The official "Life's a Bitch" thread

[Fairplay]

Hang in there luv.

[BigRedChief]

Originally Posted by Saulbadguy

I don't think she is in her early 20's.

I'm still not a believer at any age of kicking someone when they are down. But maybe thats just me?

[Saulbadguy]

Originally Posted by BigRedChief

I'm still not a believer at any age of kicking someone when they are down. But maybe thats just me?

I'm trying to help - I was being serious with the mentor thing. She's posted many of her very poor financial and life decisions on this board. But I suppose that could be interpreted as kicking someone while they are down, but in some cases people need to hit rock bottom before they start to scratch their way back up.

[luv]

Originally Posted by Saulbadguy

The only thing in life that you can control are your own actions. You should probably get a mentor of some sort because it seems you make lots of bad decisions. And no, you probably shouldn't pose every life question and concern you have to the bulletin board. I think they hire out mentors, but I don't know where to look for one.

Not everyone is as smart as you. I'm sure you've figured that out. I own up to the decisions I make in life. I just seem to be going through a spell where it seems like things are happening to me instead of me making things happen. Yes, I was incredibly stupid for the financial decisions I made while I was with this guy, but I'm also paying for them. I was getting my emotions out of the way and making headway with putting things together, then my company decides to sell me. I didn't ask for that. That wasn't a decision I made.

For the most part, I'm not one who makes bad choices. I'm unlucky in the relationship department. I share that here in order to 1) see if anyone's been in a similar situation, and 2) it is entertainment value for some here. Don't feel sorry for me, oh wise one. I don't need your pity. I just needed to vent. You can continue to look down your nose to me like you always do. Just think, if I didn't post my idiotic stories and situations, you'd be picking on someone else who might actually take it to heart.

[Saulbadguy]

Originally Posted by luv

Not everyone is as smart as you. I'm sure you've figured that out. I own up to the decisions I make in life. I just seem to be going through a spell where it seems like things are happening to me instead of me making things happen. Yes, I was incredibly stupid for the financial decisions I made while I was with this guy, but I'm also paying for them. I was getting my emotions out of the way and making headway with putting things together, then my company decides to sell me. I didn't ask for that. That wasn't a decision I made.

For the most part, I'm not one who makes bad choices. I'm unlucky in the relationship department. I share that here in order to 1) see if anyone's been in a similar situation, and 2) it is entertainment value for some here. Don't feel sorry for me, oh wise one. I don't need your pity. I just needed to vent. You can continue to look down your nose to me like you always do. Just think, if I didn't post my idiotic stories and situations, you'd be picking on someone else who might actually take it to heart.

YOU are making the bad choices - bad luck is bad luck, but don't try and go blaming any part of your problems on bad luck. Plus, all of your decisions are related to one another some how. You made the decision to stay with the company when you knew ahead of time they were looking to sell, if I recall correctly. I don't feel sorry for you, but I just wonder if you would listen to the people on this board once in awhile, would you be in the same situation you are in now?

[luv]

Originally Posted by Saulbadguy

YOU are making the bad choices - bad luck is bad luck, but don't try and go blaming any part of your problems on bad luck. Plus, all of your decisions are related to one another some how. You made the decision to stay with the company when you knew ahead of time they were looking to sell, if I recall correctly. I don't feel sorry for you, but I just wonder if you would listen to the people on this board once in awhile, would you be in the same situation you are in now?

I had just gotten a raise at work a month ago. We had been acquired by a different company in the past, but nothing changed where we were at. My boss told me that our portion of the company had been sold about 4 hours before they announced it to everyone as a whole. You honestly think I wouldn't have already been job hunting if I'd known in advance that I'd be taking a big cut in pay? My god, you must think I'm a complete moron. No wonder you treat me the way you do.

[Bugeater]

Originally Posted by luv

I just seem to be going through a spell where it seems like things are happening to me instead of me making things happen.

Heh, I know that feeling all too well. I've been going thru one of those spells for 3 years, hopefully yours doesn't last as long.

Originally Posted by Saulbadguy

YOU are making the bad choices - bad luck is bad luck, but don't try and go blaming any part of your problems on bad luck. Plus, all of your decisions are related to one another some how. You made the decision to stay with the company when you knew ahead of time they were looking to sell, if I recall correctly. I don't feel sorry for you, but I just wonder if you would listen to the people on this board once in awhile, would you be in the same situation you are in now?

Just because someone makes what turns out to be the wrong choice doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision. No one knows what the future holds. Lord knows there's a few decisions I'd like have back, but at the time I made them I felt they were the right thing to do based on the information I had at the time.

[Redrum_69]

Originally Posted by GoBo

Just because someone makes what turns out to be the wrong choice doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision. No one knows what the future holds. Lord knows there's a few decisions I'd like have back, but at the time I made them I felt they were the right thing to do based on the information I had at the time.

grape gatorade is a helluva drug

[Rausch]

Originally Posted by Redrum_69

grape gatorade is a helluva drug

This post is like Bobby Brown saying Red Bull pumps him up like nohting before...

[sedated]

Originally Posted by GoBo

Just because someone makes what turns out to be the wrong choice doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision.

so you would consider co-signing a loan for a guy you've just started dating a "good choice gone bad"?

[Saulbadguy]

Originally Posted by sedated

so you would consider co-signing a loan for a guy you've just started dating a "good choice gone bad"?

Yeah - you should probably do something about that, like now.

[Bugeater]

Originally Posted by sedated

so you would consider co-signing a loan for a guy you've just started dating a "good choice gone bad"?

Heh, I wasn't aware that she did that, obviously I haven't been paying close enough attention. If we're talking about that specifically then no, that's usually not a good idea, it sounds like she made a decision with her heart instead of her head and that will burn you nearly every time. Although I'm not going to pile on her for that as I learned that lesson many times the hard way myself.

[little jacob]

Originally Posted by sedated

so you would consider co-signing a loan for a guy you've just started dating a "good choice gone bad"?

nobody should EVER cosign a loan for ANYONE. i would not cosign a loan for my best friend, my child, my parents, the old lady's parents, no one.

if they did not already have a long history of not being trustworthy in finance they wouldn't have to be asking for a cosigner. a bank with millions and millions in financial backing won't trust them with a few thousand bucks. why would a person with little or no financial backing assume the risk if Bank of America won't??

if you cosign a loan, you should just assume that you're going to have to pay all of that balance off.

[luv]

Originally Posted by GoBo

Just because someone makes what turns out to be the wrong choice doesn't necessarily mean it was a bad decision. No one knows what the future holds. Lord knows there's a few decisions I'd like have back, but at the time I made them I felt they were the right thing to do based on the information I had at the time.

No, it was a bad decision. I knew it even as I did it. I let myself fall too hard too fast. And I'm also more trusting than I need to be. People can tell you shit until they're blue in the face. Until you go out and make the stupid mistake for yourself, you just don't learn. I spent my whole life learning from my older brother's mistakes. Guess I just needed to make a few of my own.

[bogey]

Originally Posted by luv

No, it was a bad decision. I knew it even as I did it. I let myself fall too hard too fast. And I'm also more trusting than I need to be. People can tell you shit until they're blue in the face. Until you go out and make the stupid mistake for yourself, you just don't learn. I spent my whole life learning from my older brother's mistakes. Guess I just needed to make a few of my own.

We all make mistakes. I once loaned my oldest brother $500.00. It took years to get that back. My wife never lets me forget it.