Social Anxiety

[TLO]

Anyone ever have issues with social anxiety before?

I've noticed myself being uncomfortable with large crowds of people as far back as 3rd or 4th grade. Recently though, I'm noticing it around people all together. Yesterday we had a medium size group for Easter dinner, mostly family, and I didn't really talk to anyone. Sometimes I have difficulty going to class because I'm afraid I'll be judged, or God forbid the professor puts us into a small group to do an activity.

Any thoughts or opinions are welcome.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

You forgot one important piece

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[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by NewChief

Speaking of public speaking:

I just sponsored a high school team at a Start Up Weeekend. Our pitch guy kept trying to memorize his pitch, and it was killing me. I kept trying to get him to just hit the talking points and use the AV to help him remember the statistics/numbers in the pitch. Sadly, he wasn't comfortable with that and ended up going with his memorized presentation. He flubbed his first few lines (missing his killer hook), and it was painful. He recovered for the rest of the pitch, but the damage was done.

Anyway, after working with them (all high school kids), I realized how speaking extemporaneously in front of people is such an acquired skill that most are uncomfortable performing.

Can't find it with a quick search, but there's a good talk on ted.com about this... the point of the talk was to link talking points in your presentation with absurd situations and create a plot in your mind that basically walks you through the presentation. It's a slightly more complicated version of this:

[ptlyon]

Originally Posted by vailpass

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I see somebody didn't read the thread in it's entirety

[Bearcat]

Originally Posted by NewChief

Speaking of public speaking:

I just sponsored a high school team at a Start Up Weeekend. Our pitch guy kept trying to memorize his pitch, and it was killing me. I kept trying to get him to just hit the talking points and use the AV to help him remember the statistics/numbers in the pitch. Sadly, he wasn't comfortable with that and ended up going with his memorized presentation. He flubbed his first few lines (missing his killer hook), and it was painful. He recovered for the rest of the pitch, but the damage was done.

Anyway, after working with them (all high school kids), I realized how speaking extemporaneously in front of people is such an acquired skill that most are uncomfortable performing.

Bam...

http://www.ted.com/talks/joshua_foer..._anyone_can_do

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

I see somebody didn't read the thread in it's entirety

Guilty as charged. What did I miss that makes my statement incomplete?

[ptlyon]

Originally Posted by vailpass

Guilty as charged. What did I miss that makes my statement incomplete?

Seek and ye shall find truth my son

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

Seek and ye shall find truth my son

It's 90 degrees out, I'm floating in the pool, on my tablet. **** all that back reading.

[ptlyon]

Sounds like an Obama supporter

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

Sounds like an Obama supporter

We made it onto the fifth page before someone had to try and derail the thread. That's incredible by CP standards.

[ptlyon]

Good God yet another non reader. I tried in the 2nd reply...

[Bearcat]

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Originally Posted by ptlyon

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[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

Good God yet another non reader. I tried in the 2nd reply...

Dude, I'm referring to your need to drag politics into the thread. I've read every post up to this point.

This has been a surprisingly genuine thread with a lot of helpful and personal replies, so I think I speak for everyone when I say that you can keep DC shit in DC.

EDIT: Ehh, never mind. You're not being serious and I'm overreacting.

[ShortRoundChief]

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

Panic attacks, not being sociable, and avoiding most social situations.

It is all mental and most likely due to setting too much importance on a single event. Force yourself to ask someone how they're doing, look them in the eye, and if they reject you (and if so **** em anyway cause it sounds like you're better not knowing them). If you feel a panic attack coming on question every negative thought that enters your mind. Look at it reasonably and make yourself assign a percentage of probability to the worst possible scenario occurring then focus on the much larger percentage that it won't. Most importantly deep breaths or get a glass of water if you can. Accept those negative thoughts, realize there is a slim chance, if any, of it being that bad. Don't repress them because trying to force them away gives them strength (seriously negative thoughts are like a loanshark you owe money to) let them come, analyze their realism, and they will run like the wind.

[vailpass]

Originally Posted by Bearcat

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thanks. Pylons I bow to your wisdom....though I'd substitute that with blow jobs for maximum effect...

[mr. tegu]

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

Pot helps.

No it doesn't. Any thoughts on why I would say that?

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

It's sad, but I'm often much happier just sitting in my dorm, watching sports, and playing around on CP.

Not to get too therapuetic in a public forum, but could tell me a bit about your belief that "it's sad" in regards to those things that make you happy?