Life Confronting a cheater - Page 13

The Dude Abides · 05:30 PM

Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other?

PhillyChiefFan · 02-17-2009, 09:17 AM

Wouldn't the fact that she was living with him for the entire time you were together throw a red flag on the field? OP said for the 3 years they were 'together, she lived with her ex boyfriend? No way in hell I would just say "oh, it's ok for you to live with your ex of 9 years, 30 mins away from me."

Wha?!?!?!

PhillyChiefFan · 02-17-2009, 09:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Radar Chief

Confronting the significant other of a cheater?
Sounds like a plan for getting shot to me.

This. Seriously, you are lucky the guy was so subdued.

Even though you didn't "know" that they were still together you had to have known something was up long before she started pulling away.

If she was serious about you, she would have moved out of the ex's house.

memyselfI · 02-17-2009, 09:22 AM

This is about petty revenge and hurting ego. Nothing more. You are not concerned about the other guy's situation one iota otherwise you would have cared when she was with you vs. when she stopped.

Not to mention that it might put her in danger. How would you feel if you told this guy and then read that she was severely beaten or murdered?

Do the right and mature thing and be a grown up and just cut your loses and move on.

wutamess · 02-17-2009, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

lol. You enjoyed it while you could, and now that she doesn't want you anymore, you have to punish her.

Either the story is full of shit or you are.

I guess that's not an either/or.

This.

Fuggin haters. There's codes to that shit. You broke one.

RippedmyFlesh · 02-17-2009, 10:23 AM

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Originally Posted by 'Hamas' Jenkins

What makes a woman who cheated on you worth fighting over?

Yeah, if some other guy smacked your wife, it's on, but if she's running out on you, what's the point of putting yourself in even more physical and legal danger (in addition to the STDs you may or may not get) by fighting some other dude.

Best case scenario: You whip the guy's ass and you still have a wife who cheated on you.

That still leaves you open to felony assault charges.

So again, I ask, what is to gain from this?

This is too logical for hillbillies to understand.

**Dartgod** · 02-17-2009, 10:59 AM

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Originally Posted by The Dude Abides

I thought about showing him some pictures and home movies we made, but decided against it.

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Originally Posted by The Dude Abides

But I'm keeping the pics and home movies. Good stuff.

Over a hundred posts since these two and not one "This thread is worthless without pictures" reply?

You all suck.

Katipan · 02-17-2009, 11:07 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dartgod

Over a hundred posts since these two and not one "This thread is worthless without pictures" reply?

You all suck.

You'd only post stupid comments like that cuz you wanted the masses of people that can click on any vast array of actually sexy hot porn to beg and plead for you to share your non-existant homemade porn.

I'm glad the members of CP are already fully stocked on their porn.

Chieftain58 · 02-17-2009, 11:08 AM

Bad place to come for advice!

**Dartgod** · 02-17-2009, 11:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Katipan

You'd only post stupid comments like that cuz you wanted the masses of people that can click on any vast array of actually sexy hot porn to beg and plead for you to share your non-existant homemade porn.

I'm glad the members of CP are already fully stocked on their porn.

Porn? You mean I can access porn on the Internet?

Katipan · 02-17-2009, 11:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Dartgod

Porn? You mean I can access porn on the Internet?

girl on girl porn even

lazepoo · 02-17-2009, 11:13 AM

http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...74583886026984

This says it all.

keg in kc · 02-17-2009, 11:58 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dartgod

Over a hundred posts since these two and not one "This thread is worthless without pictures" reply?

My guess is it'd be even more worthless with pics.

Pants · 02-17-2009, 12:45 PM

I do agree with keg and Hamas to an extent, but if the guy knows he's ****ing a wife or, even worse, a married mother - he deserves to have the shit kicked out of him. You simply do NOT do that.

And quit being a dumbshit, Mecca, it doesn't matter how lonely the wife is. If she's that unhappy, she can go ahead and divorce the dude who is toiling away at work to support his family and then go ahead and proceed to **** some worthless, basement dweller like you. That is some ****ed up shit.

