Engaged? - Page 5

bogie · 01-22-2007, 05:19 PM

We met August '96, moved in together October of '96, married January '97 and she was pregnant by July of '97. I literally knew on our 1st date that I wanted to marry her.

OgTheCaveman · 01-22-2007, 05:39 PM

KC Jones · 01-22-2007, 06:08 PM

The wife and I had been living together for 2 years and dating exclusively for 3 when she started prodding me about marriage. One day I told her I would give it serious thought, but that I didn't need any sort of pressure from nagging and asked her to drop it for 1 full year. Eight months later I hadn't heard a peep, hint, etc from her on the subject and I proposed.

P.S. It'll be 11 years this August.

**Iowanian** · 01-22-2007, 07:44 PM

I tried to not.....but I have to.

You don't have to buy a ring every time you get your stinger wet, III.

Since words won't convey the message, I'll use a pic I saw once to explain your impending situation.

**Rain Man** · 01-22-2007, 07:52 PM

My secret to knowing if the marriage will work: check out her friends closely. Her friends will show you what her real values are. If you like the friends, then you'll probably be in good shape for the long term. If you can't stand the friends, you're doomed.

01-22-2007, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

My secret to knowing if the marriage will work: check out her friends closely. Her friends will show you what her real values are. If you like the friends, then you'll probably be in good shape for the long term. If you can't stand the friends, you're doomed.

What if her friends don't put out?

**Rain Man** · 01-23-2007, 10:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Phobia

What if her friends don't put out?

Then you're probably not going to like them.

SLQ · 01-22-2007, 09:13 PM

Dated for 5 years. No cohabitating.

Married for over 30 years.

Looking for a long awaited honeymoon in Hawaii.

SLAG · 01-23-2007, 01:18 AM

if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married..

not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship...

idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi.

i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage.

**luv** · 01-23-2007, 01:21 AM

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Originally Posted by SLAG

if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married..

not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship...

idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi.

i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage.

I went to an independent baptist church. Our pastor wouldn't marry people if he couldn't counsel them first. I've never been to one, but I could definitely see where they would be good. Give you some things to think about that you might not have thought about before (or chose not to think about because you're so in love).

chiefwidow · 01-23-2007, 07:35 AM

My opinion.... for the two cents it's worth, you ought to live on your own for awhile.... not in a dorm or in your parents house. Dorms are close, but you don't have to worry about cooking or paying bills. Living with her for at least 6 mo will let the politeness of the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship die and you will start being totally yourself. Not getting up and leaving the room to fart.... and picking up when you don't do it at home.
Can you describe her without including the size of her breast? Picture her having a terrible accident and disfiguring Or her as fat as a Gieswien..... attitude or like your dad's girlfriend.... would you still want to marry her???

Besides.... since you've met her in October..... my bet has been that you'll be asking her on 2-14-2007

**Dunit35** · 01-23-2007, 10:06 AM

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Originally Posted by chiefwidow

My opinion.... for the two cents it's worth, you ought to live on your own for awhile.... not in a dorm or in your parents house. Dorms are close, but you don't have to worry about cooking or paying bills. Living with her for at least 6 mo will let the politeness of the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship die and you will start being totally yourself. Not getting up and leaving the room to fart.... and picking up when you don't do it at home.
Can you describe her without including the size of her breast? Picture her having a terrible accident and disfiguring Or her as fat as a Gieswien..... attitude or like your dad's girlfriend.... would you still want to marry her???

Besides.... since you've met her in October..... my bet has been that you'll be asking her on 2-14-2007

You know...not 100% sure...but aren't you my step mom? I pick up around her place all the time. She cooks and I do the dishes for her...so yeah I'm not as lazy as I use to be. I don't plan on asking her on Valentines Day...won't be with her then...the weekend before or after.

**Iowanian** · 01-23-2007, 10:14 AM

Whats going to happen when you get into a brawl with her PMSing best friend? What happens when that girl is pissed at you and is bitching to your girlfriend?

What if you don't get along well with her brother as a roomate? I've had alot of friends that I couldn't live with, and some good friends I have lived with, that didn't really work out.

