New Dating Megathread

[Buck]

Luv's old thread is in the HOC for being too big.

Post all your dating questions, comments, concerns, advice, and scrutiny in here!

[Aspengc8]

Originally Posted by PGM

I like it as a supplemental option. Some great girls on there....free sites on the other hand...

Match is where I met my wife. Had enough of the local scene so when It was time to start thinking about marriage/family (when I hit 30), I signed up and set my requirements high. The only requirements I put down were college education, 80K+ salary and must love football. It actually found quite a few candidates so It turned out well. Found a nice gal who has been a teacher in a ritzy school district for the last 9 years, and milked the shit out of their income 'step' system to set herself up well. 4 years so far and a beautiful little girl about to turn 2.

I highly recommend match.

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by Pam Oliver's Forehead

That's why you get on a dating site.

You KNOW they're looking for a "real" date.

Been there, done that. Did Match for a few months recently, and although I went on a lot of dates, it was too much work getting there and none of the relationships stuck. I got really tired of sifting through profiles and writing messages to which I would only occasionally get responses. Maybe I'll go back to it at some point, but not now.

Originally Posted by Eureka

Dude, you won! Atleast she told you right away instead of leading you on for weeks/months. Now you know "da game" and you'll be a little more wise to it. It sucks sometimes but it's just part of the dance. Chicks on dating websites can be the same.

If you haven't texted her back yet then text her something like: "no worries"......
I enjoyed hanging with you tonight. I'm in no rush either. Buddy's ? :-)

Either move on or play "da game".

Nah, that seems like a bit of a fools' errand. Before typing up my little rant, I called her. She admitted that she knew all along, but was trying to be "polite". I was perfectly genial in my response, and said I was open to hanging out again without any romantic pretense (which is true). Honestly, I'm not sure that a relationship would work anyway considering how poorly she communicates.

Originally Posted by PGM

You got let down gently brah. Happens to us all. I have heard worse excuses than that though.

True enough. I was frustrated by what seemed to be a sudden turn, though, and needed to vent a bit. Figured that this thread was as good a place as any.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

True enough. I was frustrated by what seemed to be a sudden turn, though, and needed to vent a bit. Figured that this thread was as good a place as any.

The old blindside is the worst

[Buck]

Just ask every girl you see, "Fancy a shag, baby?"

Guaranteed knee deep in pussy.

[Pasta Little Brioni]

Originally Posted by Buck

Just ask every girl you see, "Fancy a shag, baby?"

Guaranteed knee deep in pussy.

....and STDs from the ones it would actually work on!!

[Dayze]

Originally Posted by Canofbier

[teenage rant]

I went out for drinks tonight with a chick from my apartment complex, whom I met during our Halloween bash last Thursday. I called her to ask her out, she says "I'd love to" and all that, and we finally went out tonight.

We have a very nice time, and I make at least a few flirtatious comments referring directly to the date we're currently on. After a couple hours of enjoyable discussion, we leave (because we both have early morning work things to do), and I feel pretty good about it.

I'm sitting at home, sipping at a rum & coke before bed, and I get a text from her saying that "I had a nice time, but I had no idea that you were asking me on a date! We hardly know each other! I'm not in a position to date right now, but I hope that we can be friends, haha!"

I cannot emphasize how obvious this date scenario was. Like any man, I've had my fair share of rejection, but it frustrates me like hell that she hesitated to tell me that she didn't see things as a date until well after the "date" culminated. I feel far more let-down than I would have if she had asserted her position outright (at which point we'd have happily shared some beers as new friends), but she purposefully led me to believe that she was interested in some sort of relationship during the "date" so that she wouldn't have to "give me the bad news" in person. For women, that's considered to be "tactful". For men, it would be "leading someone on".

Pardon me, but that's absolute bullshit. Women nowadays are plagued by inequities in income and social status, but so many of them choose to perpetuate their situation by using only the social constructs that benefit them. Neither I (nor any reasonable man) is encouraged to be anything but direct, and the same standard ought to be applied to women.

I'm one of the bigger supporters of gender/sex equality in nearly every aspect of life, but I feel like an asshole for being convinced that behavior like this (from liberal women, no less) practically guarantees their continued inequality by a majority of men who support it.

I'll be over this specific scenario tomorrow, but **** this shit. I'm tired of being proven wrong, and I'm tired of seeing supposed "progressives" turn out to be nothing more than social opportunists.

Reading through this before posting it, I'm inclined to go get some cheese to accompany my whine, but since I've typed it all out I may as well post it. Or not. You can be the judge of that.

[\teenage rant]

I read an interesting article somewhere, that read something to the effect of making it clear you're asking a woman out on a date. So instead of 'we should go out sometime" etc, we should say something like " i'd like to take you out on a date and buy you dinner" etc.

There were lots of comments by women who gave the same BS line she did saying "Oh...I didn't know we were on a 'date'" etc.

[Canofbier]

Originally Posted by Dayze

I read an interesting article somewhere, that read something to the effect of making it clear you're asking a woman out on a date. So instead of 'we should go out sometime" etc, we should say something like " i'd like to take you out on a date and buy you dinner" etc.

There were lots of comments by women who gave the same BS line she did saying "Oh...I didn't know we were on a 'date'" etc.

I definitely used the word "date" on more than one occasion last night, and she didn't bat an eyelash.

[Dayze]

well shit...that sucks.

[Skyy God]

Originally Posted by Discuss Thrower

3.2 English student at a decent Midwestern private college and one year experience in freelance sports reporting.

Journalism, lol. The outlook for that field has been poor for years and years.

[Hammock Parties]

What is an appropriate "1-month of dating" gift? I like this girl and am now ruled by my loins.

[Skyy God]

Originally Posted by Pam Oliver's Forehead

What is an appropriate "1-month of dating" gift? I like this girl and am now ruled by my loins.

Facial.

[Dayze]

check to see if there is a Groupon first.

[Dayze]

Originally Posted by Cave Johnson

Facial.

If she agrees, she's a keeper

[Buck]

I think ex-gf trying to look at my facebook page based on the fact that when we broke up I told her I was gonna block her so I didn't have to see her face anymore and she had access to FB and just blocked me instead.

Now I'm seeing her posts and stuff so I think she unblocked me to try and look at my page. We recently talked a couple times.

[Buck]

Remember when I said I was off pussy? Well I lied. Chick from work who is down to just have sex came over (I work in a huge building and never see this person at all at work, though it is still probably stupid). She sent me this today from what happened last night. She also sent me a pic without the top on and there's a lot more bruising but I ain't bout to post her tittays on the internet.

I think I'm addicted to sex.