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05-18-2022, 11:11 PM | #91 |
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well said cdcox ^
there is a good opportunity here to teach the kid to work harder and earn his place if he just isn't good and it's not something hard work can fix, accept his place or move on to something that is a more productive use of his time and talent. No shame there, and a lesson for life. the dad demanding more playing time by complaining and pressuring the coach won't help the kid in the end. Steady examples like that, i deserve this thing and shouldn't have to earn it or fight for it, could give the kid an entitlement mentality that will hurt him in life quite a bit |
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Don't do anything because it really doesn't ****ing matter. FFS, man.
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05-18-2022, 11:23 PM | #93 |
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I'm confused about your son's team next year. Will he change coaches or will his present coach move up with him? If there's a coaching change, then it's probably best you just keep your mouth shut. If the coach moves with the team and other parents have the same concern, it might be wise to speak to the club management.
Two of my grandkids play on very competitive teams in the KC metro and you do have to shell out a lot of cash for that. One grandkid plays on a National team, so that's even more. The question you have to ask yourself is would your kid be happier playing at a lower level or is he playing for you? |
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05-18-2022, 11:34 PM | #94 |
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He's 22, end of story.your kid is 8. Not going to be his last rodeo.
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Kids are resilient and don’t think about this as much as parents do. Support and tell him to play hard. That’s all you can do.
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05-19-2022, 04:42 AM | #96 |
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Also, competitive leagues at the age of 8 are a different ballgame if you’re talking like select soccer level. If that’s it and you’re paying big dollars for 8 year old soccer, let it play out.
My daughter played volleyball from K-12, spent 6 years at the competitive club level. There were many times my head wanted to explode. The kid has to want to change abs the kid has to be the one to talk to the coach. After that, then you can talk to the coach. If your kid isn’t ready for that, don’t play at that level… he’ll, he’s 8.
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Yeah and outside of church related sports leagues… practices are 100% equal time and focus. Games are not, unless you are more recreational than competitive.
I will say that 8 is pretty young to have the pressure, and if on a team of 8, your kid is admittedly in the bottom 3 … reset expectations.
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I felt the same way with my kids and soccer. So I became a Coach and ruled our league.
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Maybe we got a bit spoiled. His first coach was awesome and loved to work with and teach the kids. We had him for 3 seasons. Then we moved up and had another really good coach. Then his last 2 seasons he got some bad ones, first timers. We switched leagues this last year because the coach he had was more worried about her soccer career than coaching the kids. This guy we have now I think is genuinely well intentioned but very inexperienced. Especially when it comes to dealing with younger kids.
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As a middle school teacher I can tell you from experience that snowplow parenting is real. You are only talking about it here, but resist the urge to clear the path for your child. It is RUINING this generation. Parent your child on how to deal with adversity and to continue working hard.
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I should clarify that when I say he plays favorites, I mean he plays favorites. The main one being the son the team's Admin. The kid is fast but yeah. He can make the all the mistakes everyone else gets pulled for and never get pulled. If he does get pulled it's to get a drink then right back in.
Then I found out at one point that the coach sent out an offer to some of the kids on the team for private lessons. He did not make the offer to the entire team. Only 3 or 4 kids. The 3 that took him up on the offer play a lot even though they are not as good as some of the others. But can't piss off the parents or the side gig goes away, right? |
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