Divorce....

[kjwood75nro]

Originally Posted by eDave

AFter being married twice, with both ending up cheating, I have come to terms that it was my fault in the end. There had to be a reason that two women I loved would do this. The reasons are personal but I figured it out.

My joke to people is that I can get the woman, I just can't KEEP the woman.

baitism - If her cheating is something you can never forgive then move forward with divorce, heeding the advice given here. If not and you want to save this, ask why it happened and work on that.

That's the problem with marriage...it takes away a man's ability to give a woman options for her actions, which results either in a happier, healthier relationship, or a quicker, less painful breakup on a relationship that would fail anyway.

In bait's case, her cheating could allow him to give her the option to end the relationship, or to stay but with demotions (i.e. she loses her say, he gets side pussy, etc.). But since he's married, the options go away as courts are unacceptably biased towards women. With marriage, it's just fingers crossed that the woman won't do something ****ed up and get rewarded for it anyway.

[eDave]

Originally Posted by kjwood75nro

That's the problem with marriage...it takes away a man's ability to give a woman options for her actions, which results either in a happier, healthier relationship, or a quicker, less painful breakup on a relationship that would fail anyway.

In bait's case, her cheating could allow him to give her the option to end the relationship, or to stay but with demotions (i.e. she loses her say, he gets side pussy, etc.). But since he's married, the options go away as courts are unacceptably biased towards women. With marriage, it's just fingers crossed that the woman won't do something ****ed up and get rewarded for it anyway.

GTFO. You missed the point entirely.

And I'm not implying this is his fault. Just offering a life lesson. In the end, if you are giving your WIFE what she needs and she to you, cheating doesn't happen. Unless she's a nympho or something.

First lesson in marriage: Don't stop ****ing your wife.

[kjwood75nro]

Originally Posted by eDave

GTFO. You missed the point entirely.

And I'm not implying this is his fault. Just offering a life lesson. In the end, if you are giving your WIFE what she needs and she to you, cheating doesn't happen. Unless she's a nympho or something.

First lesson in marriage: Don't stop ****ing your wife.

I'm not saying it's his fault either, just saying that the game of marriage is rigged to the point of absurdity.

As for your claim (paraphrased) to "do right by her and she won't cheat," divorce/family courts across this country are absolutely saturated with the shattered lives and hopes of men who had that optimistic, yet misguided, mindset. It goes beyond giving her good sex; it's a mindset where she looks at you with admiration and respect.

Women's cheating isn't like men's, where men just want to get off on something different. Women's cheating is more emotional. A man can cheat, then go home and continue the relationship. If a woman cheats, then the relationship was over long before that.

But again, married vs. not married messes up the dynamic.

[Ebolapox]

Originally Posted by kjwood75nro

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Women's cheating isn't like men's, where men just want to get off on something different. Women's cheating is more emotional. A man can cheat, then go home and continue the relationship. If a woman cheats, then the relationship was over long before that.

But again, married vs. not married messes up the dynamic.

kinda true kinda not. I'm a strange case, I know. I divorced my wife after (unwittingly, maybe subconsciously--I'm sure I'll tell the story some other time) almost cheating on my ex-wife... I couldn't have cheated and just gone home... ****, with my ex, I could've ****ed around on her for years without being found with only slight effort... I just couldn't handle being 'that' guy... yes, sexless marriage, but I couldn't just be the guy that goes and gets it where it's easily available (was a grad student, ton of options at the ready)

maybe I'm just that guy... I couldn't do it. not every guy can be the cheating type. sure, I could get sex elsewhere... I could now, even in a happy relationship.. but it wouldn't feel right.

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by eDave

First lesson in marriage: Don't stop loving your wife.

FYP

women want:

love
security

men want:

respect
fidelity

[BWillie]

Originally Posted by stevieray

FYP

women want:

love
security

men want:

respect
fidelity

Men want: feed me, **** me and then .

[stevieray]

Originally Posted by BWillie

Men want: feed me, **** me and then .

