Life a question for those divorced with kids... - Page 2

Gracie Dean · 01-05-2009, 06:29 PM

My bro in law was in an aweful 5 year marriage. They had 2 stillborna babies and then finally two beautiful kiddos. The Boy is 5 Today and the little girl is 3 After a very rocky 5 years, they split up for good after being off and on for most of that 5 years.

He joined the Army and is on his way to Iraq in the next few weeks. He is stationed in Washington State and ex lives in Kansas.

He came back on the 22nd of December and stayed till the 3rd of Jan.

X has been pretty relaxed on letting him see the kids when ever he is on leave (as she should because she pretty much gets half of what ever he earns including bonus)

She also lets us see the kiddos when ever we want. We usually get them one weekend a month as we live 2 hours away.

My QUESTION is...

would any x keep you from seeing your kids?

He made no attempt to see his kids at all during the time he was here because "he didn't want to deal with her bullshit" SO...he did not see them for Christmas nor did he spend any time with his son before his birthday

WTF???

**luv** · 01-05-2009, 07:28 PM

My brother just got divorced after being married for 14 years. He's a bum who doesn't want to pay child supprt or see his kids. My mom goes over to my ex-sil's house about three to four times per week. Helps with household chores, goes ofer my nephew's math and spelling homework with him, etc. I love to hear stories about how my younger niece made student council, my nephew got his bonus words right on his spelling test, etc. She talks to my brother, and all he asks is if she gave his ex his phone number, how she's a bitch, etc. Says she was texting him about child support, but not wanting him to see the kids, etc. She has good reason. He bitches, but has he ever tried to see them? No. Does he ask mom about them at all? No. She talks about what they've been doing, and he starts text messaging his friends. He is 36 years old, yet has never gotten over feeling like the world owes him something for nothing. He's a total douche.

**Iowanian** · 01-05-2009, 07:41 PM

He sounds like a real prince of a man.

Lived with you for FIVE(5) years...and now makes excuses to not see his kids when he's back on leave?

Maybe her new man will want to be their father.

Gracie Dean · 01-05-2009, 07:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

He sounds like a real prince of a man.

Lived with you for FIVE(5) years...and now makes excuses to not see his kids when he's back on leave?

Maybe her new man will want to be their father.

yea, that is what I am afraid of. I would be devistated if I didn't get to see those babies.

I really don't think she would do that to hubby and me as we try to get them at least once a month and spoil them when we have them...clothes and toys not to mention all the love and attention we can give them

**Iowanian** · 01-05-2009, 07:51 PM

If its anything like the situation I'm familiar with....the last 10 words are the most necessary and needed.

**luv** · 01-05-2009, 08:02 PM

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Originally Posted by noswad

yea, that is what I am afraid of. I would be devistated if I didn't get to see those babies.

I really don't think she would do that to hubby and me as we try to get them at least once a month and spoil them when we have them...clothes and toys not to mention all the love and attention we can give them

My ex-sil has a new man in her life. He's awesome with the kids. Has one of his own from a previous marriage that's their age that he has part time. My mom has told both my brother and ex-sil that she is not getting in the middle of the two of them. She's there to see the kids and is only interested in what's best for them. My ex-sil told her she's welcome over anytime she wants.

**Rausch** · 01-05-2009, 08:04 PM

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Originally Posted by noswad

yea, that is what I am afraid of. I would be devistated if I didn't get to see those babies.

I really don't think she would do that to hubby and me as we try to get them at least once a month and spoil them when we have them...clothes and toys not to mention all the love and attention we can give them

Good chance her problems are with him, not you...

acesn8s · 01-05-2009, 08:04 PM

I've got to fight my ex for time with kids. She will look you in the eye and say "I will work with you whenever you want to see the kids." and turn around and call the cops claiming that you kidnapped them.

kindra68 · 01-06-2009, 09:14 AM

I guess I lucked out. My ex walked out of the house when my son was almost two. (It was a Thursday.) Said that he would be back the next day to pick up the babe so he could spend the weekend with him.
My son just turned 16 in December.
One of the most heart wrenching things, as a mother, is to walk out of the kitchen and see your child sitting on the porch step, waiting on a father, which you know will never come.
I may not understand it, but I have lived it.

Dr. Johnny Fever · 01-06-2009, 09:18 AM

Plenty of ex's try to keep the other parent from seeing their kids. However, that's not what this sounds like. Sounds like he just doesn't care and doesn't have the guts to be a dad.

I just don't understand people like this. I have my daughter 3 times a week and it's not enough. Luckily my ex and I get along fine and my daughter and I are best buddies and I can get her a lot.

Amnorix · 01-06-2009, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by kindra68

My son just turned 16 in December.
One of the most heart wrenching things, as a mother, is to walk out of the kitchen and see your child sitting on the porch step, waiting on a father, which you know will never come.

Damn that's sad.

A long but fascinating story of Dr. J and the daughter that he was estranged from for 20+ years, and their recent reconciliation.

http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/etick...rjandalexandra

R&GHomer · 01-06-2009, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTown

You would have to hunt me down and kill me to keep me from seeing my kids. My kids are #1 in my life. All else is a distant 2nd.

Exactly! No one would keep me from seeing my kids.

