Social Anxiety

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

Sounds like an Obama supporter

We made it onto the fifth page before someone had to try and derail the thread. That's incredible by CP standards.

[ptlyon]

Good God yet another non reader. I tried in the 2nd reply...

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by ptlyon

Good God yet another non reader. I tried in the 2nd reply...

Dude, I'm referring to your need to drag politics into the thread. I've read every post up to this point.

This has been a surprisingly genuine thread with a lot of helpful and personal replies, so I think I speak for everyone when I say that you can keep DC shit in DC.

EDIT: Ehh, never mind. You're not being serious and I'm overreacting.

[Eureka]

If you haven't taken one yet I would suggest a speech class!

[Dayze]

i had it as a kid, I'm sure of it. my job in the Navy required me speaking in front of officers, pilots, and even CO/XO of the ship when deployed; and a few times in front of the RADM of Third Fleet.

My school, required us to deliver near daily mock-briefings. I was petrified. but after doing it over and over and over again, I got used to it. After time, gaining more confidence in my job and what I was speaking about, I didn't mind it. Once the confidence is there, it really does go away. That, and just saying "**** it" and not giving a shit helps too. lol.

I used to think while I was up in front of everyone (high school, middle school etc) that everyone was judging me. But, once I said **** it, I don't care what they think, it helped quite a bit.

It's odd, because I was a gymnast for 5 years; competitive, not just recreational. there were times I would be the only one on my event performing and a majority of the meet would be watching me. but it didn't bother me. Again, it was probably a confidence thing t at that point because I knew I was fairly good etc.

[Tribal Warfare]

Anxiety, no just usually don't care or want to deal with bullshit that doesn't involve me.

I like to read other people's responses(wallflower), but usually believe I can put my time in that's more meaningful.

[TLO]

I'll send you a PM later tonight, mr. tegu.

Thank you.

[mr. tegu]

Originally Posted by Big Smoke

mr. tegu I'll send you a PM later tonight.

Thank you.

Sounds good. I will respond tomorrow. Now lets get back to the Royals dominating!

[Chiefs=Champions]

Have suffered with social anxiety since high school. Ironically I think I am naturally quite chatty when I dont feel anxious. Around the right people im almost the loudest in the group. I got professional help, which really changed my life to be honest. I would highly recommend doing so.

[NewChief]

Originally Posted by Chiefs=Good

Have suffered with social anxiety since high school. Ironically I think I am naturally quite chatty when I dont feel anxious. Around the right people im almost the loudest in the group. I got professional help, which really changed my life to be honest. I would highly recommend doing so.

This was me through high school. I was a great converstionalist on small groups or one-on-one, but I hated making small talk in large group settings. I've since gotten to where I feel like I'm able to be myself in large group settings as well, though I usually talk to small groups or one on one indepth rather than floating around and making small talk with everyone.

[Chiefs=Champions]

Originally Posted by NewChief

This was me through high school. I was a great converstionalist on small groups or one-on-one, but I hated making small talk in large group settings. I've since gotten to where I feel like I'm able to be myself in large group settings as well, though I usually talk to small groups or one on one indepth rather than floating around and making small talk with everyone.

Good on ya dude! I seem to think that nothing helps quite like repetition. The more you do it, the more you feel comfortable doing it. It always helps to have strategies to deal with episodes though, which is why I think it is important to seek professional help.

[Iconic]

Don't say you have SA, your just putting yourself in a box. I used to be like this until I confronted it. Talk to random people; smile and just say hi, you'd be surprised with the results... in fact this is how I got my first GF when I was 17.

[BWillie]

Wow I didn't know so many ppl had some of these social anxiety feelings. I'm probably more introverted than extroverted, but I had quite a bit of social anxiety up until college. I think it stemmed from grade school stuttering problems, which just maybe made me not want to talk much.

Nowadays, I don't have as much of a problem with it except in certain situations where I feel like I really need to "impress" someone AND I'm in unfamiliar territory. If I'm somewhere I'm comfortable with, with people I'm comfortable with, or without them, I'm very personable and have little to no social anxiety. It really is situational with me. Most of the time I'm talking to new people with ease at new events anywhere and everywhere and joking around. Just depends.

Honestly, alcohol goes a long way. Don't need to get shitfaced, just have a few, and you'll feel way better. That is one of the reasons why everybody loves alcohol in social situations, it's life's ice breaker. I don't really see what use pot would help, it would just make me sit in one place and be paranoid. Doesn't work at all for that kind of anxiety with me.

[Hammock Parties]

Just remember that it's OK to be an introvert.

[TLO]

Originally Posted by Douche Baggins

Just remember that it's OK to be an introvert.

I think this is key, for me anyway. I have this perecption that I need to be this outgoing person, out partying all the time, etc.

I'm happy with my introverted ways 99% of the time. But when I do go out, I don't want to be crippled by irrational fear.