A way to stop the insanity and lessen the pain: A reformed Chiefaholic's advice

[Yosef_Malkovitch]

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EDIT: I originally posted this after watching the Chiefs blow a 28-point lead in the latest playoff defeat. Given some of the sentiment I've seen on the board today, I thought this might be a good time for a bump.

Most people here don't know me, I've been around since day 1 (literally) of CP, but I almost always just lurk b/c I don't have much to add to the discussion. However, given how much pain this franchise caused me up until 2006, and given how much the advice below helped me live a much happier life during football season, I thought I might throw my 2 cents in.
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I was originally going to post this in one of the numerous “I’m so crushed I no longer care that much” threads, but I thought it might get lost there. I want to pass along some advice that was given to me on this very board many years ago, advice that really changed my life (at least from September through January).

A number of years ago a very wise poster on this board advised me to just turn down my level of caring. I wish I could remember who it was, but he said that if you do that, you can still enjoy the wins but the losses won't get you so much.

I did that over the course of about 8 years starting with the No Punt Game.

I have to say, it's really nice. If you can pull it off, then when the Chiefs win it's a nice bonus for your day but if they lose you just shrug and go on about your business.

Yesterday I spent the commercial breaks doing some work on my laptop and chatting with the guy sitting across from me in the McDonald's where we were watching it. At 38-10 he said, "Well I guess that's the game, huh?" and my response--one borne from years of pain at the hands of this franchise--was to say, "Not with the Chiefs. If anyone can snatch defeat from the jaws of victory, it's this team."

Then, when Smith fumbled and the Colts recovered, I just chuckled and told him, "I've seen this song and dance before." Every time Luck completed a pass to a receiver who had no KC player anywhere within 5 yards of him, I shook my head and wondered how some people keep their jobs, but I can't say I was ever really upset about it.

After Bowe was ruled out of bounds I didn't even have much of a reaction, honestly. I just turned back to my laptop and finished what I was working on.

It was nice to not be so vested in this team that the loss ruined my day. I remember many times (such as the 1995 playoff debacle) when I was in agony for days--WEEKS--afterwards. I remember one time punching the floor so hard that I damaged something in my hand and couldn't grip well for several weeks.

Not anymore. Whoever that wise poster was, he saved me from this franchise. I still lurk here all the time, and I listen to the games on the radio while I'm working in the yard or around the house, but I rarely dedicate an entire 3.5 hour block to sitting down and watching a game. The exception is the playoffs; I figure that’s still worth spending the time/effort to watch, although I will try to do something productive during commercials, etc. so I don’t feel like I’ve lost so much if (when) the Chiefs choke again.

I used to be one of the most avid fans. I knew every player’s history, strengths and weaknesses, etc. I kept up on all the details of all the games going on around the league that might in some small way affect the Chiefs. I analyzed every facet of upcoming games and could rattle off various statistics at the drop of a hat. And I was utterly and completely crushed when the Chiefs lost key games over and over again. Such devotion absolutely took a toll on me: the frustration, the anger, even the fights it would cause in my personal life after yet another showing of ineptitude by the Chiefs.

Gaz one time wrote about being speechless with rage. I was right there with him. And then, after the No Punt Game, I realized my life is so much more than just following a group of very wealthy athletes (many of whom I truly believe care less than the fans do) drop game after game, year after year.

The result is I've been able to enjoy the good times and just shake my head and chuckle at the truly awful times. The lack of stress has been wonderful, and I'm no longer so crushed by the latest disaster to come out of KC. I’m attached enough to enjoy the success, but I’m detached enough that the absolute failure doesn’t get to me that much.

Maybe it's time for some of us on this board to try to follow that poster's advice. Many already have, judging from what I've read the last 21 hours.

If you haven't done so already, maybe you should just sit back and consider where football really ranks in your life. Regardless of what happens on Sunday afternoon, it's not going to change your life that much. You’re not going to get a raise or a promotion if they win, and you’re not going to lose your job if they lose. It’s just a game, a way to pass a few hours on Sunday afternoons.