Amnorix · 01-06-2009, 09:30 AM

My buddy is going through the early stages of divorce. His wife is a useless mother. She has no maternal instinct whatsoever, she just wants to party down like it's college, and she's in her early 40s!

I'm keeping my fingers crossed. He's a great dad, but in Mass., getting custody is pretty tough for the father. We'll see.

KCFalcon59 · 01-06-2009, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by ChiTown

You would have to hunt me down and kill me to keep me from seeing my kids. My kids are #1 in my life. All else is a distant 2nd.

This

Demonpenz · 01-06-2009, 10:29 AM

It might be a good idea to stay away if the woman pisses you off so much it effects your action toward you kids

phisherman · 01-06-2009, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Amnorix

Damn that's sad.

A long but fascinating story of Dr. J and the daughter that he was estranged from for 20+ years, and their recent reconciliation.

http://sports.espn.go.com/espn/etick...rjandalexandra

great story, thanks for the link

01-05-2009, 06:29 PM
Gracie Dean MVP Join Date: Aug 2000 Casino cash: $10004900	a question for those divorced with kids... My bro in law was in an aweful 5 year marriage. They had 2 stillborna babies and then finally two beautiful kiddos. The Boy is 5 Today and the little girl is 3 After a very rocky 5 years, they split up for good after being off and on for most of that 5 years. He joined the Army and is on his way to Iraq in the next few weeks. He is stationed in Washington State and ex lives in Kansas. He came back on the 22nd of December and stayed till the 3rd of Jan. X has been pretty relaxed on letting him see the kids when ever he is on leave (as she should because she pretty much gets half of what ever he earns including bonus) She also lets us see the kiddos when ever we want. We usually get them one weekend a month as we live 2 hours away. My QUESTION is... would any x keep you from seeing your kids? He made no attempt to see his kids at all during the time he was here because "he didn't want to deal with her bullshit" SO...he did not see them for Christmas nor did he spend any time with his son before his birthday WTF???
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01-05-2009, 07:28 PM	#16
luv You think you can get by this? Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Springfield, MO Casino cash: $-1240000	My brother just got divorced after being married for 14 years. He's a bum who doesn't want to pay child supprt or see his kids. My mom goes over to my ex-sil's house about three to four times per week. Helps with household chores, goes ofer my nephew's math and spelling homework with him, etc. I love to hear stories about how my younger niece made student council, my nephew got his bonus words right on his spelling test, etc. She talks to my brother, and all he asks is if she gave his ex his phone number, how she's a bitch, etc. Says she was texting him about child support, but not wanting him to see the kids, etc. She has good reason. He bitches, but has he ever tried to see them? No. Does he ask mom about them at all? No. She talks about what they've been doing, and he starts text messaging his friends. He is 36 years old, yet has never gotten over feeling like the world owes him something for nothing. He's a total douche.
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01-05-2009, 07:41 PM	#17
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1688454	He sounds like a real prince of a man. Lived with you for FIVE(5) years...and now makes excuses to not see his kids when he's back on leave? Maybe her new man will want to be their father.
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01-05-2009, 07:51 PM	#19
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1688454	If its anything like the situation I'm familiar with....the last 10 words are the most necessary and needed.
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01-05-2009, 08:04 PM	#22
acesn8s MVP Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Here Casino cash: $10007119	I've got to fight my ex for time with kids. She will look you in the eye and say "I will work with you whenever you want to see the kids." and turn around and call the cops claiming that you kidnapped them. __________________ Let's not take another 50 years.
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01-06-2009, 09:14 AM	#23
kindra68 blonde Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: I'm lost, again Casino cash: $9995567	I guess I lucked out. My ex walked out of the house when my son was almost two. (It was a Thursday.) Said that he would be back the next day to pick up the babe so he could spend the weekend with him. My son just turned 16 in December. One of the most heart wrenching things, as a mother, is to walk out of the kitchen and see your child sitting on the porch step, waiting on a father, which you know will never come. I may not understand it, but I have lived it.
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01-06-2009, 09:18 AM	#24
Dr. Johnny Fever stax of wax Join Date: Feb 2004 Casino cash: $10004900	Plenty of ex's try to keep the other parent from seeing their kids. However, that's not what this sounds like. Sounds like he just doesn't care and doesn't have the guts to be a dad. I just don't understand people like this. I have my daughter 3 times a week and it's not enough. Luckily my ex and I get along fine and my daughter and I are best buddies and I can get her a lot.
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01-06-2009, 09:30 AM	#27
Amnorix In BB I trust Join Date: May 2003 Location: Boston, Mass. Casino cash: $10029808	My buddy is going through the early stages of divorce. His wife is a useless mother. She has no maternal instinct whatsoever, she just wants to party down like it's college, and she's in her early 40s! I'm keeping my fingers crossed. He's a great dad, but in Mass., getting custody is pretty tough for the father. We'll see. __________________ "I love signature blocks on the Internet. I get to put whatever the hell I want in quotes, pick a pretend author, and bang, it's like he really said it." George Washington
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01-06-2009, 10:29 AM	#29
Demonpenz Woman should only make babies Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Apartment "G UNIT!" Casino cash: $-363864	It might be a good idea to stay away if the woman pisses you off so much it effects your action toward you kids __________________
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