This is an entirely different animal.

Do NOT get engaged until you've had a major fight. DO NOT get engaged until you've been around her when she's been sick, or when one of you has been inconvenienced by a family tragedy or illness.

If you started dating in October...you barely know this girl.

**Dunit35** · 01-23-2007, 10:38 AM

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Originally Posted by Iowanian

Whats going to happen when you get into a brawl with her PMSing best friend? What happens when that girl is pissed at you and is bitching to your girlfriend?

What if you don't get along well with her brother as a roomate? I've had alot of friends that I couldn't live with, and some good friends I have lived with, that didn't really work out.

This is an entirely different animal.

Do NOT get engaged until you've had a major fight. DO NOT get engaged until you've been around her when she's been sick, or when one of you has been inconvenienced by a family tragedy or illness.

If you started dating in October...you barely know this girl.

I don't see why I wouldn't get along with her brother...I'm with him quite a bit...drink with him all the time. Her best friend would have to snap for us to get into it. She's always calm and pretty nice actually. She was actually pretty sick last month for about a week...ended up getting me sick. Like I said...if I feel like something isn't right between us, I'm not going to do it.

trndobrd · 01-23-2007, 10:16 AM

C'mon in. The water's fine.

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01-22-2007, 05:19 PM	#1
bogie West Coast Chief Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: california Casino cash: $10004900	We met August '96, moved in together October of '96, married January '97 and she was pregnant by July of '97. I literally knew on our 1st date that I wanted to marry her. __________________
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01-22-2007, 06:08 PM	#3
KC Jones Genious Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Colorado Casino cash: $10012761	The wife and I had been living together for 2 years and dating exclusively for 3 when she started prodding me about marriage. One day I told her I would give it serious thought, but that I didn't need any sort of pressure from nagging and asked her to drop it for 1 full year. Eight months later I hadn't heard a peep, hint, etc from her on the subject and I proposed. P.S. It'll be 11 years this August. __________________ re-sign: to sign again resign: to withdraw from employment
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01-22-2007, 07:44 PM	#4
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01-22-2007, 07:52 PM	#5
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01-22-2007, 09:13 PM	#8
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01-23-2007, 01:18 AM	#9
SLAG Superbowl MVP Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: OOOOOOOOOOOOOLATHE Casino cash: $9910252	if you serious about marriage go see a marriage counselor BEFORE you get married.. not saying shit is wrong but it wont hurt... it will give you a solid look at your relationship... idk if your religious but if some 3rd party counselor isnt in your budget or likes you could check with your local pastor / priest / rabbi. i do know that the Catholic church does require marriage classes and counseling before they do any marriage. __________________ Ad astra per aspera
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01-23-2007, 07:35 AM	#11
chiefwidow Starter Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: nowhere special Casino cash: $10004900	My opinion.... for the two cents it's worth, you ought to live on your own for awhile.... not in a dorm or in your parents house. Dorms are close, but you don't have to worry about cooking or paying bills. Living with her for at least 6 mo will let the politeness of the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship die and you will start being totally yourself. Not getting up and leaving the room to fart.... and picking up when you don't do it at home. Can you describe her without including the size of her breast? Picture her having a terrible accident and disfiguring Or her as fat as a Gieswien..... attitude or like your dad's girlfriend.... would you still want to marry her??? Besides.... since you've met her in October..... my bet has been that you'll be asking her on 2-14-2007 __________________
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01-23-2007, 10:14 AM	#13
Iowanian Supporter Join Date: Aug 2000 Location: Utopia Casino cash: $1678454	Whats going to happen when you get into a brawl with her PMSing best friend? What happens when that girl is pissed at you and is bitching to your girlfriend? What if you don't get along well with her brother as a roomate? I've had alot of friends that I couldn't live with, and some good friends I have lived with, that didn't really work out. This is an entirely different animal. Do NOT get engaged until you've had a major fight. DO NOT get engaged until you've been around her when she's been sick, or when one of you has been inconvenienced by a family tragedy or illness. If you started dating in October...you barely know this girl.
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01-23-2007, 10:16 AM	#15
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