In either case, the wife will be taking a hike without any if's or but's, no matter what the situation was, she is the one who is responsible.

The Dude Abides · 02-17-2009, 12:58 PM

Maybe I should have titled this thread "letting the other guy know his woman cant be trusted". And there was no home to wreck, they were not married, had no kids, she was playing us both and she got caught.

Katipan · 02-17-2009, 01:01 PM

Sounds like she got away with all of it.

02-16-2009, 04:21 PM
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6744940	Confronting a cheater Haven't been here in awhile, so check this out. Guess this could be related to the cheaters thread, but oh well. I had been seeing this woman for about 3 years. Everything was great, we got along, amazing sex, etc. But during this whole time, I live in Wichita, she in Newton, a 30 minute drive. She always had to visit me at my house because she lived with her ex. They had never been married, just dated for 9 years. Long story short, I saw the end coming, she was pulling away, as she had done before a few years ago, so I found where she lived and told her supposed ex the whole story of me and his woman. Oh yeah, they were very much together, he said. But he was a big puss and didn't get mad or anything. But needless to say, she got hysterical, said she hated me, i ruined her life, etc. I knew all this was going to happen anyway, but I just couldn't let her get away with her doing the whole player thing. So basically, what is your opinion on confronting the cheaters significant other? Last edited by The Dude Abides; 02-16-2009 at 05:30 PM..
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02-17-2009, 09:17 AM	#181
PhillyChiefFan Veteran Join Date: May 2007 Location: Harrisburg, PA Casino cash: $3151139	Wouldn't the fact that she was living with him for the entire time you were together throw a red flag on the field? OP said for the 3 years they were 'together, she lived with her ex boyfriend? No way in hell I would just say "oh, it's ok for you to live with your ex of 9 years, 30 mins away from me." Wha?!?!?!
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02-17-2009, 09:22 AM	#183
memyselfI CHANGEd your mind yet???? Join Date: Aug 2001 Location: Lunatics Anonymous Casino cash: $10005234	This is about petty revenge and hurting ego. Nothing more. You are not concerned about the other guy's situation one iota otherwise you would have cared when she was with you vs. when she stopped. Not to mention that it might put her in danger. How would you feel if you told this guy and then read that she was severely beaten or murdered? Do the right and mature thing and be a grown up and just cut your loses and move on. __________________ Meet the new boss same as the old boss. BigChiefDave:"Anyone who thought we would only be in Iraq for a few years is either stoned or just stoopid." "It is unknowable how long that conflict will last. It could last 6 days, 6 wks. I doubt 6 mths." Rummy 2/7/03
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02-17-2009, 11:13 AM	#191
lazepoo Wizard Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Mpls Casino cash: $10005004	http://video.google.com/videoplay?do...74583886026984 This says it all.
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02-17-2009, 12:45 PM	#193
Pants Time Keeps On Slipping Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Overland Park Casino cash: $3499900	I do agree with keg and Hamas to an extent, but if the guy knows he's **ing a wife or, even worse, a married mother - he deserves to have the shit kicked out of him. You simply do NOT do that. And quit being a dumbshit, Mecca, it doesn't matter how lonely the wife is. If she's that unhappy, she can go ahead and divorce the dude who is toiling away at work to support his family and then go ahead and proceed to some worthless, basement dweller like you. That is some **ed up shit. In either case, the wife will be taking a hike without any if's or but's, no matter what the situation was, she is the one who is responsible. __________________ "Turn the channel to 26!"
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02-17-2009, 12:58 PM	#194
The Dude Abides Starter Join Date: Jan 2006 Casino cash: $6744940	Maybe I should have titled this thread "letting the other guy know his woman cant be trusted". And there was no home to wreck, they were not married, had no kids, she was playing us both and she got caught.
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02-17-2009, 01:01 PM	#195
Katipan MER Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Colorado Casino cash: $-1039649	Sounds like she got away with all of it.
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