of the squabble. Stay out of the family rift. Maybe later he can patch stuff up later. My wife’s grandmother died. Him and his brother had a rift over money. Even though neither needed money. Lasted for years. Didn’t speak to each other. Really stupid. Several years later my wife got them back together to patch things up for a wedding anniversary celebration. Been cool ever since. People can be really stupid over money. Just stay out of the way and come back in when cooler heads may prevail. This may not be about money but it’s about something felt deep. Stay out of it beyond the general comment to let’s just get along, we are family kind of thing.
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02-25-2019, 04:15 PM | #9 |
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Never pegged Luv as the religious type. May many prayers head your way
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02-25-2019, 04:21 PM | #10 |
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Sorry to hear, it's never an easy thing to lose family, even extended ones. Hopefully your boyfriend's dad will reconsider. At this time I hope he asks, what would his mother want? No mother wants to see her kids fighting, especially at a time like this. You go, not for you or your sister, but for your mother. Anger is fleeting, regret can last a lifetime.
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02-25-2019, 04:25 PM | #11 |
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Should have seen me 20 years ago. I guess life has me questioning much more than not these days, but I still find that knowing people are thinking about you can help more than you realize.
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02-25-2019, 04:33 PM | #12 |
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Condolences for your families loss.
As for the estate stuff, that really sucks. When my mother passed away she had appointed me as the executor of her will. She was pretty darn smart put it right out there. Anyone that disputed any part of the will would receive nothing but one dollar. Kept things kosher whenever one of my sisters started to get a bit out of hand over something. All I had to do was remind them of the dollar clause and I that I would use it!
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02-25-2019, 04:36 PM | #13 |
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We get it, you have a significant other
Kidding. Condolences to you and yours.
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02-25-2019, 04:50 PM | #14 |
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My mom passed last year. Luckily, my two sisters and I were all in lock step on the estate stuff, and there was no drama around any of it. My family is not super wealthy, this seems to be more of a big problem when mega bucks are involved.
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02-25-2019, 04:59 PM | #15 |
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This property has sentimental value. Not worth that much in the long run. Aunt wants to keep it, dad wants to sell it. That's really only part of the situation, but, now that she's passed, it's really the only thing left to worry about. I think it was left to them with 50/50 interest. Not sure how they're going to handle it. Aunt can't afford to buy dad's interest, and dad doesn't have majority interest in order to evict.
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