The outcome of a game won’t change your life one way or the other. After the game is over, go for a walk. Have a nice dinner with your family. Make love to your significant other. Read a book. Go to a movie. Play catch with the dog. Spend time with the kids. These are the important things in your life, and none of them are in the slightest bit affected by whether the Chiefs win or lose a game.

Of course I know some people will deride me as a heretic for suggesting that maybe KC Chiefs football isn’t and shouldn’t be the focal point of our lives, but hey, I’m just sharing what was shared with me many years ago. It really helped me. I still enjoy the wins but the losses don’t leave me feeling sick in the pit of my stomach like they used to.

Just a thought.



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TL;DR: I used to passionately follow the Chiefs until someone on the board suggested that I not care so much about it. Over several years I’ve slowly adjusted my level of caring and now I can still enjoy the wins but the losses don’t crush me the way they used to. Try it, if you can, it’s actually pretty enjoyable.
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[Hammock Parties]

Originally Posted by Fairplay

The Donks knew we sucked and flipped us the bird with that fake punt play, they had 4th and nine yards and they called that play, pretty ballsy call unless you're playing Chiefs.

They turned it over and we got a whole ****ing 3 points.

There's nothing to fear when you play this team except Charles.

Stop him, the team is dead.

[Simply Red]

Originally Posted by Fish

Your advice is to not care as much?

Genious!

Yeah but in all honesty it's the only way to (not only keep your interest alive) but it's also the only way to stay sane. I'm going on my 3rd year of not letting a Chiefs' loss ruin my day. Not caring is the only true way to let go.

[Simply Red]

Originally Posted by Boise_Chief

He is one of the Founding members that came over from the Star bb. He used to post more but like myself is content to sit back and lurk.

I had skipped that paragraph at the beginning - I see now.

[notorious]

Wow, I guess I take losses pretty easily.


When you have no control how can you get upset so badly it ruins even one day?

[Yosef_Malkovitch]

Originally Posted by Simply Red

Ok cool - nice to have met you. I'm Simply Red - Most of the OG's from the Star really like me.

Likewise!

I have never had a problem with you, but then again I haven't really had a problem with many of the people on here except for Denise. And Gochiefs when he first started, although he got better as the years went by.

[displacedinMN]

Been there with the OP.

I would live and die with every play during the 1990's. In fact, I don't remember the last time I did not watch or listen to a game live. Maybe 2004.

Then came my realization. A loss should not ruin my Monday. I was losing 3.5 hours every sunday when I had things to do. Mostly school work. I can spend an entire day correcting papers and getting ready for the next week. Also, with the time between plays, I can get one or two short papers in the grade book and not miss the game.

Came back around during the Vermeil era but still worked during the game.

And then Herm. Boy could he get your hopes up. He blew more first half leads than I could count. I swear he led most games into halftime and lost them. MAKE A ********* adjustment!!!!!

Haley-not only did he lose, HE LOST BIG!!!!

I love the chiefs. Not as die hard as I once was. Ditto on the disappointments. Been there-done that. I watch, I get happy, I get let down.

Come to the relaxed side everyone. It makes you live longer. It is a game.

[RedandGold]

Originally Posted by Easy 6

I was genuinely surprised to find out they didnt get past 29 points, figured they'd wanna twist the knife a bit.

On a night that we were supposed to be playing for Eric Berry, beating us with 29 points was about as big of a knife twisting as they could give us.

[Discuss Thrower]

I have no desire to see the last two home games in person.

KC is 1 and 8 for the last nine divisional home games.

That's pathetic.

[displacedinMN]

Shouldn't we be saying:

Hi, My name is Displaced and I am a Chiefsaholic

[Simply Red]

Originally Posted by Yosef_Malkovitch

Likewise!

I have never had a problem with you, but then again I haven't really had a problem with many of the people on here except for Denise. And Gochiefs when he first started, although he got better as the years went by.

Thanks - Uncover your rep and we'll make it a bright green. Send me a rep message as I'm leaving - we will get that rep green again - although I bet it's green anyhow.