S.O. wearing ex's jewelry?

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Originally Posted by JD10367

My wife wears an ankle bracelet her ex gave her. I assume it's 'cause she likes ankle bracelets. If it bugged me, I'd buy her one--maybe even the exact one--and say, "Here, wear this one," LOL.

Really, though. It probably doesn't mean anything. And, frankly, if it does... so what?

Why do people assume that, once a relationship ends, you have to chuck out all the good feelings you had during that relationship? If it was a loving, deep, and meaningful relationship, and meant something to her, and didn't end crappily, let her keep her little memento. Is there a rule that says, "While in a relationship, you must love the person, but as soon as it ends you must exorcise them from your memory"? That's kinda shitty. I mean, look, she married YOU, and isn't f**king HIM any more, so what more do you want? Why do people act like being in a relationship must be a mutually-exclusive deal, where every ounce of warmth and affection--past, present, and future--must be directed at the other person?

A piece of jewelry is no different from a photograph, a music album, or some other trinket. It's just a reminder of a happy time. It doesn't mean it's a reminder of a happIER time or a BETTER time.

I have a few rings I no longer wear, and six pieces of jewelry I currently wear. Most was purchased by me, a few weren't. But the only thing I wear that my wife gave me is my wedding ring. Which I think is probably the most important piece. (Although I bought that f**ker too, LOL...)

Two days ago, I was trying to tell my 7th grade daughter about how 7th grade boys, like her first ever boyfriend, don't really know what love is even if they use the word. She got irritated with me and said, "Stop it dad! Mom and I don't really agree with your definition of 'love'!" I said what do you mean? And she said, "Mom and I think you can love more than one person." WTF?

What she was trying to say is that she and her mother think you can love someone and then at some point down the road love someone else, but it was funny when she said it. Of course, that didn't really have much to do with the point I was trying to get across so my efforts were a complete failure, but I'll keep trying to teach her what I know about the vulgar and dangerous ideas that float around in the minds of boys of all ages.