No, that's a teenager mentality.

[Prison Bitch]

Originally Posted by stevieray

FYP

women want:

love
security

men want:

respect
fidelity

They both want the same things.

[Iowanian]

Originally Posted by Prison Bitch

They both want the same things.

not exactly true.

Women want:
Stability, financial security, faithful, loyal, safe, tall, handsome, hung, endurance, funny, gentle, sweet, clever, spontaneous, thoughtful, clever, good hair, forgiving men who don't mind their baby daddy, is kind to their mother and doesn't mind their cat.

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

[Prison Bitch]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

not exactly true.

Women want:
Stability, financial security, faithful, loyal, safe, tall, handsome, hung, endurance, funny, gentle, sweet, clever, spontaneous, thoughtful, clever, good hair, forgiving men who don't mind their baby daddy, is kind to their mother and doesn't mind their cat.

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

Find a nagging or hateful woman, and you won't care how empty your balls are.

[Ebolapox]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

not exactly true.

Women want:
Stability, financial security, faithful, loyal, safe, tall, handsome, hung, endurance, funny, gentle, sweet, clever, spontaneous, thoughtful, clever, good hair, forgiving men who don't mind their baby daddy, is kind to their mother and doesn't mind their cat.

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

let's go full evolutionary:

women want a strong man who is strong emotionally, mentally and physically (some combination, depending on circumstances--we humans are positive assortative maters--aka we go after those in roughly our class in all the three mentioned areas).

women can overlook personality (heh, like guys can't?) when other parts of the trio are met but may be ready to 'cheat' for a better baby (look up the actual derivation of the term cuckolding--it wasn't invented by republicans, it's a bird behavioral term)...

evolutionarily it's all about resource allocation... the fact that women have one egg a month that drops til menopause... guys have millions per load til old age makes it much fewer... either way, men are fertile for decades, women aren't... with fewer resources, women can be pickier and 'snipe' the younger male to impregnate and make the husband raise the kids...

[Mahomes]

Originally Posted by Ebolapox

let's go full evolutionary:

women want a strong man who is strong emotionally, mentally and physically (some combination, depending on circumstances--we humans are positive assortative maters--aka we go after those in roughly our class in all the three mentioned areas).

women can overlook personality (heh, like guys can't?) when other parts of the trio are met but may be ready to 'cheat' for a better baby (look up the actual derivation of the term cuckolding--it wasn't invented by republicans, it's a bird behavioral term)...

evolutionarily it's all about resource allocation... the fact that women have one egg a month that drops til menopause... guys have millions per load til old age makes it much fewer... either way, men are fertile for decades, women aren't... with fewer resources, women can be pickier and 'snipe' the younger male to impregnate and make the husband raise the kids...

Maury show disagrees with you

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by stevieray

No, that's a teenager mentality.

It sure is....

Originally Posted by Iowanian

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

Originally Posted by BWillie

Men want: feed me, **** me and then .

^I can accomplish all of that on my own.

[kjwood75nro]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

not exactly true.

Women want:
Stability, financial security, faithful, loyal, safe, tall, handsome, hung, endurance, funny, gentle, sweet, clever, spontaneous, thoughtful, clever, good hair, forgiving men who don't mind their baby daddy, is kind to their mother and doesn't mind their cat.

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

Dave Chappelle said it best...

"Suck his dick, play with his balls, make him a sandwich, and don't talk so much."

[Abba-Dabba]

Originally Posted by Iowanian

not exactly true.

Women want:
Stability, financial security, faithful, loyal, safe, tall, handsome, hung, endurance, funny, gentle, sweet, clever, spontaneous, thoughtful, clever, good hair, forgiving men who don't mind their baby daddy, is kind to their mother and doesn't mind their cat.

Men want:
Fully belly, empty balls.

Men don't want a loyal woman? Not just talking about sex either. How about your finances?

What about being a great mother to your children? Not important as well?