Does the "no contact" rule work?

[God of Thunder]

Originally Posted by FAX

I knew this guy ... he used to be the Executive Director of the Leukemia Society here in Nashville when I was on the board. Then, he became a franchisee of a company I helped start.

Anyhow, he lost it over a damn live-in girlfriend when she started screwing around. He bugged her phone, tailed her night and day, heck he even hired a PI for awhile to spy on her. He totally lost it. And this guy was otherwise, by all outward appearances, a normal human being with a solid reputation, many friends, and a decent career.

Women can turn even the best guy into a whimpering, paranoid idiot. You owe it to yourself to not let that happen to you. Ever.

FAX

trying hard not too. I am not contacting her, although I would like my stuff back.

She even did stupid things, like Monday, when I dropped her clothes off with her mom.....she loves playing 'scramble with friends' and we had about 5 games going........instead of leaving them and not touching them, she resigned on them all........sort of childish.

The convo with her mother when I dropped her stuff off went like this........


mom - "So do you think you two are going to work this out?"

me - "I don't think so, we're just too incompatible, and sometimes it just doesn't work out"

mom - "You know Melissa never really tells us anything, so we really have no idea what ever is going on"

me - "That seems to be a common theme with her."

mom - "you know, Melissa's first boyfriend was overly clingy, possessive, had to always know where she was at, she just can't handle that sort of thing"

me - "well, maybe is she didn't constantly lie, that wouldn't happen"



I think I handled it well. Her mom was trying to pry to see what I would say. Melissa is 24, so I am sure she'll ask her mom if I said anything when I dropped her stuff off and I wanted to give NO impression that I was hurt over this. The real kicker was when her mom came out to get the last couple of items and one of them was a pregnancy test..

"did Melissa think she was pregnant?"

me - Yeah, good thing that didn't happen.