This sucks at 58

[Monk]

I normally don't post on here,but damn I need to vent. I have (had) been married to the same woman for over 35 years. Never a major problem in our relationship. Five weeks ago she informs me she wants a divorce as she has met someone and wants something different in her life.

I worked 25 years for Williams Energy, we put two daughters through college and helped them, as we could, get established in life.

So,today was a meeting between the lawyers and I find out I will have to give her the house (paid for ) a car (new) and 1/2 of my pension,savings, and investments. Now all of that was ours 50/50 any way and she did her part in the marriage. Not only does it hurt like hell but now it looks like at 58 I have to start all over again.

Sorry for spelling or grammer but right now I don't care my heart is broken and soon to be homeless (STARTING OVER AT 58 )

[tooge]

Just a hypothetical, but say she died prior to finalizing this deal. Then what?

[DiaperBoy27]

Originally Posted by BigRedChief

So she fools around on you and she gets all that? How does that work?

no shit.

considering her reason for divorce is "I've met someone else," it seems you should have the advantage.

but most of my divorce knowledge comes from the movie Intolerable Cruelty, so I really don't know jack shit about that.

[EyePod]

****ing bitches.

[Fat Elvis]

Originally Posted by tooge

Just a hypothetical, but say she died prior to finalizing this deal. Then what?

I'd imagine the stuff goes to the kids....

[tooge]

sneak into their house. stick both of their toothbrushes up your ass and take a picture of it. Mail it to them a few weeks later. Oh, and jackoff on their pillows too. Then start your life over and have a great time.

[RJ]

Originally Posted by Pioli Zombie

Iowanian has been an inspiration tonight. Other things I don't have to say again.

No, I don't think you're crazy

You look great

You're a good mother

Mmmmmm. I love your cooking

Yes Dear

Things I can say now....

You ARE just like your mother

Your sister is a ****

Your brothers are ****ing idiots

Your bosses were all right!

Your ass IS fat and my friends and family DO think your a bitch.



That felt good
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You left out.....leave the toilet seat up. Every toilet seat in the house.

[MOhillbilly]

walk up on them coming out of somewhere and kill them both.

[Lumpy]

Originally Posted by MOhillbilly

walk up on them coming out of somewhere and kill them both.

[KCChiefsMan]

that sucks, if she's cheatin on you what's the law for that? I thought they get nothin, thats such BS that she would get the house and a car and half your pension, that's more like 90/10. I'd go ape shit

[alpha_omega]

Originally Posted by AustinChief

If you cant get AT LEAST that... might I suggest antifreeze?

I am surprised it took 65 posts for that suggestion.

[Katipan]

Originally Posted by KCChiefsMan

that sucks, if she's cheatin on you what's the law for that? I thought they get nothin, thats such BS that she would get the house and a car and half your pension, that's more like 90/10. I'd go ape shit

I think most states are no fault states. He doesn't get a complain about her cheating and she doesn't get to complain about dirty dishes or wet towels or whatever the hell her issue was.

Only time behavior matters in a divorce proceeding in a no fault state is when there are children involved.

[Hootie]

you should at least get the monetary value for 1/2 the house and 1/2 the car...if they are both paid for.

[Brock]

Originally Posted by Hootie

you should at least get the monetary value for 1/2 the house and 1/2 the car...if they are both paid for.

This is correct. If you're not getting that, you're not being treated fairly.

[KCChiefsMan]

Originally Posted by Katipan

I think most states are no fault states. He doesn't get a complain about her cheating and she doesn't get to complain about dirty dishes or wet towels or whatever the hell her issue was.

Only time behavior matters in a divorce proceeding in a no fault state is when there are children involved.

oh. This is why I would never get married. Nowadays, I think it's stupid just based on the numbers. You risk all that on a coin flip, better off going to a casino and putting all your funds and savings on red or black. Not him though, 35 years ago I'm sure the divorce rate wasn't nearly 50%

[KC Dan]

I cannot attest to having gone thru this after 35 yrs of marriage and at 58 yrs old but I did go thru it after 10 yrs marriage. My advice is quite simple:

1) Get a tough as nails female lawyer to reduce the 50% if possible.
2) Keep it amiable (as much as possible) and be above the fray
3) Remember that the best can be ahead of you. Always!!!
4) Let your future actions piss her off beyond all compare. Be successful, grow as a man, travel, do things that you always wanted to do, give your offspring all of the attention that you can give.
5) And, never - ever, talk bad about the Bitch to your children. They will make up their own minds about what has transpired.

I did this and recently ran into my ex 17 years following our split, she kept apologizing about what she caused and was extremely jealous of how my life and how my relationship with our children has prospered. The meeting verified that I had done the right thing and that she screwed up her life. I am now living the dream and hope that I can squeeze another 20-30 years of existance out of this planet.