Life S.O. wearing ex's jewelry? - Page 2

**loochy** · 03-02-2010, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

This. Maybe it's just a nice necklace. There's no reason to make her take it of if she really just likes the necklace. I doubt she's holding onto it because every time she puts it on she thinks of him.

Hell, I still have a jacket that my ex got me and I like the jacket. I don't even think of her anymore when I put it on. I'd be more than a little pissed if my GF wanted me to get rid of it.

Miles · 03-02-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

Yep. Only if is more than just a piece of jewelry to her does it become an issue.

**Rain Man** · 03-02-2010, 04:42 PM

I still wear a Disney World t-shirt I got on a vacation with a girlfriend more than 20 years ago. I don't think it bothers my wife, but maybe I should ask.

Jilly · 03-02-2010, 04:46 PM

I think jewelry is a little different than clothing. Unless the clothing was actually the ex's clothing. Like, I'm not gonna go around wearing my ex's button down shirt around the house.
I'd say if it's just costume stuff, then no worries, but anything with value - monetary or otherwise should probably not really be something she should wear.

sedated · 03-02-2010, 04:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Jilly

I think jewelry is a little different than clothing.

how so? they are both appearance accessories.

do women actually put an emotional attachment on jewelry? Guys only give that stuff so we can get laid or get the bitch to stop nagging us.

Jilly · 03-02-2010, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

how so? they are both appearance accessories.

do women actually put an emotional attachment on jewelry? Guys only give that stuff so we can get laid or get the bitch to stop nagging us.

yes, a lot of women do. Well, I would, simply because I RARELY get jewelry and it would mean something that he would pick it out for me like that.

sedated · 03-02-2010, 04:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Jilly

it would mean something that he would pick it out for me like that.

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".

I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

Jilly · 03-02-2010, 05:02 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".

I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

I have a twinge of guilt if I'm even reading a book the ex gave me. So maybe I'm not a good one to ask. It could also be that my husband HATES my ex.

Sandyskc · 03-02-2010, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".

I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

It is rare for guys to spend the time to do this, so it is special when they do. I keep all the cards I get because they were picked out just for me.

**Rain Man** · 03-02-2010, 05:20 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".

I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

The card itself isn't really the issue. It's the time I spend interviewing the card writer to be sure that he or she has the skill to capture the right sentiment, and then working with the writer on draft after draft to get the wording just right. And then looking over all of the proofs of the cover art, identifying the art that matches the concepts the writer is working on, and then working on various versions, adding a unicorn here or moving a flower there. Producing the card is easy compared to the work that I put in before it gets to that stage.

El Jefe · 03-03-2010, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by sedated

but anything he gives you, he "picked out for you".

I guess this sheds some light on why women love cards so much. I see it as an overpriced generic peice of cardstock; she apparently goes the next 2 days with a mental gif of me wandering the isles of hallmark trying to find the perfect card just for her.

Katipan · 03-02-2010, 04:53 PM

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Originally Posted by sedated

how so? they are both appearance accessories.

do women actually put an emotional attachment on jewelry? Guys only give that stuff so we can get laid or get the bitch to stop nagging us.

weeeell

I have a few things that used to belong to my Psycho. I would love to wear this warm ass ASU wrestling hoody thing. But it has his last name on the back and it would probably irritate the current love.

I kept the thing for my kids. I don't wear it for my love. I hold no more emotional value on it than that, but hell if I wear it.

I gave back most of our jewelry but the few pieces I still have are stored away also for my daughter. huh. Apparently I'm more pack rat than sentimentalist.

BIG_DADDY · 03-02-2010, 04:47 PM

Just look at it and laugh one time. She will ask you what you are laughing at to which you respond "that necklace just shows what poor tast your ex has, pretty funny" and move on. She may wear it a few more times but that's it.

CoMoChief · 03-02-2010, 04:48 PM

It's a piece of jewelry. Who ****ing cares. Would you have known otherwise had she not told you it was from a previous BF?

El Jefe · 03-03-2010, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Rain Man

I'd draw the line at wedding rings or engagement rings.

Other than that, the key is the symbolism. Does she just think it's a necklace, or does she think it's a reminder of the deep and abiding love she once had for Percival or Chauncey or whatever his name is?

It's of no deep love or anything like that, they dated a couple years ago, and she was very young at the time. It was a bit of an ugly break between the two of them.

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Originally Posted by loochy

This. Maybe it's just a nice necklace. There's no reason to make her take it of if she really just likes the necklace. I doubt she's holding onto it because every time she puts it on she thinks of him.
Hell, I still have a jacket that my ex got me and I like the jacket. I don't even think of her anymore when I put it on. I'd be more than a little pissed if my GF wanted me to get rid of it.

Good point, she brought it up, and then asked me if I didn't want her to wear it, and I didn't make a big deal. I figured to play this one on the DL, because I thought it wasn't a big deal, and didn't want to make a mountain out of a mole hill either.

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Originally Posted by CoMoChief

It's a piece of jewelry. Who ****ing cares. Would you have known otherwise had she not told you it was from a previous BF?

No I wouldn't have known, good point.

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Jilly MVP Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Lee's Summit Casino cash: $9984925	I think jewelry is a little different than clothing. Unless the clothing was actually the ex's clothing. Like, I'm not gonna go around wearing my ex's button down shirt around the house. I'd say if it's just costume stuff, then no worries, but anything with value - monetary or otherwise should probably not really be something she should wear. __________________ "In most of our human relationships, we spend much of our time reassuring one another that our costumes of identity are on straight." — Ram Dass
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